#I have blogs blocked because their content makes me unhappy

[helpimhyperfixating]

P-P-P R E A C H

Is it just me or the JoJo X OC fandom is getting kind of toxic?

Welp, it is not getting toxic, it already was. And sadly not only the JoJo X OC fandom, but every one of them (flashback to little me seeing those videos of jealous little girls that scream "SANS IS MINE YOU CAN'T HAVE HIM!! *procedes to kill you*, fucking rolling my ass on the floor because I though they were so ridiculous)

Because 💫people are such beautiful creatures💫

Now, I'm lucky to have not met those people yet (knocks on wood), but you probably know who I mean. The ones that say "NOO JOTARO IS ONLY MINE YOU CAN'T HAVE HIIIM", or "gosh your ship sucks, it's so lame", or "stop shipping your oc with Jotaro it is cringe" and other and other and other...

I saw these people somewhere else and not on my blog (fortunately), and this is so fucking disgusting. I already said it and I'll said it again to them (who will not read this, I'm very sure of it because they're such idiots but I don't care): IF YOU DON'T LIKE SOMETHING, SCROLL DOWN. BLOCK THE BLOG YOU DON'T LIKE. JUST. DON'T. SEND. HATE.

You don't know how a person could react to that hate, you don't know how much even one of these comments could affect one's mentality, because yes: behind an OC x Canon or selfship blog, THERE IS A REAL PERSON WITH FEELINGS. A person, a human that is probably struggling with real life's problems and having their blog is the way they cope with them. This is their happy way out to get distracted and feel happy when they feel down, or just somethig they do for fun. Either case, you are ruining that person's happy world.

Why? Just- because???? I really don't see the point of sending hate when you just can IGNORE what you don't like. And no, it's not a big deal, they're fucking fictional characters so you don't need to be the the "hero" of the situation by sending hate to them thinking "aaah, I've done a good thing. Now the Internet is a better place!"

Just- just no.

How are they hurting you in any way?? Just- AYO JUST FUCKING SCROLL DOWN IT'S NOT SO HARD TO DO HAHA

But now, to the people who are jealous about they're s/o and see someone else having a blog about them but with their OC. DO👏 THE👏FUCKING👏SAME!!! Just scroll down, or block the blog you don't like. Easy game!!

People, THEY ARE FICTIONAL CHARACTERS!! NO CANON CHARACTER IS NO ONE'S POSSESSION, BUT TO THEIR OWN CREATORS!! Jotaro isn't yours, is fricking Araki's.

But you can still ship yourself or your OC with him! Because who says you can't? Is there a law for it? For loving a fictional character? No, so just go ahead and do it.

And also- to give it more lOgIc if people still aren't satisfyied with sharing their s/o- in the JJBA lore with Vento Aureo and another thing I will not say because then it'll be spoiler, we are 100% sure that other universes and multiverses exists, that means infinite Jotaros for everyone and so INFINITE SHIPPINGS!

That means that everyone gets to have their own Jotaro, the way they like him in THEIR OWN universe, because there are infinite of them and so your universe is somehow canon. Do you like it better put this way? I hope so, because then idk what else to say if not "block and scroll" the things you don't like.

Let's bless the people that actually do block and scroll the ones they don't like, instead of sending unnecessary hate, because not everyone can like the same thing! It is totally normal! But they do what it is CORRECT, so let's bless them 🙏🙏🙏🙏

[bunnwich]

It's Supposed to Be Fun

(a letter to my friends in the twst fandom)

I've been wanting to make this post for a while and these thoughts may seem scattered but I’m gonna try to express them. 

Lately, I have seen many friends and moots that either are leaving the fandom or feel guilty over not having posted in a while or losing interest in twst. On the other side, I also have friends being harassed.

This a reminder to remember why you joined this community to begin with. I know that keeping up with the fast-moving pace of fandom and comparing ourselves to others, can skew our perspective on these things.

It’s supposed to be fun. 

Why do we post art or write? Sure, partly for recognition, there's no denying that. But, why do we create, I mean really? For enjoyment. Not for others, not to be “popular” FOR JOY.

So, whether you’re dealing with people critiquing you or feeling guilty about not creating. My question is this: Why waste so much of your time on something that makes you miserable?

Did it stop being fun? Why? Haters? Loss of interest?

To my friends who feel guilty for not creating and not sure if they lost interest in twst: 

Don’t feel guilty. At one time, the creation of your twst content was natural. It's what you did for fun with friends or for yourself. Revisit that mindset and think - if creating twst content now will bring that same joy it did before.

If the answer is no, then maybe it’s time to pivot. It’s okay for interests to fade. It doesn’t mean that time, memories, or the friends you made are lost. Connect with your friends, we will understand! We still love you! It's not a race there's no time limit, just pick up were you want to. Draw fanart of old events or OCs.

To my friends who have been harassed: 

I say this with sincerity…. People who harass others over fictional characters are fucking losers.

Like… There’s no other eloquent way to encapsulate it. I’m starting to not care for the reason anymore - If you harass or be shady to others over a ship or fictional character. CONGRATS! YOU ARE A LOSER.

