#being left out

[froginthestars]

being excluded and then seeing the photos truly feels like the coldest of showers followed by a damn pit in the stomach

[punishprose]

did anyone talk about me/do you guys all hate me/did you have fun/was it better without me there/did you miss me/why him and not me/what did I do to her/do you guys all hate me

glad you guys had fun!!

[crmsnmth]

The Boy Who Cried No

There's a party going on next door and my room mates are there I sit in my room, listening to the thump of the beat Telling myself that I don't care Because I've isolated myself why would though as when I'm always saying no So I pretend to enjoy my solitude Pretend it leaves me room to grow

They're in the yard and a fire's lit Another one of those endless nights As they smile and talk to red solo cups And I sit here alone under bulb lights It's here I learn how to be defenseless and to finally let my guard down It's too bad there's no one around to see it And I'll keep it that way until I'm underground

I can almost hear what they are saying and I wonder if I really want to know I play over how I'd have those conversations If I wasn't siting in my room all alone.

[csuitebitches]

Have you ever felt unheard or like a second thought in a group of friends colleagues? If yes, how did you deal with it?

Yes of course. I used to try really hard to fit in, now I’m just polite and cordial and I stop responding if I don’t feel like it.

Also, an idea that could work - target the most friendly person and create a 1 on 1 rapport with them. It’s difficult to not acknowledge someone when you have some sort of a connection with them.

[mental-health-advice]

My friends leave me out of things, a lot. They only text me if they need notes or something. Pretty sure they won't even remember my birthday right now. It wasn't like this before. When we started college, we were this huge group and we had fun, loads of fun. I think it's my fault too for going home so often, since it was just 2 hours away. I stopped now and I even tried to include myself but it didn't work. I even tried telling them about my feelings, but they brushed it off. One of them did show some concern, they thought *I* was the one staying out. but I just told them it was fine and I tried going out with them again, only to be felt left out again since all they talk about is *their* inside jokes and *their* groupchats. I told myself, "why bother" and now I'm actually isolating myself. I want to hide this from my family because they're very likely gonna blame it on me for not knowing who my real friends are. I don't think I can make new friends right now. I just need help on how to make my time alone worthwhile without just laying in bed and crying.

(sorry this was a long ask, I just needed to let it out and hopefully receive some advice)

Hey there,

It sounds like your friends at the moment are kind of just using me as you mentioned they just contact you when they are needing something. This does not fair like a fair friendship at all and especially as they seem to be leaving you out now as well. I want you to know though that none of this is your fault, sometimes friends just go their separate ways and I know that you feel as though your family will view this as being your fault but it’s not. I also know that even though it’s important to have a friend or two in life and not isolate, I feel as though you will find a good friend for yourself if you keep trying to put yourself out there when and if you want to!

In terms of how you can make your time more worthwhile though when you are alone, I am wondering if you could take up some new interests/ hobbies to take up some of your time. This could be helpful because it means you will be doing something that you enjoy whilst also learning more about yourself in regards to your likes and dislikes in life.

Another idea, may be to work on something productive that will help to keep you busy and distracted that you can look back upon and be proud of yourself with. So for example these things could be doing something creative like drawing or doing some colouring in, or writing short stories or poems if that is more your thing. I myself do both depending on where I’m at mentally in my head and what I feel up to doing and so lately that has been colouring which can really take you out of your head and especially if you’re colouring in something that you have to think about colour wise!

I really hope that this has helped a bit and please do let us know if we can help to support you in any other way!

I’m thinking of you and hope that you are going well!

Take care,

Lauren

[fandomsfan1]

I need to vent.

During P.E I asked two people if I could play with them, one told me to ask someone else. So, I asked the only other group of people playing that game if I could join, and someone said that there was already enough players. Then, at lunch today, the ONLY THING I look forward to at school, I was sitting with my "friend" and a few of her other friends, and someone else came and also wanted to sit at that table, but it was already full. My friend tried to get the other person to ask the principal or vice principal if they could bring an extra seat to the table, and they didn't, so everyone at that table except my friend decided it would be a good idea to kick me out. But my friend just sat there and let it happen. She, of all people should know that I'm too shy to stand up for myself, and she just let everyone kick me out.

I AM SICK AND TIRED OF BEING AND FEELING SO LEFT OUT!!

[uncanny-tranny]

I think so many people are so deeply alienated from themselves that they have no clue how to exercise their free will and autonomy. For some, this alienation runs so deep that they are afraid of their own autonomy and humanity. It is completely understandable why one would have those feelings, but it can be worrisome.

