#but personally I do agree that a degree of non-attachment is necessary and can co-exist with caring deeply for certain values

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@tvpeongsstuff​ I will have to plant a different flag on this hill I’m afraid.

I absolutely agree that Yoda’s lineage are....not the most well adjusted generally. However, I think if anything, this results in increased awareness of the importance of appearances and propriety, possibly due to the scrutiny of ‘descending’ from the Grandmaster of the order. Or, as could be argued from the arrangement of the council, more leeway due to nepotism. Actually, both are possible considering the potential different between Yoda or the council’s ‘official’ stance, versus temple-wide opinion. 

I think that the jedi are supposed to practise non-attachment and follow the code, putting their duty above their feeling etc. In that way, marriage is a pretty solid indicator of an attachment, as you literally make vows that could be interpreted as contradictory to the code, or symbolically placing your partner above your duty. But on the other hand, some Jedi are canonically married and sanctioned by the council, like Ki Adi Mundi and his multiple wives (for cultural preservation I think?) so there are exceptions. I think marriage wouldn’t necessarily be against the rules for Jedi, but it would cause scrutiny and disapproval. The Jedi can’t stop their members from getting married and probably wouldn’t have kicked Anakin out, but they likely would have checked he understood his duty over his attachments (which....he didn’t) and based on that, select his assignments more carefully, ie no more working with Padmé, nothing where he'd need to be impartial towards the senate etc.

Technically having kids is possibly fine as well, just I don't believe a Jedi could be a responsible parent and a member of the order, because can you imagine babysitting and trying to save the galaxy? But theoretically, sex- or even a relationship- which results in children where the partner is fine raising them alone would work. But for most people, that wouldn’t be possible without attachment and the Jedi would probably be suspended or face some sanction. I can’t imagine the Jedi would have sex police investigating their relationships to make sure they stay casual or short term or whatever, but I think long-term or formalised relationships and especially children are probably frowned on, and would result in some form of sanction like suspension from active duty. It’s a lot harder to practice non-attachment when it’s YOUR wife or child rather than the abstract so I imagine its not banned, but also very much isn’t allowed in between the lines.

Whether the Jedi would expel a member (from their home and culture, also) for breaking these rules I find more contentious- outside of wartime, for theological/ideological differences rather than things like becoming a Sith or bombing the temple? Much to think about.