We all join fandoms as a hobby, for fun. We’re all just kids in the sandbox playing pretend again… and if you are the type of person to go up just to “kick the doll out of someone’s hand" or make commentary on how “their way of playing is wrong." You’re a loser. I have a life outside of twst, we all do. Someone saying my ship is wrong or cringe is just so laughable to me. We have to make fun of these people more for being so goddamn lame.

Imagine being so unhappy that when you see someone having fun you HAVE to comment on it. By all means, if it gets you through the day...talk shit to close friends or even post about it on your own blog. (THAT WAS ALWAYS ALLOWED.) Don't bother creators directly. Don't be a loser. I sure see tolerance leave people’s bodies when they see a fandom opinion they don't like. (And this is coming from someone who has lots of opinions on these things! But that's why I always put the disclaimers that, hey this is just MY opinion.)

Discussion is one thing, unhelpful comments are another. We shouldn’t give these people the time of day. Curate your online space. Yes, when you post things online you are subjecting yourself to scrutiny. But, we as creators need to stop letting these people have power over us. Period. We do this for free!! FOR FUN. The best thing you can do is create shamelessly.

Delete weird replies, block whoever you need to do to rid yourself of these people who have nothing better to do. Keep your peace. It’s supposed to be for fun. You don’t owe anyone a response.

The twst fandom is like a little family to me and I guess I feel protective over the people in it?  I have made many friends and memories because I joined it. And even dispite a handful of the negative experiences (AKA: A couple of “losers" that I’ve had to deal with.) I’ll always look fondly back on this time.

The key for me has always been to just…create for myself. I originally made bunnwich for me and one friend to make fun little arts about our Yuu’s and now I get to have lots of friends to share it with! I’ve transitioned from an OC blog to probably more of an Oc x Canon blog…but I don’t care tbh. I just…draw what I feel like. I know there are people who probably dislike me for that or feel strange about my content and that’s fine. I’m still gonna keep drawing it, loser.  

And I just want you guys to do the same, twst or not.

I can’t forget that all my followers and friends are a bonus, if I had never joined tumblr I’d still be drawing the silly shit I draw in peace. And while yes, I do want to grow as an artist and sell more merch and keep growing... I can’t forget my initial excitement for this silly little game. I like to talk about it. I like to write about it. It inspires me.

It’s supposed to be fun. Please remember that. I know it can be discouraging to have others being shitty to you. Or going through a creative drought. But, try not to let this stop you from creating what you love.

[hellaverseconfessions1369420]

Long confession ahead, apologies in advance.

Look, I don't get heated about shipping. I like what I like, and I look at things I like. If I don't like whatever someone is posting, I'll filter the tags, and if they aren't using the tags appropriately, I will block them. It's fairly easy for me to avoid ships I personally dislike most of the time. I do all of the things I'm supposed to, and yet I'm still having this problem.

There is one singular ship on God's green earth that kills all of my enjoyment for both of the characters involved, and it is radioapple. I have never felt such strong emotions about any other ship before in any of the fandoms I'm part of. It's fucking everywhere. I genuinely cannot use this website if I want to see Lucifer or Alastor fanart/fanfic, and I'm not moving sites.

But God. I'm so fucking sick and tired of seeing "this post contains filtered content: #radioapple." When S1 first came out, I counted 37 blocked posts in a row on top of #Alastor on one given day. I had to scroll through 37 blocked fucking posts before I found ONE that wasn't about fucking radioapple. And that isn't counting all the OTHER Alastor ships, because of course that's all anyone gives a shit about anymore.

I'm on mobile, so I can't use browser extensions to make Tumblr's filtering system actually do what I want it to (delete every radioapple post, forever). I also don't feel like buying a laptop for fucking Tumblr. I've been getting back into HH after falling out of it for a while for related reasons, and I forgot how much angrier and more unhappy I am coming out of #Alastor or (to a lesser extent) #Lucifer than when I went in. Which is super awesome considering they're my two faves.

I wish I was kidding when I say I have actually cried real tears more than once over this. I'm aroace, and I thought maybe for once I'd get to feel at least a little bit included and represented in fandom as a whole. I thought having a canon aroace character would be that for me, at least one tag I could semi-comfortably browse and feel like I'm actually part of shit and not a spectator for once, but obviously not. I don't even get to look at fanart of a character I enjoy without being constantly reminded of how different and alone I am, even when that character is different in exactly the same way as me. Even characters like Alastor that are written to be like me aren't written for me. Because why would anyone create anything for someone like me to enjoy when they could instead jam a little more sex and romance in there?

I once scrolled through #Alastor blocking all the radioapple posters for so long that I reached the bottom of the page. Tumblr would not show me any more posts and I had to reload it. I blocked 209 different blogs, and it barely made a dent. 209. I can't curate my way out of this. I genuinely think I just don't get to like those characters anymore, and it fucking sucks. I want my deer man back.

TL;DR: I cannot enjoy these characters I deeply relate to with how prevalent and fucking inescapable this one ship is, and I'm not sure how to fix it. Frankly I'm not sure it's fixable, but I would love it if this wasn't something else I just don't get to have like everyone else. Someone tell me what to do about this. I want to have fun too.