I want to help others who feel this way, so here are small things I have done to exercise my free will:

Add "guilty pleasure" songs to playlists and actually listen to them (I have a ton of late 1990s-early 2000s music I listen to now proudly that I never listened to in the past out of shame)

Getting the décor item, bath set, bed spread, ect. in the patterns you like, even if it's "childish" (I got a dinosaur-themed wastebasket from the kids' décor section and I adore it)

Taking a new route to get to a place you go to often

Eat dessert first

Celebrate well, and often

Collect things that are "odd" or don't seem like an "acceptable" thing to collect (somebody on my "for you" page collects dandelion crayola crayons and it was so cool!!!!!!)

Incorporate one new piece in an outfit you wear frequently (e.g., a new chain, a necklace, ribbons, bracelets, ect.). Challenge yourself to add onto the outfits if you feel up for it.

Sing along to songs without worrying that you sound "good" or your intonation is completely accurate

Read a book from a genre you weren't allowed to read as a kid (comics, thrillers, mysteries, anything!)

Walk without having a specific destination or goal

Pick up a new craft without expecting yourself to master it or to ever be "good" enough. Get your hands messy.

I don't want to shame anybody for not feeling as though they have free will or that they are exempt from exercising it. However, I wanted to give ideas so that you might read this list and find your own ways to express your intrinsic autonomy and will. You deserve to be a person, to feel alive, not just living. That is what our lives are for.

[hella-marshmella]

“My vote doesn’t matter (so I’m gonna sit it out/vote third party/put a write-in protest vote)!”

Unfriendly reminder that Al Gore only lost Florida (and subsequently the entire 2000 election) by only 537 votes. Your vote absolutely fucking matters.

If y’all really, truly don’t want Trump/Republicans back in control than you better get out and vote down the ballot, especially if you live in an even remotely purple/swing state.

The MAGA voters will absolutely get out and vote, don’t let them out-do you.

[aceofstars121]

I made the guys in the style of the cursed etho skizz built

Bonuses!

Cursed skizz (my first attempt)

Etho but if I built him the same way I built the other guys if that makes sense

Me for fun (:

[egophiliac]

bring your son to work day

[mari-lair]

plan failed, guess we are sticking together

[bet-on-me-13]

Sandwiches

So! Clark is a Kid, and he is making a sandwich, but the Ketchup he puts on it accidentally makes a Summoning Sigil.

He turns around to find a Glowing Eldritch Being floating behind him.

He stares at the Eldritch Beast.

The Eldritch Beast stares at him.

Clark wordlessly picks up 2 more slices of bread, makes a other sandwich, and offers it to Being.

It takes the Sandwich, looks at him, and smirks before saying, "Not bad." And disappearing.

The next day, Clark's parents told him that they were going to have an extremely bountiful Harvest that year, and that they would be able to pay off all of their remaining Debts, lifting all of the stress that he had seen them begin to accumulate over the years.

Later that week during the Party to celebrate their success, Clark sneaks away with a plate of Food, draws that same circle on his favorite Tree, and leaves the Plate of food alongside a note saying "Thanks!"

And thus was the start of an incredible, but rather strange, friendship.

(BTW I left the specific Ghost blank to play around with, cause maybe it wasn't Danny)

[kedreeva]

Usually at night I bring Bug in the house and she gets her bedtime snack and then she jumps up to the top of one of our shelving units and settles there until actual bedtime. I get her down by walking out of sight or putting treats on her lower perch and she comes right down again, but tonight she was not having it. I left, I called, I put treats down, I attempted to climb up to get her by hand, I turned the lights off and then on to remind her it's night time. Nothing.

But she HAS to come down because it's not safe to leave her up there overnight. She gets freaked out in the dark alone, and it's in a room where she could potentially get up before me and get into things that could hurt her. So I couldn't just leave her even if I wanted to.

So I looked at Sark and told him to protect his computer monitor, because I was about to do something really stupid.

Then I went out of sight and replicated the crows' hawk alarm call, and boy. She got right down all the way to the floor immediately.

And then I hear Sark explaining to his discord voice chat what the hell THAT was (me crow-calling) because I hadn't realized he was on voice activity...

[lazylittledragon]

Hello I love your bg3 content and your Dorian is so lovely! Can we get like an alternative reality with Dorian and Ascended Astarion? What would your headcannon be for them? 🙇

something like this, probably

[waspgrave]

I can’t believe people are acting like Solas and Varric aren’t friends….did you listen to their dialogues? They talk philosophy, laugh, ask each other questions, give advice, Solas even goes from polite but distant ‘master tethras’ to a friendly ‘varric’ in the span of a few conversations. Solas took genuine interest in his writing and read his books. Varric even invites him to play Wicked Grace. Foolish.

[mountainmagpie]

Every friend group should include: