#anti bi prejudice

[youjustgotxfiled]

COULD NOT agree with this more. As someone who's non-binary and white, but often has to present as cis, male, and monogamous (I'm actually polyamorous), this is EXACTLY the kind of garbage arguing and behavior that needs to stop if we're to have any hope of not letting people who'd ruin other people's lives with their power and/or money do so. And this goes for ANYONE of ANY background, personality type, or belief system. Trying to demonize someone from a majority group who doesn't even know you or your problems exist, and likely would help you if they could, doesn't make you a hero. It just makes you an asshole who no one wants to see succeed.

So please. Be good to each other. Focus on the real problem people and issues. And let's focus on unity rather than petty, superficial divisions to achieve lasting peace, justice, and happiness for all.

Listen. I’m all here for respecting everyone. But I feel like some are reaching a point where this whole “woke” thing becomes a hostile force that, is someone is ignorant of one little thing, or says the me word wrong, you are suddenly an Irredeemable Bad Person TM. Also, I’ve noticed we’ve started to ostracize and divide each other again, which seems counter productive? Like, “oh, cis white gay men have it easier than we do therefore they are all disgusting and evil” or “cis bisexuals are so ignorant and straight-wannabes it’s gross.”

No. Stop. We don’t need to divide ourselves anymore. Can we all just be kind? If someone messed up, kindly educate them without shaming them? Just because someone is cis or male or bi doesn’t mean they’re inherently evil. Wtf guys. Stop shaming each other???

[eddiesfagbriefs]

some of you need to talk to a real life gay/bi man. outside. where there’s fresh air and grass. or even asphalt! i’m not picky!!

[osmanthusoolong]

All this uproar, the court cases, the children suffering? Unsurprisingly, the result of a couple of dedicated transphobic conspiracy theorists.

“The review of Policy 713 officially began in late April 2023, according to the province but only became public knowledge on May 5.

When asked why the review started, Hogan and Higgs gave several reasons, including "misinterpretations and concerns," from the public, and "hundreds of complaints" about the issue.

At the time, child and youth advocate Kelly Lamrock asked for the complaints showing these misinterpretations and concerns. The department handed over three emails.

When challenged, Hogan said Lamrock was only given a sample, and if people wanted to see all the emails, they could file a right to information request.

Through right to information, CBC News requested all emails about 2SLGBTQ+ issues sent to Hogan between January 2020 and May 2023.

According to records, Hogan received about 40 emails about those issues in those three years. The majority, about 35 emails, came between March and May 5, 2023, stating objections to different forms of 2SLGBTQ+ education or drag storytime.”

…

“The Saint John woman on Facebook, Barb Dempsey, is one of several New Brunswickers who make posts against 2SLGBTQ-inclusive education on social media and ask people to lobby the government for change. It's not clear whether she created the petition she shared in early April.

In late April, Dempsey and another New Brunswick resident started promoting a protest against the teachers' event in Hanwell.

On that day, a small group of protesters held signs calling educators "perverts," and accusing them of harming children.

In a later interview, when asked why he started the policy review, Higgs referred to that event.”

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“Some email authors said teaching children about the concept of gender identity would harm them because it would confuse them.

In July, in his speech to the legislature, Higgs said, "we're seeing a rapid onset of gender dysphoria. It's expanded in the last several years and it's becoming popular and trendy."

"Society can compound [children's] confusion," he said.

The New Brunswick Medical Society said that the points Higgs made are "ideologically based narratives."

The society said "rapid onset gender dysphoria," or the notion that some children are socially influenced to become trans when they're actually not, has no scientific basis.

"The notion of 'Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria' is not a recognized medical condition and should not be used in medical, social, or political narrative," the society said in a statement.

"Framing gender dysphoria as 'trendy or popular,' as opposed to an actual medical diagnosis, lead to further prejudice and misinformation."”

@allthecanadianpolitics

[ugly-anarchist]

Alright, anon, I'm not posting your messages in 3 different posts so lets just break this down here

[Indented text is the anon message. This is going to be long as hell]

butch women and trans men are not oppressed for being masculine, they’re oppressed for being gender nonconforming females (not saying trans men are women, just stating how a patriarchal society sees them).

So, firstly, the thing I'm talking about isn't actually oppression on a systemic level. You're talking about how non-queer society sees us, I'm talking about how other queer people treat us. Butch lesbians have been pushed out of sapphic spaces for a loooong time. Butch lesbians are seen as scary, mean, violent, and inherently abusive within queer spaces. Which stems from a demonization of masculinity. I should know this. I identified as a butch bisexual sapphic for years. I know what this feels like. I was once told that people with "high T levels" are more likely to be abusive, which includes me because I'm intersex and have naturally high T.

Secondly, maybe don't try to define trans men's oppression for them? I'm not a trans guy either but I experience a lot of the same bullshit from society that they do and it's not just "being a gender non-conforming female" it's a lot more complex than that. And also just, in general, a very weird way to say it.

i’ve never heard a masc cis gay man complain about being welcome or not in queer spaces, to the point in which feminine cis gay men have complained about them writing “no sissies, masc4masc” in their bio on dating apps.

I have. I've heard plenty of stories about masc gay men and specifically bi men in queer spaces feeling very unwelcome because they were being treated like a threat. And some gay men being transphobic (because s*ssy is a transmisogynistic slur in this case) or having a preference for other mascs also isn't indicative of mascs being treated well?

Like I know a lot of butch4butches that have that preference specifically because they feel unwelcome or are treated badly by femmes. I don't know how you personally not hearing about it or what some people put on their dating profile proves here.

Also your complete lack of acknowledgement of bi men in this makes me doubt even more that your perspective on this is a valid one because that tells me you either don't know any bi men or you ignore them to such an extent that you forgot they existed.

claiming misandry or anti-masculinity exists is the same as saying that heterophobia exists because straight trans people are treated like shit.

Never said that misandry on its own exists, don't know where you got that.

People are treated like shit based on the fact that they are masc all the time. That is a thing that happens. I have experienced it, I've heard so many stories from other queer people who experience it. I don't know how saying "no you don't, I'm gonna tell you what you really experience" is at all an alright thing to do.

it’s not heterophobia, it’s transphobia/homophobia. in the same way that masc afab people being treated terribly is misogyny and homophobia, and has literally zero to do with misandry/“anti-masculinity”. if anti-masculinity or misandry existed, even straight cis heterosexual men would suffer from it.

So, like, I'm talking about anti-masculinity in the queer community. "If this is true here then it must be true with this different thing" is a really bad argument because you could use that to invalidate anything that is true.

For example: The definition of racism is "prejudice based on race" which technically that definition doesn't exclude white people but you don't see anyone arguing "if racism existed, even white people would suffer from it" or trying to say it's not really about race just to exclude white people. Like, obviously you can't be racist to white people and anyone who claims you can be is just making a bad-faith argument. I am looking pointedly at you when I say that, btw.

also, a lot of radfems are gender nonconforming women/butches and literally campaign for women to drop conformity to the patriarchal concept of femininity. gender critical conservatives are not radical feminists and y’all need to stop conflating the two because no matter what jk rowling says, in practice and in theory, they have very little to do with one another (and hate each other, at that).

There's actually two sides of the "radfem" spectrum and they're both just as bad. There's the ones who hate gender non-conforming women, specifically the ones who go on HRT, and claim they're gender traitors. And then there's the ones which you describe who usually shame women for liking feminine things. Both their beliefs usually go against the whole purpose of gender-nonconformity which is to be yourself and do what makes you happy, society be damned. People who are truly GNC don't judge others for presenting in a way that is typically considered "conforming" to their gender and don't campaign for other people to be like them?

Also... Are you defending radical feminism? Are you a radfem? Because that would make a whole lotta sense.

and one last thing,

Just so you know, this is how this anon began the final message. It is the longest one. Really said "one last thing" then sent me a whole 4 paragraphs.

please stop acting like “people who are attracted to men” are demonized in queer spaces, what a slap in the face to lesbians. the moment they have a little visibility y’all claim they are privileged and somehow bossing around/discriminating against gay men.

Never said that lesbians were the oppressor in this situation. There is no oppressor, it's fully lateral mistreatment. And like.. it's not about just gay men.

Bi women have been pushed out of and demonized within sapphic spaces for decades, actually. I should know. Because again. I'm a bi sapphic. We are seen as a range of things. Pretenders, abusers, invaders, the source of lesbian oppression, tricksters that try to force lesbians to fuck men, or just disgusting. Traitors. Again.

My own mother knows this because before she married my dad she was in sapphic spaces in the 90s. From her personal accounts, bi women were seen as the enemy and a lot of lesbians... weren't even lesbians. They were political lesbians. Women who rejected their attraction to men and only dated other women. Some of them were even straight. And they were considered more of lesbians than bi women were.

Even in the modern age, bi women are expected to shit on their own sexuality. They are expected to say "ew I hate that I like men" and never date or fuck a man to be accepted in queer spaces. Again, I know this because I'M LITERALLY BI.

gay men are literally the face of this community and continually disrespect sapphic/lesbians (see the billie lyric controversy, see the way they’re treating chappel roan, see the way they keep calling women b*tches with no regards on whether we like it or not, see the way they keep fraternizing with straight women that would literally cower in fear if they saw a butch lesbian in real life).

Yeah so misogynistic gay men are in fact a problem but I'm not talking about strictly gay men. I'm talking about the way masculine perceived traits are demonized within queer circles. Come on. I'm pretty sure cis gay men were barely talked about in my original post, why are you fixating on this so hard?

just because somebody who has literally no power over gay men whatsoever and has been traumatized by men her whole life airs out her frustration with her literal lifelong oppressors via tweet or tumblr post, doesn’t mean that suddenly the patriarchy doesn’t exist anymore and has not armed lesbians especially for the past thousands of years.

So I'm talking about the people telling me I'm inherently abusive or more likely to assault people based on the fact that I have high T levels... I'm not talking about people venting about their abuse at the hands of men.

I also never said the patriarchy doesn't exist... I feel like this message isn't about me anyone.

stop painting them as the mean bosses of the community when actually they are a very small, demonized minority who suffers every day at the hands of anyone in the world who likes men (straight women, gay men, even bi women like me).

Fascinating... So... I'm not doing that. Lesbians are not the "mean bosses" of the community. Some are just treating random people shitty for perceived masculine traits with no bearing on truth or reality. A lot of them aren't even lesbians. Like I never said this was a specifically lesbian issue. I said there was a problem in the community in general. So like... all people... not just lesbians.

Also, genuine question: How are you oppressing lesbians for being bi?

it’s such a warped, harmful view and a big stereotype, at that (lesbians are man-haters who hate women’s boyfriends!! what a progressive statement!! never has it been said before, and especially not by homophobic conservatives).

I mean I just didn't say that. I don't know how to respond to this because I just straight up didn't say that.

I just... This isn't about me anymore is it?

Who hurt you?

have some respect for once, a lesbian literally threw the first brick at Stonewall.

So... uh... we don't actually know for 100% certain who threw the first brick. Some say it was Marsha P. Johnson. Some say it was "gay street kids". Even if it was a lesbian... so? Just because one lesbian did a good thing doesn't mean other lesbians are incapable of being dicks to other people?

Idk, man, I never said that lesbians were the source of all evil. I just made a post about my own personal experiences and the experiences of people I know and have seen being talked about. I'm a bi, intersex, non-binary sapphic. I get shit on for the things that people perceive as masculine traits that I have and the fact that I like men. This happens a lot.

I don't know why me saying "hey please stop implying that there is something in my blood that makes me inherently abusive" is lesbophobic. Why is this about lesbians, actually? You made it about lesbians. Why are you using lesbians, a group you've stated you're not a part of, as a gotcha against me? Why are you using lesbians to silence me about my own experiences? Why is that okay?

[bobbyfiend]

OP said a thing, and some commenters added their own thing which was not what OP said. OP very kindly suggested this was an issue of reading comprehension.

It probably is, don't get me wrong; it's also potentially an issue of stereotypes. When our brains are not firing at tip-top, fully-engaged, super-conscious, definitely-present 100% maximum, the stereotypes and biases come out to play. That's what they're for. They're to give us some ability to function when we're on autopilot or overwhelmed or anything else that steals a few brain cycles per second.