I understand why you would think that. I’m probably aroaceflux and I can see some alastor in me (aroacewise, not serial killer wise) and why you wouldn’t want to see the ships you don’t like. Unfortunately that’s how many fandoms work, they’ll just keep shipping.

to be honest, I don’t know what to say, but thanks for the confession and I hope things get better for you

[sluttywoozi]

Sluttywoozi's Guidelines

Interaction Guidelines

Blank and ageless blogs that follow me or interact with my posts will be blocked.

Why do I block blank blogs?

A) I have no way of knowing if you're a bot

B) I want my followers to interact with my posts! If you've never titled or decorated your blog, it's unlikely that you'll do anything more than give me a like. I would prefer to have a smaller amount of followers if it means they reblog and reply to my posts rather than having more followers who only like them.

Why do I block ageless blogs?

This is an 18+ nsfw space and I want to keep it that way! It makes me very uncomfortable to think of minors reading my smut and the only way I can attempt to prevent that is by blocking blogs without an age indicator.

Ask Guidelines

Please approach me with kindness! Behind this blog, I’m just a girl, and your words, whether negative or positive, have an impact!

Please don’t spam me! I consider more than two asks a day to be spamming. This makes me less likely to answer you as it is overwhelming and puts extra pressure on me to address everything you have to say. I am not a diary or an advice column, I’m just an amateur writer who likes to chat.

I welcome links but understand that it may take me a bit longer to answer your ask if it has one, just because I need to be in a certain mood to watch/listen to things. Please warn me if the link is nsfw!

I’m happy to talk about my personal life and give advice, but please refrain from trauma dumping or ranting in my inbox. I’d like it to stay a safe, neutral space for myself and for all of you. If you’re talking about a sensitive subject, please preface it with the appropriate content/trigger warnings.

If you’re dropping in to suggest something, romance me a little first! I stopped taking requests because they made me feel like I was expected to be a writing machine, just pumping out fics based on what other people wanted. I do my best to write for myself first now, and try to make you all happy with my writing second. If it feels like a request just without the specific word, I likely won’t answer.

I try my best to avoid interacting with minors as my blog is an 18+ space, so if you are off anon and do not have an age indicator in your bio or pinned post, I can’t answer your ask until you add one. It’s a rule of mine to block minors/blogs who don’t have an age indicator, and I don’t want to break my own rule.

Suggestion Guidelines

I do not take requests, only suggestions 💖 Not everything sparks inspo for me so if I don’t write something based on your suggestion, pls don’t take it personally!

Who I’ll Write For

Seventeen | Ateez

THINGS I DON’T WRITE

non-consensual/dubious consent | butt stuff | anything illegal |  ageplay | petplay/hybrid au | mental illness | domestic violence | abuse | foot stuff | food play | infidelity | high school!au | unhealthy relationships | unhappy endings | substance abuse | fluids other than cum or spit | dom reader | idol x idol | student/teacher | public sex |

THINGS YOU WILL USUALLY FIND IN MY SMUT

piv sex | clear consent | multiple orgasms | WAP reader | horny and in love | communication | aftercare | non-idol au

Any asks that do not adhere to my guidelines will be deleted <3

[sometipsygnostalgic]

Something needs to be said for "dashboard curation".

When I was a kid I used to follow everyone who interacted with me regularly but that led to a situation where my dashboard was completely out of control. I'd spend hours doomscrolling through it, it'd be filled with news posts (which are something you should never, never trust without doing at least a bit of research) and often you'd have one or two problem bloggers who DON'T STOP posting, I'm talking 30 reblogs in twenty minutes, five times a day, who block you from viewing all the other "i post once a day" blogs you want to see.

Since remaking almost 10 years ago, I only follow specific blogs. I don't worry about being "mutuals" with people. I'll follow a blog if I like it, and that's it. If someone starts posting too much, starts posting content that makes me too unhappy or suspicious, I unfollow. There are some friends I repeatedly follow and unfollow depending on how their own blog changes.

I don't follow any news blogs. I like to look things up across many news sites at a slower pace. Sometimes I see my partner share news on my dash. I'm more aware than ever of my lack of information because the BBC - one of my most important news outlets - has proven to be conservative trash that demonizes the homeless and uses wishy washy language about human lives in Palestine. So now more than ever I want to find ten sources saying the same thing before believing it.

I unfollowed someone on Twitter yesterday that I've been following for years because they ceased to post any fandom content, they were reblogging nothing but fund-me posts of questionable origin and full of shocking images. And I respect your desire to spread the word, and your trust to not ask any questions. There is some honour there. But I don't want my feed to be full of shocking posts demanding cash I haven't got. So, unfollow.

[neteyamyawne]

Important thoughts on anon hate or hate/rude comments in general :

I'm tired of this shit, I perfectly mentioned that the reader is 19! And this comes under stepcest! I mentioned DO NOT READ IF IT MAKES YOU UNCOMFORTABLE and that means you don't have to engage either!

you don't want fics that are related to this then fix your tags in the settings! You don't like my content then block my account, I'm here for fun and share my love for fictional blue avatar aliens, Don't comment, like or interact in any way with my blog if you're so butt hurt about fictional writings.

