#also i am Praying to god that this is not a cringe joke im layign my life on the line here

[littlebabycrybtch]

I can understand autism and asexuality being tied together in an individual. Do you think that plays a role in your situation? -random adolescent psych nurse

hey thanks so much for the question, it means a lot that you’re going to a source to ask directly about it !!so the first thing i’d say is that, obviously most autistic and aspec people don’t like the stereotype that they Have to go together or can cause each other, but generally speaking since this is a general question, this experience is really just a person to person thing with a pretty even split rn among this overlapped percentage in the community. Personally, i do think theyre slightly connected for me ! cuz sex and relationships and romance are obviously really social, theyre rooted and revolve around being social and having a social connection of some kind, so having a disability that affects my social ability just doesnt mesh well with conventional romance. and like, i hope it goes without saying i definitely still have a healthy amount of social connection besides that, i show love and happiness even though it has to be in my own slightly less conventional forms, and compared to most people, my tolerance bar for social situations gets maxed out a lot quicker, but ive had a lot of time to understand both how i function with autism and how my sexuality works. imo i think my asexuality stems from Many aspects but in the end, intimacy and sex is just a downright uncomfortable thing for me to navigate, and trying to doesnt improve my state of mind, and i have other perfectly fine ways to experience social closeness, so i rly dont feel its necessary nor do i feel like im missing out or isolating myself. its just that how i connect with people is different, and in different levels. im very sex positive though ofc and understand how important sex can be a for most peoples happiness, but theres still a very VERY large amount of aspecs that are not autistic and actually dont have any social issues at all, so thats definitely still smth to remember. i couldn’t 100% answer if i think id still be ace if i Wasnt autistic (bc its all i know so i have nooo idea), but i can at least say that either way i think id be fine w/ it!

and additional sidenote;;; honestly the way we’re treated sucks and the direct trickle down of misogyny and rape culture targeted towards us is the bigger problem, but ableism actually does have a very strong presence over our community too rn, even for non disabled / neurotypical aces. its just sort of perceived as an inherent ‘mental problem’, but it really is just a sexuality and preference for Most of us, the same way any other label is. how somebody goes about their sexuality is a wild roller coaster that only they can conquer. overall its very complicated and every situation is different, but i hope i explained my one part of it well enough 👍