So yes, the commenters suggesting that bi/pan wasn't what OP was talking about where probably having too-fast reading comprehension issues. And, for some of them, at least, that probably allowed a teeny bit of bisexual erasure to squirt out.

This doesn't mean any commenters are consciously or actively or willingly anti-bi/anti-pan.

As Patricia Devine demonstrated in the 90s with some fairly inspired research, if you grow up in a bigoted society, your brain crunches the numbers without you knowing and gives you stereotypes. Those are just... there. They're how your brain has organized information. They're not under your voluntary control. They're going to come out sometimes. It's not your fault.

The only thing you have control over is what you have control over.

all goofing aside I genuinely don't understand the urge to reimagine Taylor Allison Swift as a secretly queer icon when the pop music scene(TM) is like. literally overflowing with women who actually like women. Gaga and Kesha and Miley and Halsey are right there. Rina Sawayama and Hayley Kiyoko and Rebecca Black and Kehlani and Victoria Monét and Miya Folick if you're willing to get slightly less top 100. Janelle and Demi for them nonbinary takes on liking girls. like what are we doing here. like I'm not even saying you can't enjoy Taylor but why would you hang all your little gay hopes on her.

[mlmarint]

so here’s my thoughts about the “daddy issues” thing with the whole anti tommy shit

you guys are such fucking hypocrites

i would be totally on board with someone bringing that it’s not okay to sexualize someone’s trauma if that was the case. but guess whaaaaaaat???? THATS NOT THE CASE. and it’s not “terrible dialogue” either, there’s so many scenes with terrible dialogue in this show, but some of you should really stop and ask yourselfs WHY you didn’t like this one.

if eddie was the one to make a comment like that some of you’d be OVER THE MOON. i’ve NEVER seen ANYONE in this fandom talk about how a LOT of the buddie explicit fanfics have a daddy kink on it. and before any more comments, i REALLY HATE buddie fics with daddy kink because it always reminds me of christopher and do NOT want to think about christopher in that moment.

“that’s not the problem. the problem is that once again buck it’s with someone who doesn’t care about his trauma” oh grow the fuck up.

tommy LITERALLY decided to not date buck because he thought buck wasn’t ready for it, he gave buck his space, he at first didn’t want to go to maddie and chimney wedding with buck because he thought buck was acting on impulse and wanted him to take his time to be okay with who he is, and after he was sure he tried his best to be on time to his date.

and also!!!! buck is a little “freak” in bed guys, he was a literal sex addict in season 1. every now and then the show reminds us this (like the ring cutter scene), also this is the second buck’s relationship with someone who’s like older than him. i wouldn’t be surprised if buck has a canon daddy kink because GUESS WHAAAAAT some people who have daddy issues??? THEY HAVE DADDY KINKS!!!!!

but you guys wanna know what i truly think?

i think that some of you (these tommy antis) are only here for buddie. you’re not here for the show, you’re here for buck and eddie. you’re not here for all these amazing characters!!! you’re not here for the fact that buck being a bisexual man discovering that side of him in his 30s its one of the most important things that happened in this show when we’re talking about lgbt+ characters and the importance of having something like that to be on media.

you’re not here for bi buck, you’re only here if this means that eddie will be with him. you’ll won’t be here if they decide to give a eddie queer discover story non related to buck on season 8 (and i truly think we’re going that way).

you only liked buck and tommy when you could sexualize two man kissing.

if you want to talk about something that is not okay that tommy did why don’t you rewatch the older episodes he’s in? he wasn’t a nice person back then and honestly i would like for them to bring that up!!! for them to show how a person can change and grow out of their prejudice and realize that they don’t need to be an ass and be okay with who they truly are. in fact why don’t we talk about how they hinted the fact that tommy didn’t like who he was when he was working with gerard? that he doesn’t like gerard and that he was a toxic person and that tommy grow up with a racist, homophobic and sexist dad???? that’s why he wasn’t a nice person back than but he’s different now and he’s a proud gay man and that once again that’s a nice thing to have on media because it shows how it’s NEVER too late to come in terms with who you are and change the way your are for better????

tommy isn’t perfect (and no one that he hurt before seems to actually care about it cause he did truly changed), but that doesn’t mean you need to cancel the guy FOR ONE SINGLE comment!!!! part of the 911 team made fun of buck for being sexually assaulted by his therapist but no one canceled them for it, did they?

honestly i am so fucking tired with fandoms in general.

at this point i hope we don’t get buddie being canon FOR A LONG TIME cause i want you guys to suffer with tommy and buck being in a happy relationship.

just remember: eddies it’s not canonical queer yet, there’s hints of it and they probably are going on that road with the whole thing they’re saying on interviews, BUT buck IS BISEXUAL and HE IS dating TOMMY you like it or not and it’s by far the most healthy relationship he EVER had in this show, can’t you be happy for him????

you can be a buddie shipper and still enjoy bucktommy because what we should truly want more than anything it’s buck and eddie to be happy with who they are.

and I SAY ALL THIS BEING A BUDDIE SHIPPER FOR YEARS

[obsessedwithlute]

I propose that we, as a society, should stop using the term "homophobia" to reference all types of anti-queer discrimination.

Homophobia is, by definition, prejudice against homosexuals/gay or lesbian people.

But there are many different identities that fall under the LGBTQ banner, obviously, including but not limited to transgender, bi/pan or aro/ace.

There are certain terms like transphobia, biphobia or aphobia that are, like homophobia should be, limited to prejudice against one type of queer label.

Queerphobia is a much more accurate term to describe prejudice against the LGBTQ community as a whole. You wouldn't call your nonbinary aromantic friend homosexual, would you? (If you would, that's a whole other issue). Why should that change when referring to discrimination against the community, which is a topic that should be handled with respect for queer people.

There are lots of different ways to be queer, and all terms associated with the community should respect that- even ones I wish didn't have to exist.

So please, use "queerphobia" instead. It's just more respectful to the people who have to deal with it on a daily basis.

[nerdygaymormon]

Queer Religious Songs

I was interested to see the news that a song by the drag queen Flamy Grant was top of the iTunes Christian chart. I listened to the song and really like it. 

There are many religious songs I like, but these queer ones speak to a part of me that the others don’t, they ask questions that are important. 