@rougedex If you're so unhappy about pedophilia, where this doesn't count as one, the reader age is shown as above adult age, Go talk about the real pedophilia that happens in real world, not here on Tumblr where we post stuff about FICTIONAL beings!

Unnecessary hate and reporting blogs just because you don't "like" the content they post is ridiculous! We are not posting for YOU specifically, we post for our happiness and for our contribution to this fandom, i already stated that I won't hold back for unnecessary hate towards me.

Many people here like @pandoraslxna, @teyamsatan, @strongheartneteyam, @neteyamsoare, @loaksbitch many more got hate for no reason at all or got shadow-banned out of pettiness, when all there was to do was for the haters and idiots to scroll over but NO! They have to take that precious time out of the day to hate on something people spend time and work on, and when all of this is free and not a penny is paid for us to write this, our free time is spent on writing these, it's not your job to criticize us over it, don't like it, leave it

This platform is free for everyone to use, your consumption of content is NOT on us! It's not our fault that our fics came on your fyp, and honestly we don't intend to have our fics on your fyp, it's YOUR For You Page, if it ended up on it then it had something to do with your interaction algorithm, even if it did, you don't have to go out of your way and hate on the fic or the writer for it, your likes and dislikes are different, the one posting the fics have different likes and dislikes so keep that in mind before hating on another fic or post again!

That's all I wanted to say since Luna got her account shadow-banned but I didn't get the time to but now that I got this hate comment, i knew i had to write this.

Vaishnavi xoxo 💋

[crystalverse-project]

introduction to my blog

my name is ace. i'm 19, non binary, pronouns are they/them, i have autism and anxiety. the raichu in my icon is my pokesona, pancakes.

this blog isn't much. it's just about my comfort au about dantdm called the crystalverse and other posts about why he as a character makes me feel happy and safe. i'll post art and writing and stuff, maybe shitposts, merch posts, just silly things.

i just need an outlet. literally look at my character

some important things you should know about me before reading my blog

1. not in the fandom

i'm not in the fandom. i'm not in the mcyt fandom, or any fandom. i just like dan. i like the old mod showcase series, it brings me comfort, so i write about it. and i made up an au because it's like a safety net in my life.

2. blog is only about dan

i don't know much about other mcyt series. i know some stampy lore and i like it but that's about it. dsmp, empires smp, hermitcraft, even the ones dan was in like shady oaks and qsmp i just have literally no idea. if it has the letters "smp" in it assume i know nothing.

seriously guys the biggest youtuber crossover my mind can handle is episode 6 of mcsm. and that's only cause you don't need prior knowledge of them to get it

3. i respect them even if i don't watch them

i have the full confidence all these series are enjoyable but in my view trying to learn about so many characters and so much lore and so many youtubers i don't watch is my textbook definition of overwhelming.

i mean, you can't be a fan of everything, right?

simply put: my mind can only take one of these at once. and it's the same series my mind landed on ten years ago. and i'm content with that, because all anything else will lead me to is burnout, anxiety and overstimulation.

i just wanted to say this because i feel like by making this blog about one minecraft series i automatically like x amout of others, when i just like one.

tldr: it's not mcyt i'm fixated on. it's just one series that happpened to be one

4. it's the characters

i like dan in a very specific way. so specific that i'm not even sure if i count as a fan/teamtdm member. especially with some other places i've tried posting on and opinions/headcanons i've made i'm probably not. so don't consider me that. just consider me a fan of the characters because that's one thing you can guarantee if nothing else.

5. intent for this blog (why do something so specific?)

for myself. for my own happiness and to cope with my own struggles. most of the time i'm anxious and unhappy, so i need to cling on to what makes me happy. and if that's an old minecraft mad scientist goober series, and an au i made up just to crank up the comfort, i think i could do worse.

this might all be too personal and deep, but i don't want this blog to look like something it's not.

warnings:

if you ask anything about the trayaurus is homophobic meme i'll block you. idc if it's a joke. i don't find it funny and i don't appreciate my comfort character getting dragged through the mud like that.

relevant, this blog's au focuses heavily on c!dan and trayaurus as a couple (ship known as danaurus) this has NOTHING to do with him irl. i almost didn't do this blog or publish it online because the few times this was mentioned it was all negative but i might as well go all out.

this is an anti gen ai blog. i do all my art and all my writing by myself.

where you can find me elsewhere

ao3 (where my stories are hosted)

...that's about it.

anyway. enjoy what i have to post, if you want to. ^ ^

[alarrytale]

The "fan" was unintentional LOL but I believe they were together at some point and for a long time, but maybe they're not now, maybe they are. And I believe Liam's last relationships were stunts, I believe he is bi or pan, just like Zayn. But I don't think about it too much, what matters to me is that they are happy, whether they are together or not. Zayn loves his daughter and loves being a father, that's as clear as day. Liam loves his son, he is beautiful like him and C decided to preserve his identity. Furthermore, I think that saying that the children are not theirs is to doubt the character of both of them, that is absurd, to think that they would be capable of bringing innocent children into the world just to prove something.

I feel like Zayn is happy, very happy, and that's what matters to me. He's single, doing what he wants without having to show it to anyone, and happy with his first tour.

