#also fyi some much older folks / some people far outside of The Queer Discourse use bisexual to mean trans or intersex

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received possibly the most polite solicitation of my life today... ummmm content warning for description of transphobic sexual harassment but! when someone opens with "i hope i can ask without offending you" it's an immediate "yup. this is a 'what are you' conversation" to me, but turns out the guy was cruising and not a chaser. like ok sure, fundamentally what's the difference? i am a little over vilifying everyone who sees trans people and wants to bang them. but STILL normally that kind of interest from random strangers on the street goes into 'you should be grateful some people are into tr*nnies" reaaaal quick once i am not receptive. but this was some guy pretty far on in years, with a mobility aid *full* of daily necessities at the buy nothing event i run cleanup on, and at first my other friend was helping him find pants that fit him. and later he addresses me with that "hope i can ask without offending you.... Are you bisexual?" and pressed me when i said something vague about 'just knowing i'm different from the majority' (0% interested in detailing my experiences for strangers. i keep it honest but insubstantial). and i was ready for it to turn into him being a jerk but he actually said "i think i'm kind of like that too." n after a little clarification/sharing i started to drift back to the cleanup and said to let me know if there was anything i could help him with n he said "maybe there is but you're working" and im like. oh, well, is it something quick? and he said: "don't tell me THAT went over your head." and honestly he was kind of sweet the whole time! and YES he was absolutely angling for a handjob in the park restroom that always smells like piss and YES i was absolutely not into it but. it was very different from how i am used to randos clocking me and trying to hook up and while i wasn't flattered i was oddly moved