#break down the gender binary

[sixpossumsinaclownsuit]

Unpopular LGBTQ+ opinions, from someone who is trans/gender-nonconforming and queer…

Content Warning: potentially triggering topics below regarding physical and social dysphoria

Hot Take: Amab Women/Transfemmes should not compete with Afab Women/Femme-presenting athletes. Please hear me out… 

I think the same goes for afab Men/Transmascs with Amab Men/masc-presenting. Simply because, despite all the other social hurt-feeling Christian bullshit surrounding Republican ideas, there is one core concept that cannot be ignored…

Amab people have higher athletic performance averages than afab people. You see it in P.E. scores… guys have to have a 12 minute mile and girls have to have a 14 minute mile, etc etc… there's evolutionary evidence and scientific research behind these numbers, and while the binary addressing and social treatment of these numbers is pretty much all bullshit, the numbers still exist. 

"But there are plenty of cis/afab women who outperform cis/amab men" 

But why of course. But this isn't about individuals, this is about averages, averages that have long since been acknowledged which is why we have the separately gendered football/american soccer teams, track teams, etc… 

This is where people get pissed at me from both sides. Ready? Here it is…

Do away with the gendered bullshit all together. No women's team or men's team that is inherently binary and ineffectual. 

Women and men (afab and amab people) have different body types and structures, even after surgery and hormone treatment. But team sports should have room for both types of bodies… shorter, stouter bodies and abilities have certain positions in American sports like football and baseball, and I'm sure there's other sports likewise. I'm track/field there's pole vaulters and hurdle jumpers, sprinters and long distance. 

We see it all the time in wrestling, both traditional wrestling teams and performance wrestling like the WWE. Wrestlers are determined by weight class and ability, not gender. You see Rhea Ripley absolutely floor men, and vice versa. Why can't all sports be determined this way, by physique and skill alone?

Tl;dr, body types and physical structure based on sex defined at birth cannot be ignored in an environment dependent on physical ability. This does not mean to deny trans people ability to identify the way they want or to play on the teams/in the sports that they want, but rather to eliminate the topic of gender altogether and make a unisex world of sports where physical capacity is the only deciding factor in an athlete's scoring, standing and team position. 

[sealrock]

live out and proud.

[number1villainstan]

The two stories/series/media creations that make me want to gnaw on the drywall right now are Revolutionary Girl Utena, a masterful deconstruction of tropes rooted in sexism and queerphobia but with pervasive racist/imperialist elements* in the background, and Dune, a masterful deconstruction of tropes rooted in racism and imperialism but with pervasive sexist/queerphobic** elements in the background. it's hilarious it's like they're made to cancel each other out

[butchrocket]

some of you people hate lesbians so fucking much and it breaks my heart

[boyslit]

I'm getting real, real tired of the careless gendering of genderless characters

(if you see the post don't harass the person, I left the name off for a reason. harassers lose kneecap privileges)

I guess if they play in a different language I'll forgive bc i don't know the pronoun situations beyond English. but since the post is in English. 🤨

[ventricles-of-steel]

ABSOLUTELY this

the idea that gender identity is naturally binary is a social fiction. no one is only attracted to men or only attracted to women because those binary gender identifications manifest in a million different ways. trans people are men and women the moment they identify as such. women can be masc and men can be femme. no single thing unites all women except their identification as women. so in terms of sexual attraction based on gender, you can be attracted to traditional masculinity or femininity, but not solely “men” or “women”. identifying as straight or gay describes your inclination towards traditionally gendered characteristics, not the gender identification of those you’re attracted to

Several of my friends who previously self-identified as bi are realizing they've lost interest in men, generally speaking

A friend of mine who's identified as a lesbian her whole life fell in love with a very sweet and shy man

I lost interest in men a few years ago, fell in love with a non-binary person, and now I give them their T shots

Life and love are unpredictable

And "queer" is a great word that all of us like and self-identify with (along with our other, more specific labels), and I love that no matter what else happens, we're still, always queer

[mari-reads]

I tune out dating/relationship advise targeted videos in general but AS SOON as I hear someone start that feminine vs. masculine energy bullshit I’m OUT.