1983 - Church of the Poison Mind : Culture Club - A religious gay man has found love, but because of what he was taught at church, can’t resolve his own feelings about being gay. The message is if you’re living in a culture distorted by prejudice, take a chance on joy���embrace love, whatever form it takes.

1987 - It’s a Sin : Pet Shop Boys - This song is about a person’s lifelong feelings of shame and guilt, presumably for being taught that being gay is a sin. For everything I long to do, no matter when or where or who, has one thing in common, too. It’s a, it’s a, it’s a, it’s a sin.

1988 - A Little Respect : Erasure - In this song the gay singer is calling to a lover not to leave and asks the question, what religion or reason could drive a man to forsake his lover? So often the religions we’re raised in are anti-queer and people have a tough time breaking from the prejudice when they have their first romantic relationship.

1991 - Losing My Religion : R.E.M. - Lead singer Michael Stipe had declined to address his sexuality, so when “Losing My Religion” came out, people assumed Stipe was coming out as gay. Consider this the hint of the century. Consider this the slip. It stands as a classic example of queer coding in the era of “don’t-ask-don’t-tell.” The song was interpreted as the struggle of a closeted gay man coming to terms with what his religion taught about gay people.

1992 - One : U2 - Bono explained that “It’s a father-and-son story. I tried to write about someone I knew who was coming out and was afraid to tell his father. It’s a religious father and son… I have a lot of gay friends, and I’ve seen them screwed up from unloving family situations, which just are completely anti-Christian. If we know anything about God, it’s that God is love.” Knowing it’s a gay son who is talking to his unaccepting dad, the lyrics really hit hard. Did I disappoint you or leave a bad taste in your mouth? And also these words from the chorus, We’re one but we’re not the same. Well we hurt each other then we do it again. It seems eventually the son decides to draw a boundary and remove his father from his life - I can’t keep holding on to what you got, 'cause all you got is hurt. I like that the lyrics say We get to carry each other, carry each other, we are different and may not agree on everything, but we choose to help each other, it’s asking us to find ways to have our relationship work even though we’re different.

1997 - You Have Been Loved : George Michael - George Michael wrote this song about Anselmo Feleppa, who died of an AIDS-related illness in 1993. While an intense song about grief and death, it also involves a spiritual struggle. Anselmo and his mother both say that God is not dead, George counters by challenging What’s the use in pressing palms, if you [God] won’t keep such love from harm? It’s a cruel world. You’ve so much to prove.

1997 - Together Again : Janet Jackson - The album notes say “I dedicate the song ‘Together Again’ to the friends I’ve lost to AIDS.” It’s a sweet song with hopeful words. Everywhere I go, every smile I see, I know you are there smilin’ back at me.

2011 - Born This Way : Lady Gaga - Many songs hint at queer identities and acceptance by using metaphors, but not this one, it is direct. No matter gay, straight, or bi, lesbian, transgender life, I’m on the right track, baby, I was born to survive. The song is a real celebration of who we each are made to be. God makes no mistakes.

2011 - We All Try : Frank Ocean - Frank Ocean sings of losing faith in mankind as the LGBTQIA+ community struggles to find acceptance. I believe that marriage isn’t between a man and woman, but between love and love, and I believe you when you say you’ve lost all faith, but you must believe in something. He reassures the listeners and the LGBTQIA+ community that I just don’t believe we’re wicked, I know that we sin but I do believe we try.

2012 - Same Love : Macklemore & Ryan Lewis feat. Mary Lambert - Macklemore sings against the homophobia taught at church. When I was in church, they taught me something else. If you preach hate at the service, those words aren't anointed and that Holy Water that you soak in is then poisoned. The song concludes with Mary singing I’m not crying on Sundays, which I think means not letting religious intolerance and churches harm us anymore, not subjecting ourselves to those words anymore.

2012 - Origin of Love : MIKA - Mika said this song “talks about my life, it talks about the church, it talks about falling in love and it talks about being happy and proud about falling in love with whoever you fall in love with, even if it’s a man. So in a way, this is my statement and my thank you to the man I love.“ To his partner he sings You are the sun and the light, you are the freedom I fight, God will do nothing to stop it.

Mika contrasts the goodness romance brings to his life with how the Bible introduces heterosexual relationships: Like stupid Adam and Eve, they found their love in a tree. God didn’t think they deserved it. He taught them hate, taught them pride, gave them a leaf, made them hide. Let’s push their stories aside. You know the origin is you.

2013 – Take Me to Church : Hozier - The lyrics are against church-fueled homophobia and persecution of queer people, and instead Hozier finds meaning by worshiping in the bedroom. Many queer people can identify with these lyrics: Every Sunday’s getting more bleak, a fresh poison each week. "We were born sick", you heard them say it. Hozier explained that churches undermine humanity as they teach shame about sexual orientation by saying that it is sinful or that it offends God. Hozier is an outspoken LGBTQ+ ally and the music video depicts two gay men being ripped apart by homophobic violence in Russia. It brought international attention to the anti-gay laws in Russia.

2015 - No Place in Heaven : MIKA - Mika is singing about how religion teaches there’s no place in heaven for gay people because the way we love is sinful. Father, won’t you forgive me for my sins? Father, if there’s a heaven let me in.

2016 - Son of a Preacher Man : Tom Goss - This 1968 song gets a gay update. The video tells the story of two gay teens struggling to understand their feelings for one another while operating within the confines of an evangelical church.

2016 - Trash : Tyler Glenn - In response to the Nov 2015 Policy of Exclusion by The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, Tyler created this video denouncing the Church’s restrictive view of same-sex relationships. The pain and anger are so raw in this video, it hurts to watch. These lyrics are an indictment, that he’d repent his days away if we wanted him to stay, but we throw him out like trash. If this is God’s church then there should be room for ALL God’s children.

2016 - Shameless : Tyler Glenn - The video has an old man in a black suit & white shirt tied up to a chair as Tyler sings You judge, but I don’t give a damn. I live a life so shameless. He lists things he does shamelessly now that once he would’ve been judged for: porn, one-night stands, alcohol. Tyler has now left the church and is not letting old men in suits make him feel shame.

2016 - G.D.M.M.L. Grls : Tyler Glenn - Despite the best efforts by this gay man to make church work, it didn’t because God Didn’t Make Me Like Girls.

