#THIS ISN'T ABOUT ME
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When was the last time you ate something green and NO GREEN M&M'S DON'T COUNT
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I just don't think guilt is a good feeling to make central to your progressive activism. You aren't repenting, you don't NEED to repent. You don't have to crawl through the desert for miles apologizing for being white or straight or using plastic straws or whatever. It's not about your guilt, your complicity is forced onto you by society, you don't have to feel guilty for that. But we do need change, and I think the promise of a better future for all of us is a far better goal than just focusing on killing yourself to repent for sins you didn't know you were committing or that don't even exist in the first place.
Hope is a motivator, spite is a motivator, love is a motivator, guilt is a punishment that gets in the way of actually doing what needs doing. I don't want you to cry and apologize to me for all the evils privileged people have done to the oppressed, I want you to show the fuck up to help those oppressed people, which you cannot do if you're stuck in a spiral of self hate.
It's not about your individual sins or actions, it's not really about you as an individual at all, it's about us collectively doing the hard work to make the world a better place. It might feel good or cathartic to focus on yourself and your own perceived sins, but trust me, spending your entire life feeling like you first and foremost have to apologize profusely for just being here is not helping anyone, least of all you.
#like I've dealt with the feelings of white guilt they fucking suck#but they also aren't helping people of color at all#this isn't about me
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Reposters really get on my nerves here, not memes or whatever but like actual content reposting. Just rb the picture you don’t need the internet clout that bad. Other people actually spend time and effort (and sometimes money) to share thoughtful, original content on here its tacky behavior to rip that off.
#this isn't about me#saw someone I follow's art reposted without credit which rubbed me the wrong way#they were tagged by someone else already to let them know what happened
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When you're too tired and sad to eat but you can't go to bed until you eat because you're too hungry to sleep but you're too tired and sad to eat so you just lay on the couch slowly rotting as the minutes tick by one after the other and all you want is to be happy and fed and in your bed but no it's COUCH ROT TIME
#for legal reasons#this isn't about me#I'm just saying#sometimes it be like that#and sometimes like that it be#ya dig?#i also have to pee#and have had to for the last three hours#God bless having a bladder because I'm sure that will be the thing that finally gets me off this couch#I'm making it sound like the couch is the problem but i promise it isn't#i love my couch#i just don't love me#and that's the crux of the issue LOL
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hey . with some negativity popping up in the rpc as of late , i just want to remind my mutuals that the people behind these blogs are actual people with real feelings . you don't know what people are going through and it costs nothing to be kind . people feel powerful with their anonymity behind a screen , but it doesn't make it an excuse to be a shitty human being . we're literally playing barbies online . no one is perfect , nor should we hold people to that standard either , but if you can't communicate with people then perhaps you shouldn't be on this website in the first place . the golden rule of the rpc is literally communication . it's how we plot threads , how we learn about other people's muses , how we write replies . if you think it's okay to make someone's experience here miserable then maybe you should take a step back and learn how to be kinder .
#˚ ༘ ❅ ⋆。˚ ꕥ ━━ ❆ ( 綾華 / ooc )#honestly ?? the takeaway is to be kind#don't hold onto hate#this isn't about me#just from stuff i've seen
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One of my friends turned out to not be a great person and I'm dealing so well with this. I'm dealing with this so so so well im dealing with this so w
#shes not here (thank god) so don't worry its not about you#THIS ISN'T AFFECTING ME THE MOST WHY DO I CARE SO MUCH WHY AM I HURT THIS MUCH#I SHOULDN'T FEEL LIKE THIS I DON'T WANNA FEEL LIKE THIS#THIS ISN'T ABOUT ME#THIS WAS NEVER ABOUT ME#vent
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So here's a tip if someone shows you their art and an achievement related to said art and it's not a type of art you personally enjoy you DON'T INSULT THE ART
#this isn't about me#but yeah my eldest brother's reaction to my brother like 'wow my photography made the cover of this magazine'#was 'ugh i hate that gothic stuff'#and just yeah nah fuck you bro#i the goth sibling WILL show up to your house in corpse paint if you do that again
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If you really like someone's stories, leave a comment on their work, follow that person, reblog with a comment or a reaction!
Do not pressure them to update a story you're not reacting to. It looks suspicious as heck, and doesn't feel genuine.
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imagine messaging someone and saying that a canon character in a popular tv show isn’t gay to be paired with a teenage oc and instead suggests to pair the said teenage oc with a canon character from the same show that is literally a child
#this isn't about me#it's about an ask that my friend recently got#and i'm just so baffled#so anon draws the line at shipping a gay oc with a canon character whose only been know to have an interest in women#but not at shipping a 18+ oc and a 15 year old ??#the fuck is happening#ky talks
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Some people don't have fursona's only because they do not have ability to draw their minds creation
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The wound you gave me
I can't face my email.
I log on and see 99+
And I know most of it is spam
But I'm afraid to see your name pop up
So I ignore it again.
I flinch when my phone vibrates
But I won't turn sound on
For fear of hearing your ringtone
Yet I ignore it anyways.
I pretend not to know how to look
And see which of my friends is online
Because I couldn't bear to find you there
As if you never left me after all
I wish I didn't flinch
When I saw the scars they left on your back
Because I know the feeling
Except the wound you gave me refuses to scar.