It’s 1000% just some binary tradition social expectations wrapped in a pseudo “vibes” psych bow. It’s always women fighting in the trenches of cishet dating trying to new age rationalize shit. All this bs is subjective preferences stop prescribing and essentializing it.

[steveyockey]

To be aware you might be trans but unwilling to do anything about it is to create endlessly bigger boxes within which to contain yourself. When you are a child, that box might encompass only yourself and your parents. By the time you are a gainfully employed adult, that box will contain multitudes, and the thought of disrupting it will grow ever more unthinkable. So you cease to think of yourself as a person on some level; you think not of what you want but what everybody expects from you. You do your best not to make waves, and you apologize, if only implicitly, for existing. You stop being real and start being a construct, and eventually, you decide the construct is just who you are, and you swaddle yourself up in it, and maybe you die there. There is still time until there isn’t.

This reading of TV Glow’s deliberately anticlimactic, noncathartic ending cuts against the transition narrative you typically see in movies and TV, in which a trans person self-accepts, transitions, and lives a happier life. Owen gets trapped in a space where he knows what he must do to live an authentic life but simply refuses to take those steps because, well, burying yourself alive is a terrifying thing to do. The transition narrative posits a trans existence as, effectively, a binary switch between “man” and “woman” that gets flipped one way or another, but to make our lives so binary is to miss how trans existences possess an inherent liminality.

Humans’ lives unfold in a constant state of becoming until death, but trans people are uniquely keyed in to what this means thanks to the simple fact of our identities. You can get lost in that liminality, too, forever trapped in a midnight realm of your own making, stuck between what you believe is true (I am a nice man with a good family and a good job, and I love my life) and what you know, deep in your most terrified heart of hearts, is real (I am a girl suffocating in a box).

And yet if you want to read the film as being about the dangerous allure of nostalgia, you’re not wrong. I Saw the TV Glow totally supports that interpretation, too! But in tempting you with that reading, the film creates a trap for cis viewers that will be all too familiar to trans viewers. Somewhere in the middle of Maddy’s story about The Pink Opaque being real, you will make a choice between “This kid has lost it!” and “No. Go with her, Owen,” and in asking you to make that choice, TV Glow is simulating the act of self-accepting a trans identity.

See, the grimmer read of the film’s ending truly is a nihilistic one. It leaves no hope, no potential for growth, no exit. Yet you must actively choose to read that ending as nihilistic. If you are cis and the end of I Saw the TV Glow left you with a gnawing sense of dissatisfaction, a weird but hard-to-pin-down feeling that something had broken, and a melancholy bordering on horror — congratulations, this movie gave you contact-high gender dysphoria.

In an infinite number of possible universes, there is at least one where I am still living ���as a man,” embracing my fictionality, avoiding looking at how much more raw and real I feel when I “pretend” to be a woman. I think about that guy sometimes. I hope he’s okay.

Consider, then, my cis reader, that TV Glow is for both you and me, but it is maybe most of all for him. I hope he sees it. I hope he breaks down crying in the bathroom afterward. I hope he, after so many years locked inside himself, hears the promise of more life through the hiss of TV static.

Emily St. James, “I Saw the TV Glow’s Ending Is Full of Hope, If You Want It to Be,” Vulture. June 4, 2024.

[vampire-core]

[id: the first image is a reply by @.demilypyro that reads: That doesnt sound very cis

the second image is a reply by @.homosexualmorelikehomiesexual that reads: respectfully adding to this in agreement with op: i think its true that no, it DOESNT sound very cis, but thats bc according to the very same gender system that sucks so much, anyone who disagrees or complains about it is Other, and i think thats......part of the exact problem op is talking abt..? so yeh idk. speaking as a trans person myself- op youre valid youre right and you should say it i support you go cis boy go

#this is what i call cis+ #youre cis but youve seen the void. the truth. and then you pulled back and went Ok Got It. Keeping My Gender Though #which i think is just as respectable. like amen #consciously opting into your assigned gender when you know you don’t actually have to..... #thats cis plus. cis prime. cis upgraded. you feel? /end]

I’m a cis man sure but i also wanna opt out of the gender binary. None of that shit is my fault or my responsibility and i don’t want any part of it