Liam continues to be sabotaged by his team, he was going to release the album last year or early this year and was blocked - he is starting from scratch. A very hard-working boy, but who needs a break, needs to be truly happy and have a good team. That he knows how to recognize his talent in his work, promote it in the way it deserves, and take better care of his career. He doesn't seem really happy right now.Someone needs to remind his team that he is a singer, we love hearing about his life, but not like this. Not with him acting, They should be smarter and see that no matter what Liam does, people WILL attack him, and it would be better if he didn't show up so much so that doesn't happen, so as not to take everything he says out of context.

He's not happy this way, being boycotted, and I'm sad that we can't do anything about it. He deserves better.

I'm sorry for the long text and I'm sorry for the mistakes either, english is not my first language but im still trying LOL

Hi, anon!

You never have to apologise for your english! Not on this blog! If i don't understand you, i'll ask you to clarify, and i did. It was the "ziam fan" that was throwing me off, not your english!

Okay, so i get more where you're coming from now. I wouldn't consider you a ziam right now though if you're not convinced they're currently together, even though you're convinced it was true in the past. I haven't seen anyone who are convinced they're currently together think they're both fathers.

I agree with you that Zayn seems the happiest and most confident he's even been. On the other hand, Liam is really struggling mentally and being the most unhappy i have seen him ever. Every new video i see of him is more incoherent than the last. So i guess i can't picture them being together while they seem to be on polar opposite sides of life contentment, leading two different lives and are on different career paths. Zayn has found meaning, who he wants to be and what makes him happy. Liam is struggling with all that. I can't picture them together if they don't have the same lifegoals, agree on which lifestyle they want and which continent to live on.

Regardless, the most important thing is that they're both happy, and Zayn seems to be, but Liam i worry about constantly. I don't think Liam is being sabotaged at all, his music isn't selling so the label can't afford to put it out. They'll lose money. It's no ill will from his label. They're trying to breach out and get positive attention on him by him being a talent show judge, and he might endear himself through that. Because Liam needs image rehab in order to sell his music, and he isn't mentally ready to do that right now. It's hard to watch his attempts at fan engagement through his unhappy, manic and cringy ramblings. I think he needs to sort himself out before attempting to win over his people to his side again. The TV job might help position him to put out an album that will sell. So i don't think he's being sabotaged, it's just that they don't want to set him up to fail, because they can't afford that. And honestly, i don't think Liam's mental health can either.

[irlkisukeurahara]

I guess this is ship discourse but honestly I don't even care. My blog, I blog what I want. Disagree? Cool, just block me ffs.

I think some non-canon ship enthusiasts are mad weird sometimes. Not in general, but a very specific niche of them. The kind that shoves their ships into the canon instead of just electing to ignore the canon.

I'm gonna use BLEACH as an example with a bunch of shit I've seen. No hate to the ships themselves, just this specific type of person:

The IchiRuki + IshiHime shipper that, instead of ignoring IchiHime and RenRuki, they create this scenario where Orihime is cheating on Ichigo with Uryu and Rukia is unhappy with her marriage with Renji insisting that he's an abuser or something. You know, absolute fucking nonsense that is nothing like the characters at all so that they can push their ship. (Byakuya's closer to being an abuser to Rukia in canon than Renji ever would in any universe, but y'all don't wanna talk about that)

It's weird! I think it's absolutely ridiculous to push that the canon ships are bad and your ships are better when you don't even understand basic characterization of the characters in question! Talking a lot of shit about the canon ending, but then proceeding to keep the ending of the media, but throwing in your preferred ship as the characters committing adultery. Just make a new ending where your ship got together instead!! Why prefer non-canon ships then in the same breath respect the canon to that degree? And how can you call blatant cheating a ship moment? If you consider that to be the basis of a good, healthy, or positive relationship (If you like/write ships that are unhealthy on purpose, this doesn't apply), maybe you shouldn't be making ship content at all!

I don't think you should have to adhere to canon by any means, with ships or anything else. I'm only implying otherwise. Non-canon ships are great, that's kind of the entire point of shipping! I ship Renji with like 5 different characters so understand my POV is not to say that you should stick to canon. My point is just that, if you gotta create this horrible mischaracterizations of the characters you like to justify your ship, maybe just, don't? Make a headcanon where the ending was that Ichigo got with Rukia, Orihime got with Uryu, and Renji stayed a proud single like a normal person. Why must the canon ships be "evil" in your eyes just because you prefer one that isn't canon?

[acourtofthought]

I used to really respect this blog but you’re turning so anti-Azriel that you sound like an el/riel. He’s no where near perfect and no where close to being my favorite character (so don’t come at me like I’m some kind of stan) but like…chill out. Your favorite characters don’t get better or more page time by trashing others. Your book theories don’t come true because of how much you ship two people. There’s this epidemic in this fandom where shipping clouds judgment, and it’s very few blogs where it doesn’t happen.

I honestly thought the elucien side was fun and sweet, but people like you are ruining that. You’ve preached about how above you are from el/riels and gw/nriels fighting that you quite literally mimic their weird behavior. Congrats on becoming your own worst enemy.