2016 - Heaven : Troye Sivan feat. Betty Who - Troye sings candidly about what it’s like for a religious teenager to come out as gay. Without losing a piece of me, how do I get to heaven? Without changing a part of me, how do I get to heaven? All my time is wasted, feeling like my heart’s mistaken, oh, so if I’m losing a piece of me, maybe I don’t want heaven? Troye explains “When I first started to realise that I might be gay, I had to ask myself all these questions—these really really terrifying questions. Am I ever going to find someone? Am I ever going to be able to have a family? If there is a God, does that God hate? If there is a heaven, am I ever going to make it to heaven?” The video features footage from LGBTQ+ protests throughout history.

2016 - Sudden Death (OMG) : Tyler Glenn - In this song, Tyler expresses the initial shock of his faith crisis. I never asked to fall from grace. Catch me I’m starting to fall! Don’t know what all this is for! Keep comin’ at me with your disrespect. You went and started a war. Now I don’t care any more. I keep on living like it’s sudden death.

2016 - Devil : Tyler Glenn - A song that highlights the conflict between religious belief and queerness. I found myself when I lost my faith and not being able to pray the gay away. The constant in his world, what he’s anchoring himself to, is that his mom still loves him, and that’s important because studies show the acceptance & love of a parent makes a huge difference when someone comes out.  

2016 - Queer Gospel : Erin McKeown - This song was written in response to the ongoing trend of "religious freedom" legislation being passed by some US states. Love us as we are. See us and we're holy. In this shall we shall ever be, wholly ourselves.

2016 - Midnight : Tyler Glenn - The Neon Trees frontman gives an emotional song about his departure from the Mormon church but not from God. The ballad is accompanied by a video that shows Glenn removing his religious garments and replacing them with a glittery jacket, which is such a powerful metaphor.

2017 - The Village : Wrabel - There are lyrics in this song of what religious people have told him, and boy do they hurt. They say, 'Don't dare, don't you even go there, cutting off your long hair. You do as you're told' Tell you, ‘Wake up, go put on your makeup, this is just a phase you're gonna outgrow.’ There’s a line in the song that hits me hard: One line in the Bible isn’t worth a life. The video is beautiful, very poignant, it breaks my heart and gives me hope. 

2017 - Pray : Sam Smith - You won’t see Sam in church, but they say they’re a child of God at heart and they’re begging God to show them a way. I'm not a saint, I'm more of a sinner. I don't wanna lose, but I fear for the winners.

2017 - HIM : Sam Smith - This is a song about a boy in Mississippi coming out and the conflict between his sexuality and his religious upbringing. He is grappling with the feeling that there’s no place in church for him because he’s gay. The “Him” being sung is used both for God and for a boy he likes. Holy Father, we need to talk. I have a secret that I can't keep. I'm not the boy that you thought you wanted. Please don't get angry, have faith in me.

2018 - Explaining Jesus : Jordy Searcy - Jordy grew up playing music with his family and in his church. In 2014, Jordy landed a spot on NBC’s The Voice. In this song, Searcy is apologizing for how poorly we have been “Explaining Jesus” to others. He begins by singing If you're gay and over 85, you've felt for your whole life, that when God made you, he just messed up. The song ends with And I'm so sorry for all the wrongs. We're broken singers with broken songs. We paint our pride and call it truth. I'm sorry no one explained Jesus to you.

2019 - Hey Jesus : Trey Pearson - Trey made headlines in 2016 when, as the lead singer of the Christian rock band Everyday Sunday, he came out as gay. Three years later and Trey has a question: Hey Jesus can you hear me now? It’s been awhile since I came out, I was wonderin’ do you love me the same? As a person who struggles to reconcile faith with sexual orientation, I find this song quite moving. 

2020 - God Loves Me Too : Brian Falduto - Brian played the gay kid in the movie School of Rock. Now as an adult, Brian is back and singing a song that no one has to earn God’s love. Brian wrote the song after visiting a church that was welcoming and accepting of queer people. I look around and see I’ve found a place where peace and love abound. I’ve waited my whole life for the truth. It is true, God loves you. It don’t matter if you’re LGBTQ.

2020 - Chasing Rainbows : Big Freedia feat. Kesha - Freedia is a gay Black man who carries a purse and uses “he” and “she” pronouns. Kesha is bi. Together they put out an uplifting song. Freedia lists the various ways she’s been put down throughout her life by schoolyard bullies, religious figures and record labels. Kesha makes clear we won’t be put down any longer when she sings You know me, bein’ free. Won’t be silent, I pray for my enemies. 

2020 - Jesus Christ 2005 God Bless America : The 1975 - This song has Matty Healy pondering religious faith and love from his perspective as a queer person and describes hiding his sexual identity because of his religious beliefs. Phoebe Bridgers, who is bisexual, contributes a fragile and vulnerable verse. She sings of her love for the girl next door. Her love is unrequited as she is unable to reveal her true feelings to her neighbor.

2020 - Orphans of God : Ty Herndon & Kristin Chenoweth feat. Paul Cardall - The message of the song is that there are no orphans of God. We are all loved, we are all thought about, we are all created equally and God loves us all just the same. Ty Herndon is a country singer who came out as gay in 2014

2021 - I Know it Hurts : Paul Cardall & Tyler Glenn - This makes me think of a queer person coming to recognize their insecure place in church, how all those negative teachings were about you. I just wanted to believe, but how am I supposed to believe this about me? And then we find each other, queer believers who can understand what we’re going through, who know the hurt and the teachings and comments. For most queer people, they leave church and go on a different path. They’re not lost, a faint light at the end is guiding their way, they’re finding another way back home.

2021 - It’s a Sin : Elton John and Years & Years - This arrangement of the 1987 song by the Pet Shop Boys was recorded by the gay icons Elton John and Years & Years for the 2021 Brit Awards. The words are about a person’s lifelong feelings of shame and guilt for being taught that being gay is a sin. 

2021 - Born this Way (The Country Road Version) : Orville Peck - For the 10th anniversary of this iconic song, gay singer Orville gives it a country music makeover

2022 - Good Day (feat. Derek Webb) : Flamy Grant - Matthew Blake was a worship leader for 22 years who has become a “shame-slaying, hip-swaying, singing-songwriting drag queen” named Flamy Grant. The lyrics talks of coming back to church after having left for feeling oppressed. They’ve come back to church because despite what some say, God’s love is expansive enough for everyone. God made me good in every way, so I raise my voice to celebrate a good day. This song hit #1 on the iTunes Christian chart.