[thesituationroom]

i’m starting to think you guys were lying about wanting to break down the gender binary

[curiosityschild]

It's all connected. I mean... it's ALL connected but specifically the what happens when you start looking deeply into a definition and you notice that it's not quite as black and white as it appeared on the surface. When you start erasing the hard edges of a box you drew in your mind and realizing that maybe all those other edges of all those other boxes are a bit too harsh as well. You can't dig into one subject and learn that it is so much more complicated than you thought without then applying that to other subjects. Once you start to look at the world and definitions and 'simple truths' in a certain way it's hard to stop. And it can be scary! To watch everything you thought you knew crumble down around you! But it also makes the world so much more beautiful! So much more wonderful! When you scrape away that superficial certainty and find a million questions hiding underneath it can be frustrating it can be intimidating but it also opens up so much! Those were questions you never thought to ask before and now you can ask them! Even if you never get an answer! I don't think I believe anymore that there will come a time when humans know everything there is to know. And that shakes me to my core, it scares me! But it's also so wonderful!!! It's so wonderful to think that there might always be wonder in the world! I wish I could express this to people. I wish I could take people by the hands and say stop! Stop clinging to what you think is true just because it's neat and orderly! The world is chaos! The world will always be chaos! But isn't it beautiful???

[ugly-anarchist]

Let me break it down for the people who don't understand

Agab is not your sex, agab is an event that happened

Sex is a social construct the exact same way that gender is

When an intersex person is assigned male/female that does not mean that they are male/female. That means they are intersex but a doctor decided to arbitrarily place them into the sex binary of, essentially, "deformed female" or "deformed male" because they do not believe that intersex is natural and they want to adhere to the made up sex binary

When you speak about agab as something you are rather than an event that occurred you are reinforcing that idea.

Intersex people aren't just deformed versions of "males and females", we are intersex! Our agab is not our sex! Stop putting people into boxes based on agab! You're being intersexist!

[byteofsoup]

kissing judith butler with tongue

[kotoku]

Hi, can I request an Aventurine with an Inmortal! s/o who's also non-binary plz 👀

You're free to reject it if u want, just giving u an idea... 😅

ᴀᴠᴇɴᴛᴜʀɪɴᴇ ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴀɴ ɪᴍᴍᴏʀᴛᴀʟ! ꜱ/ᴏ

pairings - aventurine x immortal! reader

content - reader is non-binary/ gender-neutral terms/ established relationship/ aventurine is in for a shock/ reincarnation themes

warnings - teeny angst towards the end

⋘ ʟᴏᴀᴅɪɴɢ... ⋙

↻ You probably wouldn’t have told him about your immortality, figuring that you could tell him when the time is right

↻ Turns out, that time is when you’ve been brutally wounded by an enemy, Aventurine nearly having a heart attack when you show up with multiple wounds and cuts that seemed life-threatening

“How are you..alive??”

“..Surprise..?”

↻ When you break the news to Aventurine, he doesn’t react at first, seemingly taking in everything you had explain 

↻ A part of him feels devastated, is he just a fleeting chapter in your book? A memory that would slowly be forgotten over time? But he also feels relieved, you couldn’t die so he didn’t have to worry about your death anytime soon

↻ Aventurine slowly comes to terms with your immortality, always inquiring about your past and what it’s like

↺ He’s probably curious about the healing process and the damage you take, asking about any experiences you had during battles where it took you a while to heal (the morbid curiosity this guy has…)

↻ If you’re in a battle with Aventurine, you’d probably throw yourself in front of him to defend him from any attacks if his shields aren’t up

↺ He hates your recklessness but also appreciates it

↻ You, as expected, stay the same as Aventurine continues to age, watching him slowly gain wrinkles and his hair fade away (if he doesn’t die to something else, of course)

↺ You’d be pretty devastated about him, mourning his death for a long, long time before suddenly, you see a familiar head of blond and magenta-cyan eyes

“..How– How can this be..?”

↻ If Aventurine were to be reincarnated, you’d be thrilled but also a bit sad, all the memories you shared together, reduced to nothing, as you stand before him as a stranger

“Do I..know you?”