I don’t like to leave hate. Consider this constructive criticism.

Delete this if you will. I’ve blocked you anyway.

I'm glad you've blocked me because no one should be forced to read content that makes them unhappy however I'm not going to follow your suggestion to "delete this" because sometimes a girls just got to journal her thoughts and after your post I've got many 😂

If I were an E/riel then wouldn't I be singing Azriel's praises? I'm not sure how that comment makes any sense.

Also my Anti E/riel posts, Az's problematic behavior, and Lucien deserving his HEA before Az go way back so I'm not sure what new content you're suddenly having the problem with.

It's incredible when other people decide to box you into what you're allowed to write about. That because I support Elucien, all my content must be hearts and flowers in regards to Elucien at all times. Seriously, who the hell is anyone to place that label on someone? SJM writes raw and real characters who deal with heavy stuff, she's not a fluff writer. So it's alright to have strong opinions.

Don't get me wrong, there are definitely Elucien blogs that are 100% positive all the time and they are a gift to us all however let's not go around shaming the blogs who argue against some of the takes they've seen in the fandom.

I am an Elucien through and through however my username does lend itself towards the series as a whole.

I'm also a realist and that means I know that Az is getting a HEA. That means that I'm capable of picking up on the clues that the author has left for us, clues as to which female Az is well suited to be with, clues as to the direction Az might be headed in, clues as to which female he's got the chance at the healthiest relationship with. I also don't act like Az is a lost cause because that's not SJMs style. He's a main character and I know by the end, everything will fall into place. So maybe posts I've done demonstrating why I think Gwynriel is well suited and the fact that I do envision a HEA for Az has led someone into thinking I have a great opinion of Az?

Right now I don't, there is nothing that I find appealing about Az and I'm not sure why that's an issue.

Do you know how many posts I've seen where others don't care that much for Elain? Sure I wish that weren't the case and I'll argue in favor of Elain but I'm not about to go on to their page and tell them "chill out. Your favorite characters don’t get better or more page time by trashing others. Your book theories don’t come true because of how much you ship two people. There’s this epidemic in this fandom where shipping clouds judgment, and it’s very few blogs where it doesn’t happen."

In your own words there are "very few blogs where it doesn't happen" so I'm guessing the list of those you follow is fairly short? If you're a Gwynriel than I have to imagine you've seen a few judgemental posts on Elain that are clearly a result of the ship war. If an E/riel than I imagine you've seen the same slander in regards to Lucien and Gwyn. And I can't be the first Elucien you've met who isn't Az's #1 fan. Did you unfolllow those blogs with a farewell message? Or maybe I'm just the singular lucky target of your "constructive criticism".

Someone can disagree with me and create posts on why Az is their favorite, they can explain why they disagree in hopes I'll change my mind but why is it that crazy that I'm not all that impressed? Honestly, what makes Az all that special or awesome?

Right now there are so many posts building Az up to be some glorious creature who is so much more worthy than Elain. Or so much better than Gwyn who is just luring him. Who is a poor boy who was screwed over by Mor. Whose opinion that Lucien will never be good enough must be taken as fact rather than the more likely scenario that it's jealousy through and through. And I don't agree with any of that, there is NOTHING that makes Az better than Elain or Lucien or Gwyn.

Do my posts speak untruths about Az? Is he not fixated on the wrong women in unhealthy ways? Is he not insanely jealous of Lucien and being a dick as a result? Is he not a hothead when it comes to Rhys and Feyre as of late? Has he not made Mor uncomfortable at times, something she herself tells us?

While people are entitled to their opinion, I disagree with some of the takes placing Az as ruler on high too superior for the likes of Gwyn / Elain (choose your ship) and my posts are a rebuttal of sorts.

Which is no different than what the entire fandom does. One side claims Gwyn is evil, the other side argues against it. One side claims Elain is not good enough to be with Az, the other side argues against it.

I do think Gwyn deserves better than getting dragged into the mess that is Azriel's love life right now. However I think SJM is writing it so Gwyn is it for Az and I look for the positive in their relationship as a result. I anticipate the ways they will be good together eventually (as there are hints of it now) but since Az and Gwyn as a thing is not the current situation, I don't like Az all that much at the moment. The Az of the moment is yeesh and that's why the first half of the bonus was a shit show. Am I supposed to like Az for how he acted with Elain? For the way he acted with Rhys? For the way he spoke on behalf of Elain, that she should not be allowed near the Trove? For what he thinks of Lucien? If I applauded those moments then I'd be an E/riel.

I love when people gaslight with phrases like, "I thought the Elucien side was fun and sweet and people like you are ruining that". As if Elucien's can never be anything but fun and sweet. They MUST listen to the bullshit around them and take it up the ass with a smile on their faces. Somehow only other ship stans are allowed to yell the loudest to have their voices heard but as soon as an Elucien does it, we're suddenly the problem. Somehow E/riels are allowed to talk smack on Gwyn and Lucien and it's acceptable, some Gwynriels and even Eluciens are allowed to talk smack on Elain and it's acceptable but nobody better dare speak ill of Az!. If the posts tearing down Gwyn, Elain and Lucien did not exist in the first place, maybe there would not be the need for posts pointing out that Az is not the Grand Poobah of the ACOTAR world.