2022 - If I Was Gay : Andreas Wijv - 29 year old Swedish singer and model Andreas Wijk wrote this song and debuted it in a TikTok video where he plays it for his parents as his way of coming out. It’s a vulnerable song that many will relate to. If I was gay would I be what they say, just a stereotype? If I was gay how do I get to heaven when there’s “no church in the wild”?

2023 - Faith : Semler - Grace Semler Baldridge performs by the name Semler and is genderqueer and nonbinary. Semler grew up with a dad who was a pastor in the Episcopal Church, and sings of how the rejection of their identity by the church left them scarred. When my religion turned against me, they said my hopes and dreams were faulty. I showed these holes inside my hands, and they claimed they couldn’t see. Even as they struggled with the church, Semler kept a relationship with Jesus and found they flourished far more than they did in church, and now the thought of going back to a church is unappealing. But I don’t wanna get small to be in those rooms. After singing about their religion turning against them, we hear the lyrics Our God is good and able, and our God is flipping tables at the mess of love we made a religion that often didn’t accept their identity. This song was released in June and before Pride month was over it reached the top of the iTunes Christian music chart.

2024 - Hell Together : David Archuleta - This is a song of David’s experience at church as a gay person: Bow your head, don’t be bold. You’ll survive by doin’ what you’re told. It became too much and he worries what his mom would think if he leaves the church: All I want is to make you proud. If I would run, would I let you down? In response, she replies: “If I have to live without you. I don’t wanna live forever in someone else’s heaven. So let 'em close the gates. Oh, if they don’t like the way you’re made, then they’re not any better. If Paradise is pressurе, oh, we’ll go to hell togethеr.” A beautiful story of a mom supporting her queer child. In response to his mom, he answers that he’s worried about what’s ahead but is confident to take those steps together: You and me, that’s all we need. Blood is thicker than the pages that they read. I’m afraid (I’m afraid) of letting go, of the version that I used to know. I’m not crying, you are.

[bilesproblems]

Okay so for the record:

The terms that I will be using to describe anti-mspec lesbian exclusion are multilesbophobia and luniaphobia. In the past I have used bilesbophobia and mspec-lesbophobia but I'm settling on multilesbophobia and luniaphobia now. You can consider this the official coining post of the terms.

Full definition: (n) prejudice against mspec lesbians; the belief that one cannot be mspec and a lesbian at the same time; the belief that "lesbian" as a label is always monosexual; hatred, hostility, or animosity towards people who identify as a lesbian and with an mspec label.

Etymology: multi- from multiamoric spectrum, lesbo from lesbian, -phobia an aversion, fear, or dislike of something, used to describe certain prejudices like homophobia, fatphobia, islamophobia, etc. for luniaphobia, lunia- from lunian

I have decided to start using these words because "bilesbophobia" is not inclusive of non-bi mspec lesbians, and mspec-lesbophobia didn't flow. Luniaphobia flows great, however lunian is not a very well known term, so multilesbophobia is a better term to use when talking with those not familiar with the lunian label, since one could infer it refers to multi-spectrum lesbians

[reynard61]

So, why in the world is he doing this? I won’t pretend to have any special insights into the former president’s weird perspective, but the answer isn’t immediately obvious.

Sure it is. He's basically trying to paint Harris with the same "P________s" brush that he used against Senator Elizabeth Warren in 2019. He's trying to sow confusion and controversy about her racial identity in order to make potential Asian voters believe that she's abandoning that side of her racial and cultural identity and trying to rile up White voters by appealing to their anti-Black prejudices -- which probably (hopefully?) won't work given how a) creepy and weird he's being about it and b) we've already had a bi-racial president, so it's not like she's doing anything particularly novel.

[shrimpmandan]

What do you think about portraying problematic things in a good light in fiction? As someone who's more of an anti than proshipper, it baffles me when some people call out offensive portrayals of people belonging to marginalized groups but don't care when abuse/pedophilia etc. are glorified in fiction. It's totally fine to explore darker topics in fiction just out of curiosity or to cope with trauma but I think seeing traumatic things that happen to real people being glorified is kinda worrying.

I'd be glad to hear what you think. Have a nice day!

TL;DR: it's a recontextualization thing.

It's important to note of course that what someone finds enjoyable in fiction does not equate to what they find acceptable in real life, not 1-to-1, and it rarely ever correlates. That's not to say it never does, but I'll get back to that.

What I mean by "recontextualization" is that it can be a recontextualization of trauma. "If I portray my abuse as something positive or something that I wanted to happen, or that felt good, or that I was comforted and cared for afterwards-- maybe it won't hurt as much now." You can actually see this in real-world BDSM and the like, e.g. with rape victims using CNC to recontextualize and process their trauma with someone they trust and who cares about them. A lot of trauma victims see it as a reclamation of their sexuality, and you can easily apply this to incest, toxic relationships, and minor/adult relationships being portrayed in fiction as well.

But of course, it's not like you NEED to be a rape victim to have a CNC kink, yeah? 50-60% of women have one, and not all of them are rape victims. Some of them are drawn to the taboo. The power exchange. The "removal" of their autonomy in the context of a roleplay. That doesn't mean those women glorify rape, or think rape is a good thing. It just excites them, whether sexually or nonsexually. Would the same not apply to taboo relationships being explored in fiction-- the good, the bad, and the ugly?

I think you could also apply this to prejudice in fiction, to a degree. There's always this assumption that those types of works-- those involving raceplay, misogyny play, homophobia / transphobia play, and so on-- are written by bigots. Or that the only way you COULD enjoy that content is if you're a bigot yourself. News flash? I'm a bi man and I adore when homophobia is present in fiction. And that could include exploring the perspective of why someone might think homophobia is a good thing, or it being nothing more than a component to some vapid smut. There are PLENTY of minorities who project their trauma with dealing with prejudice into their works, and you can apply that 'recontextualization' argument here, too. A woman who has a misogyny kink as a way of reclaiming her oppression and for the illusion of having her autonomy violated, even though she consents to and has just as much power as her "aggressor" in the fantasy scenario, just as an example.