↻ You could feel yourself breaking down all over again, mourning a person who was dead but alive before your eyes 

↺ You’d probably avoid interfering with his reincarnation, wanting fate to run its course

↺ And run its course it did

↻ The reincarnation of your past lover falls for you yet again, and it is only now that every person you have ever loved in the past, resembled Aventurine in some way (whether it was his blond hair, unique eyes, or personality, they all had something in common)

↻ In every life time of his, you were there

↻ You were eternally tied to his soul; soulmates

⋘ ᴄᴏᴍᴘʟᴇᴛᴇ! ⋙

[genderqueerdykes]

btw you're allowed to go off on people who misgender trans women who are also men and say that trans women can't identify that way. you're allowed to go off on anyone who polices transfeminine identities. the amount of people who discredit trans women who are also men, transneutral, transmasculine, agender, multigender, genderfluid, polygender, gender variant, gnc or any other experience other than "binary trans woman" is staggering.

people will literally freak the fuck out at you for saying trans women can literally also be men and that doesn't invalidate their womanhood. people will freak the hell out at you and tell you that transfeminine butches don't belong in the community, and especially not transfems who are intersex, bigender, multigender, genderfluid, genderqueer or "too masculine" or transfems who "look/sound like men". they freak out at you, you're allowed to fight back.

people will freak the fuck out and misgender trans women who use it/its and assert that's now how a trans woman would want to identify. people will freak the fuck out and tell masculine transfems that they HAVE to be more feminine or else they're a threat to the community and they're not a real transfemme. people will tell pre- and never transition trans girls that they're a problem or that they will never be a part of the community until they go through medical and social transition

people love to push transfeminine people into the most narrow, restrictive boxes possible so they can mentally put us away on a shelf and forget about us. the smaller they make us, the easier it is to forget about us. people will literally lose their minds if someone starts talking about transfemininity for a few posts or minutes at a time, especially when it's non binary transfemininity.

transfemmes who step outside of the binary are a huge "threat" to no one except people who make it a problem in their own minds. a pre or never transition transfem is not invading a space they belong in. trans women cannot invade their own spaces. transfeminine people are allowed to have complicated genders. trans women are allowed to identify as men without it invalidating their identities. trans women are allowed to have vast and complicated gender experiences

trans women do not have to restrict ourselves into the most easy to digest identities possible for the sake of sucking up to queers who hate us. trans women are allowed to be loud, hairy, muscular, tall, big, broad chested, narrow hipped, fat, "ugly", and masculine. trans women are allowed to break the binary and shake up what your idea of femininity and womanhood look like.

genderfuckery does not belong to any AGAB or identity. genderfuckery is not off limits to AMAB, intersex, and transfeminine people. trans women are allowed to play with gender. trans women are allowed to not abandon their manhood if it's still a part of their life. trans women are allowed to exist outside of a binary created by everyone else but us. we are allowed to defy your expectations of what a woman and/or femme "should" be, and it doesn't invalidate or woman/femmehood.

you're allowed to go the fuck off on people who say these things invalidate our woman/femmehood. we don't have to take it anymore. it IS transphobia when this happens. it IS transmisogyny when people tell us these things. we are allowed to fight back. we are allowed to not take this lying down anymore. trans women are allowed to stand up for ourselves, and you are, too.

[slayfics]

Eijiro confesses his feelings to you and Katsuki.

Kiribaku x Reader

1,600 words~

You turned the page in the book as you sunk more into Eijiro's bed.

"UGH!" I'm tired of studying!" You exclaimed, unable to hold in your frustration anymore.

"Same- let's take a break," Eijiro concluded setting aside his book.

"Tch- no wonder you damn extras are always complaining about the exams. You don't work hard enough!" Katsuki barked at you both.

"Awe- come on Bakugo we deserve a break," Eijiro pleaded. "Plus... I kind of wanted to talk to you both about something."

"What's wrong?" Bakugo asked his friend curiously.

"Nothing's wrong I just-" Eijiro began to say before being cut off by Katsuki.

"Yes, there is. You got that stupid look in your eye. Just tell us," He demanded.

"Well ok... here it goes... so I uh- I have a crush I guess-" Eijiro began.