Eluciens are no better or worse. We're here trying to make our points and stand up for our characters (who really are two characters who get a lot of hate from many in the fandom).

Also, my ship is clouding my judgement of Az?

Most of Az's personality is wrapped up in his desire to be in a relationship, his self loathing or his anger at many many people. That's not my judgment being clouded, they are common refrains throughout the series.

Is it not possible that your ship is preventing you from actually paying attention to Az's personality outside of Gwyn and the problematic ways he's acting?

Sure he and Feyre had a few good scenes where he taught her to fly and it definitely seems like there's a good relationship forming between he and Nesta but that was a newly introduced thing. And yes, there are the fun brother moments where they're ribbing on one another, in the sauna or playing chess. But outside of that, what have we really been told of Az? He doesn't talk to anyone about the truly important stuff. He hates an entire group of men because they're Illyrians. He actually sulks when having to follow orders or simply ignores them. He is a bit of a dick when it comes to Lucien. For each warm and fuzzy Az moment there are way more problematic ones, for now.

Am I supposed to love Az for these things? I know Az will be different by the end of his book but right now, what is truly amazing about him? What makes him a stand up guy? Do I have to put him on a pedestal for running into danger and being a protector? Tamlin did that too yet it didn't win him favors with the fandom.

I'm an Elucien so isn't the goal to point out why Az is not well suited for Elain and why his behavior in regards to both Lucien and Elain is problematic? If I didn't take note of those things than wouldn't I think that Az is right in thinking Lucien isn't good enough for her? Wouldn't I think Az was heroic for just trying to protect Elain from the Trove?

Every Az and Gwyn interaction I've written about has been extremely positive and demonstrates how I can see the good in Az. Because there is an amazing vibe that surrounds the two of them. But compared to the Az/ Lucien / Elain stuff in the last few books, we have been given more problematic behavior from Az than we've been given positive behavior and honestly, that is basically the majority of Az's character these days. SJM has written much of his persona as being obsessed with Mor and a bond, his anger at the Illyrians, his anger at Eris, the jealousy he has over Lucien and Helion, his anger at orders he doesn't agree with.

For me, it's always a scale. I expect a character to have flaws, I don't expect them to be perfect. However the pro side of the scale needs to weigh more heavily than the cons side and that's not where Az is at for me right now.

Az has good moments, absolutely. Even villains are probably likeable in certain scenarios (not that Az is a villain but I'm making a point). But a characters "character" is more telling when they're at their worst. It's in how they treat others even when they don't like them. It's whether they unfairly take out their problems on those who don't deserve it. It's in their ability to communicate in a mature and healthy way.

For me, Az being sweet to Feyre during flying lessons, kind to the priestesses during training, his thoughtful gift for Nesta at Solstice, etc. don't really add up to all that much when stacked up against his more problematic behaviors. I'm sorry but one or two "awww, how sweet" moments don't eclipse the other things right now. I think it's SJM showing us who Az is capable of being but it's still overshadowed by the rest. The way he's disrespectful towards Feyre in SF, they way he disobeys his High Lords orders during a war, the way he would completely wipe the Illyrians off the map if given the chance, the way he's got issues with Lucien for no good reason at all (come to think of it, Az has issues with every single male in the series outside Rhys and Cassian), the way he can't control himself in important political meetings, the way he pouted after Rhys and Feyre told him not to go after Briallyn, the way he, at 539 ish years old doesn't know how to communicate to the people who have done nothing but love him for 500+ years.

I expect that balance to eventually shift but I'm not there yet. And I do think Lucien deserves a chance to prove himself before Az gets a HEA with his own mate after his having little respect for Lucien's own bond and Lucien in general. I'd like a lot more space between Az's history with Mor and his fixation on Elain before Gwyn ends up with him because she doesn't deserve to be stuck in the middle of a Jerry Springer-like episode.

And I've never preached at being above anything. In fact I'm quite sure I've mentioned I will match the energy of that which I see around me because sometimes being nice and sweet doesn't get you anywhere when dealing with certain people or groups. When others have sent anons on how well I hold my temper I respond with a personal acknowledgment that I know I got a bit feisty and apologized for it.

That will be all for now. I'm done "preaching" and I hope you've enjoyed the gospel of ACourtofThought.

[unforth]

For the sake of my sanity I block very liberally in the main danmei tags. If I see an anti, I block on sight. Heck, if someone is just posting opinions that make me uncomfortable - even if I agree with them! - I'll often block, because I have to go into that tag everyday and it's just not worth seeing things that make me unhappy.

So today I see a post and I'm like...this sounds kind of anti-ish? But I'm not sure? And when that happens I go to the blogs and poke around a little, cause usually it's pretty obvious on a cursory inspection. Sometimes they even given themselves away in the blog description. To whit, today's blockee:

What. The actual. Fuck.

Can you even IMAGINE functioning in a fandom with this attitude??? What's even the point? How is someone who feels this way not miserable and angry all the time? (They are. They must be.) Like, look, most of us are here to take all the barbies characters and mash them together in fun ways cause we are adults and if we want to make them kiss, we can. Like it's that easy. Lan Wangji and Jiang Cheng are kissing right now, because I said so.

