#anyway that's my experience and advice
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I guess I'm choosing violence today but after ten years of observation, here's the writing advice no one asked for: if you write fanfic, don't join a server.
I know how desirable it is to have a community to talk about your interests with and that's absolutely fine. Just don't do it as an author. Use a pseudonym.
You've heard that people are talking about your fic in a server and you want to see? They will stop talking about your fic as soon as you join. Yes, even if they're the ones who invited you in the first place.
The people who comment on every chapter of everything you write? Are going to stop commenting on your fics once you're in a server together. They may still comment in the server, but that's a big 'may.' And eventually those too will stop.
#ao3#archive of our own#fanfic#fan fic#fan fiction#if i could go back in time to when a friend asked me to join the skype group bc everyone in the server was talking about my fic#i would tell my younger self not to do it#anyway that's my experience and advice#take it or leave it#this applies to joining someone elses server or making your own#btw
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there's no way to say this without sounding like i can't take criticism (i can, it's something i had to work on like everybody else), but some people are like. really bad at giving constructive criticism and i think if you're receiving crit from someone that's not a bad thing to keep in mind for ur own sanity lol
#swear to god this is not about any one instance in particular#i just feel like there r a lot of people who give criticism without#coming from a place of 'what are the author's intentions'#and 'how does my crit help the auth clarify or improve on executing these intentions'#anyways there's advice about taking the advice that's relevant to you and leave that which isn't so this is an extension of that#anyways if you have ever had a frightfully uncharitable and unhelpful critique experience i hope u get what i mean#disclaimer that this applies differently to sensitivity readers#i think#i guess#anyways hiiiii#writeblr#chitchat
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The absolute biggest thing I've learned as a trans guy: there is nothing more masculine and manly than not caring about looking or acting masculine or manly. Growing your masculinity or manhood takes time and care - you have no obligation to let the world water your garden when you can do that just fine (and you can, even if it doesn't feel like you can!)
#trans#transgender#lgbt#lgbtq#ftm#nonbinary#trans advice#got a stereotypically 'feminine/woman' piercing and. i feel like a man *inverted shania twain riff from man! i feel like a woman*#nothing affirms my manhood more than not caring about the genuinely toxic imaginings that the world has about manhood and men like me 👍#yes it can be a struggle ESPECIALLY if you're somebody who actively has to defend your masculinity/manhood...#...it's hard for me too sometimes. i had to not only build my manhood but jealously defend it from the 'phobes...#...but i am all the better for it because this is MINE. i have never truly owned something in this way...#...i don't own other people nor my cats nor even my material possessions - not in the way i own my manhood...#...i own it like a tiger owns his territory and i defend it similarly...#...i do not WANT to own my loved ones or possessions the same as i own my manhood and masculinity. this is special to me#my manhood was *made* for me to be owned anyway. i feel that applies to every trans person who hasn't felt able to own themselves#this is in the same vein as learning to cast aside the cissexist views of bodies&experiences that can make dysphoria worae
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I'm trying to get back into some hobbies I stopped doing as my life got busier- reading books, drawing, etc. Any suggestions on how I can get back into the habit of these more slow-paced pastimes?
#my lame wife: you can read only one more book before you have to come to bed!#my scholarly ass:#anyways. not something o have much experience with but generally you're calmer and have less energy around your bedtime#shoutouts to anemia. yahoo#the legend of zelda#loz#tloz#ganondorf#good advice ganondorf#good advice#ghirahim
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makoto yuki
#fanart#art#persona 3#illustration#persona 3 reload#makoto yuki#minato arisato#persona 3 mc guy whatever .. makoto over minato over roger over#sakuya shiomi#WHO CALLS HIM SAKUYA ?#anyways this post was just me experimenting with stuff#i was inspired by collages and wanted to try to take a stab at it#if you want to try this then my advice is to have a specific theme and build your bases from there..#so what i did was center this piece on the themes of p3 and depression and death and things related to that..#and then I thought of metaphors and images that would go well with the collage..#and i mixed in some real images with redrawn ones#and it wasn’t all planned it was just a process along the way#sorry for this yap session i just wanted to share how fun collages are..
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random Hunter headcanon GO!