"Aweeee~" You began to say in a sing-song voice. Katsuki grunted and rolled his eyes looking back at his studying materials.

"Don't be mean Bakugo!" You spat and knocked the studying materials out of his hand.

"HEY!" He began to yell at you before Eijiro spoke up again.

"You guys, come on! I really need help!"

"Fine! Just be quick and spit it out. This shit makes me uncomfortable," Katsuki replied.

"I like um someone, and I just don't know what to do about it..." Eijiro finished.

"Fucking tell them and stop bugging us about it," Katsuki said bluntly.

"Don't listen to him," you said giving Katsuki a playful shove.

"God damn it extra! THIS IS YOUR FINAL WARNING!" Katsuki yelled at you, frustrated by your playfulness.

You ignored Katsuki and continued talking to Eijiro. "As much as I hate to admit it, Bakugo's right. Just be honest with her," you said smiling at him.

"Oh well um- I just don't know how they will react," Eijiro said, Katsuki stayed silent with his arms crossed, his disdain for this conversation all too obvious.

"Oh, they? I'm sorry for assuming Kirishima! Is this a boy? Or wait, non-binary?"

"N-no- well I mean k-kind of-?" Eijiro said, stuttering his words suddenly.

"Oh! They must be gender fluid?" You asked.

"Um- Uh- I uh- I don't know- but- that's not the point!" Eijiro said, starting to get flustered as he looked between you and Katsuki nervously.

"The hell?" Katsuki grumbled, raising an eyebrow. "Why are you being so damn weird about this shitty hair? Who the fuck is it anyway?"

"I uh... I don't know if I can say yet- well maybe- I don't know," Eijiro said, letting out a big sigh and hiding his face in his hands.

"Sorry, are we overwhelming you? Just tell us how to help. We're here for you Kirishima." You said, patting him on the back.

Eijiro mumbled into his hands, "What happens if I tell them, and they don't feel the same?"

"HA?!! THEN I'LL MURDER THEM!!" Katsuki yelled. "How could they not feel the same?? You're going to be an amazing pro hero, and you're always too damn nice to everyone so- yeah- of course they will feel the same idiot," Katsuki said and looked away from you both, his arms crossing just a bit tighter as he wondered who could have caught Eijiro's attention.

Katsuki was very observant, so the fact that he hadn't noticed his best friend and developed a crush on someone was dumbfounding him. More important, he was concerned about who, and if they'd be good enough for Eijiro.

Eijiro picked his head up from his hands, a small blush was tinted on his cheeks at Katsuki's compliments.

"You- you really think so?" He asked.

"Duh- I don't just say shit to say it dumb ass," Katsuki said.

"Well so... if they do feel the same- then what do I do?" Eijiro asked.

You tilted your head to the side, "What do you mean, Kirishima?"

"Like- if they... feel the same way about me... then what? Where do I go from there?" He asked.

"Well then maybe plan a day to spend time together? That way you can get to know them more." You suggested.

"Hmmm...," Eijiro mumbled and looked down. "Well what if... what if I already spend a lot of time with... them?" he asked, and hesitantly looked back up at you.

"Oh uh... well I don't know, maybe you just give them a kiss, if you both are confessing your feelings?" You said and started to wonder more about what was going on. It seemed like nothing you and Katsuki had said was making Eijiro feel any better. He actually seemed to be more on edge now.

"Oh man," Eijiro said and hid his face again.

"The hell is wrong now?!" Katsuki asked annoyed.

"This is so not manly at all but- I've never kissed anyone before," Eijiro said.

"You're joking right?" Katsuki asked.

"No man! I'm not joking, come on don't make fun of me!" Eijiro said giving Katsuki a defeated look.

"Hey, it's ok! Everyone has different experiences!" You said, trying to calm him. "It's not that hard Kirishima, don't stress. It'll come naturally in the moment." You spoke.

"But what if it doesn't?! Have you seen my teeth?! What If I hurt them?? Or- or- what if my quirk goes off? Man, that would be so bad! Haven't I showed you what I did to my own eye?!?!" He said, panicking swinging his arms and pointing at the scar on his eye.

"Wow wow- calm down Kirishima," You begged him. It pained you to see your friend so upset that you wanted to do anything to help ease his anxieties. "Did um- did you... want to practice?" You squeaked out so low that Eijiro and Katsuki almost didn't hear.

"The fuck?!" Katsuki exclaimed.

"Wait- like... kiss you???" Eijiro asked, his whole face igniting in a blush.

"I'm sorry! That was weird for me to offer, wasn't it?! I didn't mean for that- I just- I hate seeing you so upset and-" You spat out anxiously feeling embarrassed by your offer.

"No!" Eijiro stopped you. "I uh-... can I?" He asked looking at you with wide eyes.

"You're fucking joking, right? I'm out of here," Katsuki said standing up.

"No! Bakugo wait!" Eijiro called after him.

"HA? Why the fuck would I stay for that?!" He barked.

"Yeah stay," you said. "If you leave then it does make it weird, then it's not just friends helping each other out and- well uh it would feel too intimate if it was just me and Kirishima, and this is just for practice." You explained.

"Uh yeah right..." Eijiro said, but suddenly looked downcast by your explanation.

"Tch- whatever," Katsuki said, sitting back down and looking away from you two. "Just fucking do it then so we can get back to studying,"

"Right ok," Eijiro said to himself as he hyped himself up.

"Alright well- go ahead," you said shrugging your shoulders.

"Um- just go? Like that?" Eijiro said blushing.

You couldn't help but giggle at his nervousness. "Yeah silly- here I'll get closer," you said scooting over to him more on the bed.

"Ok- ok-" He mumbled as he nervously shook. "I'm going to do it-"

"FUCKING KISS ALREADY!" Katsuki yelled.

Eijiro startled by Katsuki's yell, jumped, and moved his lips quickly to yours, causing his teeth to knock into yours.

"OW-" You exclaimed as your hand shot up to your lips.

"OH MAN! I'm so sorry! See I hurt you, didn't I!? That's exactly what I was worried about!" Eijiro cried out, tears beginning to form in his eyes.

"It's fine Kirishima! It didn't really hurt, it just startled me!" You said, trying to calm him.

"Oh my god! No, your lip is bleeding! I'm the worst at this!" He cried.

"SHUT THE FUCK UP KIRISHIMA!" Katsuki yelled, startling you both, and causing you both to turn to him. "Why the fuck are you always so down on yourself!? COME HERE-" Katsuki yelled and grabbed Eijiro by his shirt collar pulling him closer. You watched as Eijiro was now pressed against Katsuki by force. The moment happened fast but you could have sworn you saw it in slow motion. Katsuki forcefully pressed his lips to Eijiro's.

A surprised, "Hmpfh~," escaped Eijiro as you watched him close his eyes momentarily getting lost in the kiss.

Then, as suddenly as he had yanked him, Katsuki threw Eijiro back down to the bed.

"There, see you can kiss someone without hurting them. So- stop fucking crying," Katsuki barked.

Eijiro looked up at his friend, his face flushed as he panted slightly, "Bakugo that-"

"DON'T FUCKING TALK ABOUT IT!" Katsuki warned. "JUST- just go! Go tell whatever dumb fucking extra it is how you feel! Just- get the fuck out of here already," Katsuki yelled and looked away. You could have sworn you saw mist in his eyes before he turned away.

"Uh Bakugo-... we're in Kirishima's room," you dared to say.

"Tch- I'll fucking leave then," he said beginning to storm out.

"Bakugo wait!" Kirishima called after him.

"FUCKING WHAT!?" He yelled but didn't turn around to face you two.

"I already did..." Eijiro said.

"Hu?" Katsuki exclaimed and turned around looking at Eijiro, a confused look on his face. His cheeks were flushed, and his eyes were watery.

"I did... I- I told them... both of them..." Eijiro said, quietly and the room froze. No one spoke for a moment as you all stayed in this moment processing what it had meant, and what this whole interaction had been about.

"Both?... Kirishima... Is that what you mean by they- you meant they as in plural?"

"You mean... both- as in... both of us? You like both of us?" Katsuki asked him, eyes wide.

Eijrio nodded his head shyly.

The three of you looked at each other now having an understanding.

Tags: @unofficialmuilover @maddietries @fiannee