#and as much as i shit on them for it akdhsk i prefer for them to ignore the whole absent parent thing

[hauntingblue]

Can't believe I spent so much time thinking kiku and kinemon were dead... they really got me there...

[maschotch]

Hi same anon from the dad!hotch ask and djxjdsk I love your responses (also didn't mean to trauma dump on you in the first two lines lmfaooo I swear I actually have thoughts and I'm not just here for free therapy) but another thing that bothers me is that there are so many other parents on the show who the writers just decide are somehow perfect parents, it's just hotch who's absent. I think you talked about how jj works late and they never make her motherhood an issue, which is annoying, but what about Matt Simmons in the later seasons? He has like 5 kids but is somehow shown with them as this great father. And Kristy is staying home, but like, so was Hailey? And I guess we're supposed to believe hotch works more but Matt and JJ would be gone just as much and we don't often see hotch working super long hours when he's not hunting foyett...it just feels unfair that the others can be painted as perfect parents where hotch is like this absent father who feels perpetual guilt over not being there for Jack. Which makes sense with his little guilt complex, but still. And even with Emily? In children of the dark, when she's talking about taking in Carrie she's like "I can totally take her in, I have room and money" lmfao and maybe that's just her not realizing what it takes to raise a child but like,,, why is Jack the only child in the show who needs both parents when every other BAU kid is written as perfectly content with one parent outside of the beauru

it seems like post-100, they steer clear of addressing any issues that may come up w any bau parents. i think the situation is a liiiittle different for hotch bc he’s a single father (god. sometimes i really gotta let that sink in skdjwdjdj) but they never give any indication that there are any problems. jack loves his dad, hotch loves his son, and jessica is there to pick up the slack.

i think they realized that they really wrote themselves into a no-win situation. luckily will and kristy are super understanding and are fine taking care of the kids (even tho they both have jobs… which wasnt even an issue in haley’s case but she was still unhappy). and i think thats such a big reason why its easy to see haley as a bitch lmao bc all these other bau spouses are saintly and accept their roles like the good little side characters they are. they cant bring up the absent parent thing again otherwise it’s never gonna get solved without kicking the character off the show (which they did for morgan…… and honestly good for him im so fucking proud)

[liathgray]

yes hi its me 💜💜💜 writnon 💜💜💜 which is still the cutest nickname and im glad you gave it to mee akdhsgsh

im never gonna say no if you ask if i want an example i love you and trust you and admire you So Much pls lemme see the Illegal Planning Spreadsheet

also a bitch is nonbinary (agender or voidgender but im still ??? about which cuz 🌟 voidgender 🌟 but also 🎊 agender 🎊 yknow???? i think voi/void pronouns are The Shit which honestly makes me feel like im leaning towards voidgender but who knows ill figure it out eventually qkdhdgk) anyway the point is im currently going by they/them pronouns if you dont mind!!!

p sure thats everything i wanted to say? im still: chugging along with that spreadsheet outline but its really helped me keep track of everything yhat goes everywhere!!! 🤩🤩🤩 so thats good

as always theres no pressure to qmswer i hope youre doing well oMG i just remembered: i got accepted into the uni i applied to!!!! so ill hopefully be transferring there in the fall if all goes well 😃😃😃😃

qldjdhsk alright Now i think its everything akdhdjdld

stay safe i love you

- writing anon

ik i said voi/void but also like(its writnon again hi),,,,,, the idea of being referred to as galaxyself or starself is making me *vibrates at a speed unknown to man* wish there was a non clunky way to use black holes as a neopronoun but its chill ig

no one:

not anyone:

not a single person:

me: ik im writnon but im gonna be So Goddamn Nonbinary in ceces inbox today akdbdbdk

(its writnon again sorry) but then again pronouns arent indicative of gender identity and i am p comfy in the agender, yknow? its nice every time i say it to myself any and all dysphoria gets thanos snapped, i think i just think void pronouns are v v pretty like galaxy pronouns are,,,, like bruh,,,, imagine being referred to as a galaxy like,,,, multitudes??? bro i contain a universe inside me how about that nebulas, black holes, stars thatre born and grow and die only to be pulled back together like arent we all made of stardust??? the iron in my veins is the same iron that burns in the heart of stars and holds them together like its so pretty and powerful

akdhsks sorry its just someone asked me during class yesterday about my pronouns (i have them set to they/them on the website i use for college) qnd they wanted to know if they were using my preferred name i 🥺🥺🥺🥺 im still on the gender high yknow????? -writnon

LMAO dude its chill I’m also mega superhell nb so I don’t mind the rambles!

So.. okay should I go with they/void? I mean I’m probably not gonna be referring to y'all too often with pronouns BUT you did give me a lot go options! I just wanna be sure on which are chill to use!

Sidebar wow I... don’t think I’ve ever really viewed it like that. I’m glad you’re able to find some part of yourself in this idea of galaxies and something universal.. something with multitudes.... something thats still in and a part of you. That’s just. I’ve never framed it like that to myself before! And I just love that for you sm! It makes me so happy and excited to see the ways people connect with gender cause its so abstract and personal... wow..

Also I TOTALLY get the Gender Euphoria!! Like, okay recently I decided fuck it im bored and wanna take a class. First day the TA asked for names and pronouns and everyone has been using they/them for me since!! hearing people say it out loud really just Hits Different and im not out to ppl I see irl so... I maybe had to turn off my cam and cry lmao.

gender euphoria pt 2 electric boogaloo: I got my first binder recently!!! I put it on and Oh My God the?? the FEELING??? I was smiling so hard all day and jumping around cause I didn't know this is what being in your own body was supposed to feel like!!!! aaannddd now im rambling too lmao 

tl;dr: I love that for u and 100000% get the gender high MWAH