AHH OKAY one of my random hcs is that hunter's smile is kinda asymmetrical/lopsided/wider on the left side cuz of his scars, especially after thanks to them. i imagine they'd significantly pull on his skin and could even affect nerves and definitely some range of motion, so-
sorta like this:
#i think it'd be very charming and neat :) but also sad cuz of the Reason for it OOF........ but charming. little dude#the owl house#hunter toh#in general i also feel like his scars are gonna significantly affect him cuz like. they cover a LARGE area. realistically they would#he has lots of experience with scars and injuries and knows how to deal with it all#cuz he rather didn't have access to a healer but needed medical attention a LOT so he defo had to learn how to patch himself up on his own#but also... i can imagine that with all of his responsibilities at the coven properly taking care of scars wasn't exactly his no.1 priority#so i like to think that if he gets a palisman woodcarving mentorship from the clawthornes dell will give him some advice#cuz he has a lot of experience with that himself as well and truly understands what hunter might be going through re: scar-related issues#anyways........ gah#hunter#toh hunter#hunter noceda#my toh talk#my sketches#my art#? kinda#nicole answers#Anonymous
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I wanted to share the tattoo I did yesterday!!
I really enjoyed the process🥹🫶 My “normal” art is generally a lot more detailed and time-consuming than these fanarts…something I genuinely LOVE is just spending lots of time focusing on the small details & forgetting everything else.
I’m overall really happy with how this turned out, I’ve been practicing A LOT😳 but even so, pork skin isn’t the same as a living, breathing human. I think this design might have been a BIT too complicated to be my first one but oh well…I learned a lot and pushing myself off the deep end is always how I learn best😆😆😤🙏
#in the future tbh what I want to do is realism and famous paintings etc#but tbh whatever bc I just love drawing😫💓#anyways would you want to see more of these??????????? like update on my process??#or just keep this blog as an eloise worship center😆#(I vote for that)#personal#and before anyone comes at me…in spain apprenticeships don’t really exist…#I go to a studio they’re all muy majos and they help me a lot…#give me lots of advice monitor my progress etc etc#but at the end of the day they’re just like distant mentors I hang out with😆😆 have to do it all on my own…#so I’ve been collecting lots of victims and hopefully over the next month I can do a few more😇🙏#it’s a strange process tbh#but I also had a few studios show interest in hiring me once I get more experience#so we’ll see if they follow through!!!!!!!🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏#also I’ve been very flustered/nervous in the last week bc of this so#if I’ve been weird about responding etc etc THIS IS WHY😭😭😭😭😭😭😫#I’m slowly trying to catch up….🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰#also my last note is that my super sweetie pie but somewhat incompetent bc took the picture of me tattooing😆😆😆#I take what I can get…
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When someone else’s art is so good you physically can’t look at it because of artistic jealousy
#Y’all do this to me on a daily basis I swear#I literally can’t follow some people because their stuff is so good it breaks my heart#I think the art world has a lot of envy and competitiveness that no one really talks about#Sure we’re all for self expression but so many of us are so used to being “the art kid” that anyone else taking or sharing that spot feels#like losing a peice of your identity.#I’ve had some artist friends who dealt with their jealousy by tearing others down or justifying their art by going#”Well you’re bad at ____ but I’m better at ____”#Or they would give unsolicited critique that was more like gently worded criticism than friendly advice to help someone reach their goals#And because of those experiences… I never want to become that person#I definitely get the surges of jealousy… But I very much try to remind myself that fellow artists are my friends-not my rivals#The people I feel the most envy for are often the people I hype up the most#And beyond that- nobody in the art community is trying to gatekeep information from you.#If you want to learn skills from other people- don’t hesitate to ask them. Most artists happily spill their brains for you in a conversatio#(Foolish artist… they don’t even know how many brain juices of theirs I’m absorbing-MWAHAHAHA)#(I’m gonna come come back stronger as an artist… And then I can learn and grow EVEN MORE BWAHAHAHA)#So anyway… Jealousy is a valid and very real thing… but what you choose to do about it can either hinder or help you.#That’s all folks#art meme#art
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People who truly dislike Edwina Sharma are wild. Heaven forbid an 18 year old be charmed after being almost relentlessly pursued by an older man. Three married women, including her mother, are for the match. THE QUEEN is for the match. The only person saying he isn't right for her is her sister and like I'm sorry but my sister could swear that a man wasn't that into me and I would not listen if he BOUGHT ME A HORSE!???!!?!!