Of course, this all isn't to say people don't make bigoted or deplorable content for the EXPLICIT purpose of normalizing certain things or causing harm. Propaganda cartoons exist, wrought with racism and sexism and homophobia. There are people who genuinely believe that pedophilia is a good thing, or that BDSM relationships are abusive.

Anti-censorship is not anti-criticism and I feel like that might be where you're confused; you can support freedom of expression wholeheartedly while still critiquing the way something is portrayed in fiction, whether it be something taboo like incest, or something heavy like prejudice. The issue comes in when we accuse ALL portrayals of these things as being glorification. When we throw victims of oppression and trauma under the bus for not expressing their trauma in the "right way", whether it's "too heavy" or "too light-hearted". When we hound authors by immediately assuming malice and hate as opposed to ignorance and an opportunity for growth and education. When we put fanfiction writers who get maybe a few thousand hits tops on most of their works on the same scale as published, best-selling authors.

Yes, these things happen to real people. That's why we write about them. I think I'm pretty much allowed to glorify whatever I want in fiction when I've lived through nearly everything taboo, disgusting, and harmful you can think of. And hell, just because I have a thing for kidnapping doesn't mean I'm disrespecting my mother who was actually kidnapped in the actual real-world by an actual predator. Or is the taboo and traumatic only bad to portray as anything but "100% bad" when it comes to things that make you personally squirmy?

[celestialvexation]

✪ jaunty | he / him | trans bi nb | nearing 30 | taken by a handsome af babe 💜 | writer for whatever i'm feeling for

✪ kofi | fanfic commissions! | f-list | twitter

✪ DNI and fuck off: minors, fancops / antis, terfs / radfems, pedos / maps, A.I / N.F.Ts, crypto, incels / femcels, nazis, sexists / racists / bigots - basically anyone that holds prejudice to others because of skin color ( including white ) and gender ( including cis )

✪ DMs and inbox are always open! will not personally answer any DMs from blogs that have no age included

✪ i reblog a lot of random shit from fandom trash to shitposting. don’t expect me to stay in one fandom for long lmao

✪ 99% of the time, i do NOT tag triggers; the 1% being the tag nsft for imagery of nudity and anything else suggestive

✪ if you happen to skim thru my blog, yes, i do enjoy dead dove content that involves, but not limited to: incest, underage, abuse, age play, rpf, etc. yes, this is a safe space for those that enjoy the same stuff, and no, i don’t care if that makes you think i’m a nasty, shitty person. just block me and move on ↳ "i don't identify as proship / anti-" / "i don't like the whole proship / anti-" then i'm anti-harassment | anti-censorship of all fiction. i don't believe that people need to be shamed and labeled as shitty things just because the masses were uncomfortable with what they're doing in their own spaces. and i do bite back if they try that shit with me ↳ "okay, but i still don't like how / what you ship, write, and like-" get out. don't get tickets to the freak show only to cry when you see the shit that makes you uncomfortable

✪ tags ✪

jaunty rambles - personal posts

the good; the bad; the jaunty - basically a whole "jesus christ, what is going on with this dude"

jaunty stims a thing - all my stimboards

jaunty does a thing - anything else i make like picrews, graphics, etc

jaunty writes a thing - my writing

jaunty does memes - all the ask memes and what not. be sure specify the meme if you wanna send a very late one

kins - pretty self explanatory. i am kin with tricksters / jesters, space / celestial bodies, and rabbits

package for jaunty - any art / writing done by others that i've commissioned from

merry jaunty - anyone that gives me stuff to cherish <3

OCs - the tags will be the individual characters! to learn more about the lore, go here and here + got another oc that's affiliated with silent hill here!

sona; jovi rangel - might not do much with them, but know that i have one that's an androgynous cosmic jester with a cowboy aesthetic going on. read about him here!

✪ fandoms, ships, characters, and projects will be tagged accordingly and most likely abbreviated, if applicable ✪

[female-malice]

Bisexual academics have historically been annoying.

Check out this abstract from an academic article in the Journal of Bisexuality from 2003:

GL vs. BT: The Archaeology of Biphobia and Transphobia Within the U.S. Gay and Lesbian Community

Heterosexism against bisexuals and transgenders exists not only in the straight community, but in the gay and lesbian community as well. Are "biphobia" and "transphobia" examples of "phobias"- irrational fears? No, such heterosexist attitudes are all too rational, mirroring social tensions, which only appear to be an ahistorical psychological phenomenon. Rather, as the GLBT community developed, power relations arose which resulted in the four different groups (G/L/B/T), assigning them different social locations. Prejudice in gay and lesbian communities against bisexuals and transgenders is heterosexism because it is, among other things, an accommodationist attempt to disavow these more "radical" forms of sexuality.

–

So, it's been 20 years of this.

In the US in 2003, gay people had no legal protections or marriage rights. Religious conversion therapy was booming. Gay people were regularly the victims of hate crimes. And gay suicides were common. Many people lived their lives closeted.

Meanwhile, bisexual activists found the time to write academic articles about how homosexuals created an anti-bi/anti-trans social hierarchy. 1990s bisexual activists started a petty culture war against gay activists. Then, in the early 2000s, they grouped themselves with the transgender movement. They argued that the B and T were the lower classes suppressed by the L and G ruling class. They argued that the B and T faced a common problem: the closed-minded attitudes of gay people.

[mytransrightsblog]

Warning To You

So, I'm Aaron, transsexual man, no idea what the fuck my gender is, greypansexual and panromantic, 20. I'm an anarcho-socialist hope punk whose final fuck flew ten years ago. Don't try me.

Always willing to answer questions about being trans or help/listen to other trans people. I'm someone who stopped caring what others thought of me a long time ago, just keep that in mind. I'll try and be nice if you're being genuine.

I am extremely, EXTREMELY, anti-radfem. All of them. Anti TERF, radfem, SWERF, TIRF, transmed, and all you other nasties. Feel free to send me hate over it- I have anon enabled for a reason, so that I can screenshot your ask, block you to find out your username, and then make a post shaming you for being a fucking coward. Go ahead. Make my day. You will find no sympathy from me, not after y'all nearly killed me.