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sometimes repeating the actions of your forefathers does not limit one to the same outcomes. maybe given the chance your circumstances, while similar, become a new cycle. oftentimes, you aren’t given a choice. it’s time to learn to play the cards you are dealt with
#3 am thoughts#this isn't about me#i guess this is a writer's blog now? maybe?#i just have a lot of thoughts#mostly about motifs and themes
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can't believe we're all adults being forced into the club penguin level of censorship in 2024
#ramble#if you say unalive in front of me i will personally kill you with my hands#you just can't muffle and censor and hold someone's hand through some things#some things are horrible. and they should be spoken aloud and they should upset you. because they are horrible#the second we started kidzbopifying the world was the end of taking anything seriously i think#i'm not even joking i've spoken to people older than me who won't even say the world sex#this isn't the playground you're not going to get in trouble just let us say the word!!!!!!#how am i supposed to listen to you when you won't even say the thing you're supposed to be talking about#yes this is the fault of the platforms with their censorship rules but the fact that we all just go along with it like it's not dystopian#you do know it doesn't stop with cursing right. people are already having to censor queer terms because they get flagged as inappropriate
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she's singing in another room and my dog is asleep at my feet. my grandma asked me why i haven't found a man yet and i laughed. oh, you know. i like my house clean.
my girlfriend is also my man is also "my partner" if i'm in a professional setting. yesterday we went to a ren faire and a man mimed at me - you're together? and at my delighted nod, his baffled, you're gay? made me laugh. a woman with rainbow hair said i love the two of you together. you're both so beautiful it's absurd.
my dad introduced my partner as my "..... friend. or whatever" the other day. he knows we're dating. in the same way, i was never able to get my sister's husband to stop saying that's gay like it's 2008. he still uses the word fa***t, and my sister's defense of him has always been well, he's just kidding.
my lover and i dance to old music in a tiny kitchen. we judge new music together and take food critique very seriously. we watch love is blind before we fall asleep and agree that if they had a queer season, it would be bloody but also make for excellent tv. of fucking course queer people would know someone for only 2 weeks and agree to get married. what are you saying.
at a bar with friends, a man puts his hand on my wrist. got a boyfriend? and yes, i do have a boyfriend, she's amazing. i am texting her while i wander around a gas station named after geese. i am visiting a swing state for a wedding. in the candy aisle i overhear: she's actually like a lesbian it's disgusting. two teenage girls with packaged sandwiches in their hands, giggling. no literally, like. i'm not, like. okay with her being there while we're all, like, naked and changing.
my girlfriend and i tailgate, drink gin and cider out of cups. from the frat group beside us, a man corrects himself with one of his friends: bro, i mean, nonbinary entity, and it makes everyone around him laugh, myself included. he razzes his friend the same way i would have killed for at 19 years old - like nothing happened, he continues: you apply sunscreen like an alien. he does a little sassy (and fairly accurate) dance interpretation of the motion. his friend is laughing so hard they're crying.
i am lucky, i live in a safe neighborhood in a safe state. my masc passenger princess comes up from DC. i drive her for an hour to where all the leaves are a violent arrangement of color. we walk along the trails, letting autumn into our blood. in this part of the state, there's a lot of pickup trucks and trump signs. when we chastely kiss before getting into the car, i accidentally make eye contact with a woman holding her child's wrist. she looks disgusted. she looks fucking pissed.
two hours later my girl and i are eating dinner on a patio, soaking in the last warmth of new england sun before the chill of winter sets in. we are giggling and trying to talk through plastic vampire teeth. at another table, i see a young woman sit up straighter. i watch her watch us. she blushes and takes her partner's hand from across the table. shy, like the taste of evening has just become something deeper.
it's worth it for this moment, i think. my lover is still humming the same song she's been singing for four days straight and i don't want to kill her for it. her guitar is beside my bed. her toothbrush is in my bathroom. in a few moments i will make us lunch. we are lucky enough to have found each other. it is lucky enough to be in love.
#writeblr#wlw#i often think about like.....#being happy in a gay relationship is sometimes so odd#bc u can forget how stupid ppl are.#bc ur so USED to being gay. and u forget other people GENUINELY ARE homophobic#so it's like. girl pardon?????#but also there are moments where it's like. ohhh the kids are alright#like watching someone razz someone else.... so fucking wholesome#“lemme get this bitche's pronouns before i make gentle fun of them” .... i would have KILLED for that.#THAT is how u know ur accepted#not just tolerated#..... when ppl are like. sure ur nonbinary congrats but WHAT is this fucking sunscreen application#ps idk if "razz'' is a real word but someone asked what it means -#i've always heard it as being a term for 'gentle & friendly teasing'' which like#i personally notice more from my guy friends but is like - when a person isn't#LIKE ACTUALLY teasing u (it's nothing personal/mean) they're just laughing w/you about something#my friends often put on a little voice and call me an anemic little bitch#like 'ooooo the anemic little bitch is cold??? does she need a mouse blanket#bc she's SOOOO SMALL AND ANEMIC???''#and it doesn't hurt my feelings (it makes me laugh very hard) bc 1. i actually called MYSELF that first#and 2. i'm not sensitive about it!!!#a proper razz is when you are ALSO in on the joke - i ALSO think it's funny#for some people i personally find that when they razz u it's when they love u -#they've noticed something genuine about u and love u enough that u know they're not being mean#this is cultural and personality based of course but i'm hispanic#if someone isn't making fun of me it means they hate me . obviously.
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One more for the collection of things that are not about me.
One of the most important survival skills as an adult is internalising the idea that other people being rude or dismissive towards you for no apparent reason, is most often a reflection of their problems (shitty attitude, bad day, work stress, family stress) and usually has nothing to do with you.
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