#having a s2 rewatch and truly. that is a teenager who has never been courted before. that's a girl with no experience with this at all.#she's being pursued by a nearly 30 year old man who we know will chase off a young lady's suitors (see The Daphne Debacle)#also we have no clue what kates love life was like or what she may have revealed to edwina so does eddy think#“my sister who has never entertained men or had a serious relationship is giving me courting advice”#and is that supposed to mean more than their mother's blessing and support?#fair enough mary is supposed to be complacent to an unbelievable level in this show but had kate said “mama he truly isnt right for eddy”#would mary just have handwaved it off? is that the deal the show was going for?#people online loooove to talk about how much you wanna hit your sibling for no reason but an acerbic “half-sister” is too far?#if my maid of honour wanted to fuck my future husband i'd hand the priest my earrings tell him to meet me in the confessional and go to tow#i think edwinas explanation of this anger was not well thought out but she was entirely right to be angry.#anyways. eddy darling i will live you until my dying days.#edwina sharma#bridgerton
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#i wish for a day where my heart did not bleed from all the losses that come with serious chronic illness#i know i should be grateful for even being able to type today#to think today#to make choices good or bad today#but there's just so much mourning to do that never gets done and it just piles up and up#i wish i could have a thanksgiving#or a birthday#or a shabbat#but instead this weekend will be about maintaining consciousness to not wreck my sleep schedule#making sure i don't lay down more than 14 hours each day#and trying to remember that this boredom is s gift#bc when my cognitive dysfunction was super bad i couldn't even be this bored#or this sad tbh#i couldn't even be this sad bc I wasn't physically well enough to have emotions this intense#🎉#anyway this is so wildly inappropriate im so sorry its just so hard to hear how terrible i am for not handling my illness better#and i feel like such a failure but i don't know how to do better with the symptoms that im given#and i live in a society that is always going to try to make me feel bad for being this sick#so i know i should just do the best i can do and focus on not beating myself up#but its so hard#chronic illness is loneliness upon loneliness#the loneliness of being too sick to connect#the loneliness of everyone giving you advice that is the functional equivalent of 'run 10 miles a day instead of 20'#the loneliness of having experience no one else can relate to#the loneliness of having nothing to talk about bc you don't do anything#my heart is broken#and this is not an appropriate venue for it#but it's just so hard to smile all the time and try to be appropriate#i'll get it together#i'll learn my lessons and put my public face back on and go back to mourning in private I just need a second
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It's missing my father hours rn so imma just dump a bunch of pictures here and cry
( sorry i don't know the source of anything I just had them on my phone)
(also dont read the tags i just need to let it out lol)
#I just realized I can call him dad easier than my real dad and now I understand why am I so damn attached to him#I always knew he was a parental figure for me#but now I connected the dots#How when u have an absent dad and a d34d mom a guy shows up in ur life#that tells u life advice that both of ur parents failed to do so#and makes u feel safe the first time in ur life#ofc ud become attached#i know for sure its unhealthy how much i love and miss him#he occupies most of my thoughts honestly#But how could i not cling to him so much when he was the only one who gave me hope in life#i try to keep going and even tho he is not here i keep telling myself whatever he taught me. i keep reminding myself he wants us to live an#bloom and be free#and that's what ill try to do#but you know somedays i wish i could just disappear and be wrapped in eternal happiness#its so fucking hard to pull yourself out of the slump man im so fucking tired im so so tired#somedays i wish id have the courage to off myself but i know that deep down i want to live and ive always wanted to live but i have no idea#how to live. i feel like i finally found a purpose and someone i love. but at the same time im always doubting myself and im scared of losi#g this little hope again and i know i should cherish and use it instead but each day i have this anxiety because rn i have nothing else if#lose this i seriously will lose everything atp. but ill still try bc rn its this or death so i should try im just damn tired yes anyways#sorry for being depressing some days just dont work out but thats okay#yes at the same time i want to get out of my head and try to find some friends but i cant deny that im highkey fucked up and i just cant le#go of my past and i still feel like that helpless unloved kid and idk how to form relationships this way. i dont trust myself at all so idk#how to trust others. and i feel like in order to find ppl that would love me i have to overshare abt my whole lifestory bc it still dictate#my life heavily. and since i met this band its better cuz im learning to deal w it and i want to heal from everything but yes at the same t#me who would wqnt to be friends w. someone that has like a year of life experience and 18 years of depression lol#so yes its complicated. bc i have friends but im like the funny friend. the one that is as shallow as puddle and has no problems but honest#y im genuinely sufferint qnd have been sufferinz all my life so i want to come out of my funny friend role. but that wojld mean i have to t#ll the shit i went through to all my friends but tbh it would be so random so ye. i do have a plan though. how it could work. But yes im ti#ed have been tired for 7 years now. But this time around i hope i can successfully get out of this torture cycle lol.#ok sorry this is what happens after puberty guys i could beva research case for a damn mental institute atp xdd
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my commissions are now open!
I only have one listing open for now, but I'll probably add more in the future
#yes yes i know im undercharging#but this is also my first time taking commissions ever and i would like to build some experience first#anyways please hmu if you have any questions or advice for me#james.txt#effervescent-art
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daily mcr fan affirmations: it's okay to just think they're embarrassing and move on. make your peace with cringing at them, it's not necessary to moralise their every move
#a little bit of distance makes the fandom experience much less fraught with disappointment landmines and generally more fun i promise#anyway that's the tldr i am now following my own advice and touching grass#*
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as is my custom, this olympics i have discovered It Is Time For Me To Watch Even More Sports
#any advice on how to watch surfing and skateboarding competitions???#ive firmly fallen in love with the comms and every one of these athletes. sora shirai im obsessed with ur vibe. brandon valjalo ur whimsy#intrigues me. mr mauro u have a beautiful smile.#and also i need to be more stressed out by tiny little brazilian and japanese and chinese gals my cousins age#(the mood of watching womens skateboarding and the surfer in china whos in round three today who is also like. recently 15)#sports posting#kazoo noises#paris 24#anyway even the folks who are having terrible days in skating are grinning like crazy and i am still#mildly in love with rio waida of indonesia who was having a blast despite getting sent home#anyway shout out to yang siqi (hope i spelled that right im so sleepy) who normally id say should be in school or at the mall or park#but like. if ur a 15 year old pro surfer at the olympics in tahiti...well u have already bagged ur cool kid rep and experience for life. so#shes good actually. shes gonna be a fuckin ledge in college mark my words.
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Nurse Pixel: I'm going to examine you!
Kazin: ...Eh!?
Usually if friends of mine are not feeling well or are sick I send them my best wishes and they get better in the next few days. (or they tell me their symptoms and I get inspired by it somehow lol)
But with Kazin, I found out she's had bloating and stomachaches for almost a year multiple times a month and hasn’t gotten any better. She didn't seem to know what was wrong with her.
So I did a full examination. (aka asking questions and taking a guess from my knowledge)
My final diagnosis: She has IBS-C
...and yet she probably still won't resist the urges to fill herself with caffeine and junkfood... xD
(your funeral bestie haha i tried)
but yeah I doodled our lil’ sonas for funsies
I gave hers a coffee color scheme ☕
#pixelsona#chibi art#doodle#yeah when I was talking to her about my stomachache fascination#and we were brainstorming ideas#the personal experiences she described began to concern me#so I tried to do some digging and this is just my opinion xD#i’m no medical expert just a friend giving advice~#and I’ll likely continue to monitor her health#they don’t call me nurse pixel for nothing~#actually only I call myself that haha#can’t do medical stuff irl so I like playing the role c:#but yeah before my questioning I drew this I found the idea cute#and I like to draw personas in color palettes idk why#makes it look different from my usual art ig#kazin doesn’t mind me sharing this xD and I think a lot of people struggle w ibs anyway ~#its pretty common nowadays but I’m glad I at least gave her a possible idea#its fun playing nurse for my friends ^^#just something different but it came out cute so I wanted to share#i didn’t like the other one before… xD
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narukana bffs. you agree 🫶
#listen listen. theyre friends#i think they shouldve bonded more during the moonlight disco story#i think arashi should've painted kanata's nails blue with waterproof nailpolish#i think they would have fun “swimming” together too (kanata floating while arashi splashes around)#arashi would make kanata wear sunscreen lmao#omg now im imagining kanata cooking arashi dinner as thanks for doing his nails/hanging out with him/etc#it'd probably just be sushi or smth similar since he only likes cooking cold food + loves fish#but i feel like arashi would l o v e sushi so there's no problem there (if there's any story that says she doesnt please lmk)#anyways i also think arashi would love just like. venting/gossiping to kanata too because he's really chill and a good listener#like she can just vent without worrying that he's gonna try to give her advice she doesn't want#she's like “i had the *worst* experience with someone at my modeling shoot today” and goes on a long rant#all kanata says at the end of it is “puka-puka-ing makes all bad ”emotions“ float away~”#and arashi's like “omg you're right a bath *does* sound good right now”#they have matching friendship bracelets also. i think that would be cute#okay headcanon dump over for now#ensemble stars#enstars#kanata shinkai#arashi narukami#narukana#idk what their ship name is 🤔#arashi x kanata#kanata x arashi#<- figured i'd go ahead and tag these even though i dont ship them romantically
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