If you police other people's identities (fools who are anti bi lesbian, and he/him lesbian, anti lesbians dating trans men, etc,) you're in the wrong place. Not your life, not your business. They aren't hurting anyone, leave them the fuck alone.

Kink at pride, separatists at all are idiots, protect trans kids, tans kids deserve to become trans adults, let kids transition, trans women belong in women's spaces and trans men in men's spaces (even though we're more likely to be assaulted by cis people in those settings than they are by us,) we should be allowed to do what we want with our own bodies with factually-informed consent, even a hysterectomy, aro/ace people are queer, being trans isn't a mental illness and even if it was, transition was the only way it could be treated back when it was considered such. Bodily. Fucking. Autonomy.

There are no stigmas here. I believe that respecting other people's HEALTHY beliefs is the key to generating a healthy society. You don't hurt people and I'm a lot nicer than I seem.

Also moderate support needs autistic, and autistic and other neurodivergent deserve bodily autonomy too.

Remember Leelah Alcorn, Nex Benedict, Brianna Ghey, Brandon Teena, and all other trans lives senselessly ended or harmed by prejudice.

[brainjuicey]

guys I'm going to speculate about personal wealth as the only viable option to achieve a quality of life in modern ireland because of a systemic failure of the gov.

the cultural and social climate in Ireland is incredibly isolated and mainly survives on the community driven status quo, and part of that means talking to anyone on the street about anything. its taboo to hold a prejudice against men (you'll find no sympathy or self awareness in the good hearty country people for the actions of others because they're so convinced of their own Catholic virtue) I like that their belief and strength comes from a place of goodness but at the same time 😀 as a young person there's no space for change (I want to posit the growing perceived idea that most change in Ireland is bad, in the last 40 years the country has changed dramatically in every way)

as governmental policy, regulations and aspirations were influenced by western advancement, the approach to urban planning and management has gotten bloated and useless. rapidly, life in Ireland changed, often reflecting the cultural urban centres of the UK. the ideology behind that choice is found in every corner of the irish design industry "new is good, old is bad," and the only use for old world customs and traditions is tourism. Ireland is fundamentally about living a simple life and while those wealthy enough to access the resources can do that (education, comfort, fine commodities), everyone in between rural country life and "high society" (the majority of the population) has been left in limbo. for young people it can seem like the only choice is to become a wealthy Dubliner, go abroad, or stay home and work in a shop or pub. there's no shame in any of these. again, people have been trying for decades to create alternative routes that ultimately submit to the same rules and guidelines. any chance at true enjoyment of social security and standing must be enjoyed alone. the gov plays no part in the organisation or support of communities. people are disillusioned with police for inactivity and unfairness. the gov is like an absentee parental figure, building massive housing estates with no engagement or organisation of most often- large groups of vulnerable people with children who grow up idle and angry. housing for upper class people are no different, devoid of organised thought and a poor mimicry of the enjoyment of Irish homes- the peace of isolation. instead they are hostile.

i think the anti-social sentiment of citizens disillusioned with Irish life (quite a lot of people) comes from a disappointment and anger towards a longstanding neglect of responsibilities of the Irish government. anyone should be able to contact their representative and do what they want, be it fireworks or a driveway or a solarfarm or a playground or parking spaces or turning an empty building into something new.

I reject the free markets ability to come into a decrepit area that people suffer for, homes uninhabitable in the town centre, footpaths unusable and unsafe, and take advantage of the market to create a luxury-amenities business.

while being bi-partisan to any prejudice or resentment is a prize quality in old Irish culture, modern Ireland is riddled with resentment. an economically diverse society openly mirroring a hierarchy is a relic of medieval times— a historical period still present in the Irish cultural mindset. in this way, the urge to be all the same is a negative hindrance on improving quality of life. the answer isn't personal wealth, or thinking you've found the solution (a cushy lifestyle that you've carved out for yourself, half in half out of society when it suits you). progress has to be momentous enough to encompass everyone in the community, a socio-cultural-economic boom of energy that inspires people enough to embrace their traditions actively and not abandon them as a sacrifice to achieving a "better" life.

[gaymormonmike]

QUEER TERMINOLGY

There have been several posts about queer labels and what terms or labels people prefer.  Let me share with you what my aged, long-term label experiences are.  When I was 8, I lived in a neighborhood where boys settled things with their fists. My parents encouraged that. One day, this kid I hated was running from me and yelled you are a queer!  I went home and asked my mother what that word meant. She reacted as if I had said the F word and wouldn’t tell me. Don’t ever say that word again was all I got. I persisted and she told me it meant men who liked other men. I let it go as I had no idea what that meant or why that kid called me a queer. By teen years, I heard a lot of terms for queer men, homosexual, fag, faggot, c*** s*****, and others.  I did not know anyone who admitted to being a homosexual. My friend’s aunt was a lesbian, but we did not know what that was till years later. I was in nursing school in NYC with a school mate in a taxi. The driver asked us why we were going to Bellevue, and we said we were in nursing school. He slammed on the brakes, pulled over and said you faggots get out of my cab now. We convinced him we were not queer, and he took us the rest of the way The term gay was being used about then. Before that gay meant being happy. That was my gay period, and I told a few friends that I was gay. I did not like the term queer because of its’ negative connotations for me. I also did not like homosexual as that was the term used by psychology as a mental illness. Terms started flying in those years as gay liberation began in earnest. Drag queens, queens and many more were said. Gay liberation was not new, as my older gay friend, took me to Mattachine society meetings. I was in the closet and stayed there. Then after I married a woman and did no longer identify as gay, I took on the term same sex attracted and later unwanted SSA. Along the way, I also learned about sexual terms that were used to either enhance sexual experiences or to dominate someone. You can guess what those were. Then recently, I came to realize that I am gay or queer or bisexual or something in the LBGTQ+ spectrum. Maybe several initials over the years.  I do not oppose these terms but am not totally comfortable with them. I wish we did not need them. But as long as there is hatred, suspicion, prejudice, discrimination and anti-response to people that use these term to describe themselves, then we need the terms.  Whatever you are comfortable identifying with, be proud, stand up for your rights. Tell people you can trust who you are and that God loves you because he created you as you are and He loves you as you are. I am comfortable with being called gay or Bi or queer. I will honor you and whatever term you are comfortable with.