I'm just.

How?

Why?

What's even the point of being like that?

If I just want the characters exactly how I believe them to be in the source material what do I even need fandom for? There's a huge amount of official content, art, like 5 adaptations...why even enter a space that'll be a source of continual fury?? I cannot even fathom being this person.

Anyway needless to say I blocked them.

[lovecolibri]

Being upset is so valid, I know it’s just a show but WHATEVER, you should allow yourself to feel what you feel! And you should also be allowed to have opinions and share them on your blog lmao I’ll be honest, I have several friends irl who watch 911 and ship buddie and we aallll cannot stand this show anymore lmao and it’s very liberating to be able to speak your mind. Sadly fandom, especially Tumblr for some reason, seems to be hellbent on making passive aggressive comments on people who don’t like what they like? I totally agree with you, if people enjoy it good for them, I’m not gonna make posts about how you have to be stupid to like it cause I don’t think that’s the case?? We are just looking for different things in a show and that’s okay! However I am a blocking machine cause I don’t see the point in reading takes that are so different from mine 😂 but it is very frustrating that any negative comment needs to be censured or you become the devil and also you are not capable of understanding long form of media and also you should stop watching the show hskshdk I have stopped watching the show and I still like to check what happened and I still like to complain, what can you do about it 😂 anyway I hope you’re okay, and take care of yourself! I remember when Roswell made me soooo mad and I had to deal with it alone and it sucked 😔 and you don’t have to publish this if you don’t want to, I don’t mean to create drama or anything, just wanted to be supportive 😂

Hey, thanks Nonnie! I think for a lot of people (I'm for sure one of them, yay neurodivergency), when you find something that's a source of serotonin, it can be QUITE the crash when it stops, and no matter how low your expectations, if you struggle with emotional regulation, the rollercoaster can be rough. Curating your experience is a MUST, and knowing how to manage when your brain tries to get the best of you is also a must! Sometimes that means commiserating with others who are also unhappy (NOT going into the inboxes of people who clearly disagree with you. stop that), sometimes it means logging off and doing something else, sometimes it means reading or writing fic or making content that makes you happy about the thing, sometimes it means not looking at ANYTHING about the thing. At the end of the day, we're all just trying to do what works for us.

As a survivor of RNM, I thought I could handle this but I think RNM got SO bad SO fast that it was always a lot of "here are 3 good things that people will make AMAZING fics/metas/content about and 85 things you will need to ignore or you will start seething with rage". Where as 911 was so consistent for so long that watching it struggle so hard (across the board, not just with Buddie, though that seems to get the brunt of it on the "nearly unwatchable" scale whereas other stuff is more "meh. they could have done this better") has been really rough because there is already so much love for the show built up and we have SEEN what it can be when it's at it's very best. And disliking certain arcs or story choices doesn't necessarily mean throwing the whole show out! There are LOTS of things I love about this show, and I'm not at the point for me where I'm ready to let the show go and I've never really understood the "don't like, don't watch" attitude every time anyone brings up a single complaint. It seems very "you HAVE to love every single thing and choice or you can't watch the show" when most people have things they both like and dislike about pretty much everything! It's okay to not like every single choice! (though if you legit find nothing to enjoy about a thing then it's maybe not for you and that's okay!)

Thanks for checking in! I have a lot of other stuff going on right now so it's very much like "why is this the thing we are focusing on, brain? Why are we allowing ourselves to feel like this? It's a show??" but hey! Sometimes our brains do whatever TF they want and we just gotta manage as best we can. At on the bright side, tumblr has filters! You can block tags! You can block content within posts! this will let you remove certain stuff from your experience without necessarily having to unfollow people. BUT! You can also unfollow people! You can block people! Make your experience what you want! And learn what works FOR YOU to manage your disappointment. Some people are "gotta get the anger out to let it go" people, and some are "gotta find the positive spin" people and some are both or neither. Find what works. Do that. Don't be dicks in people's inboxes, and don't drag the cast/crew into the drama on public sm platforms, they don't plan out the storylines.

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→→→ lev • he/they • late-20s

icon drawn by @princehoneytea & coloured by me ♡

hello ♡ figured id make a sideblog just for borderlands and fic content! find me @snailmp3 as well!

my fic tag on this blog is #lev.fic (links, extras, sneak peeks, etc) original text posts are tagged #lev.txt (updates, answered asks, general musing, etc) original image posts are tagged #lev.png (photos, art, etc)

i dont have a dni list/criteria; if i dont like what you post about ill just block you ♡ minors are welcome, but i am an adult and i do reblog adult orientated art/fic so use your best judgement and stay safe :)

currently writing: for another fandom (╥⁠﹏⁠╥⁠)🙏

on hold : Error: Connection Unavailable, a rhysothy fic (for euca♡) // The Three Most Important M-Words, a series of related but mostly stand-alone rhack fics in a vague canon-universe au (wip: Better to Beg Forgiveness // wip: Business Lunches)

planned/early stages: Lose Condition (rhack time-loop tales-au) // SWPLYFWYA (tim-centric rhackothy siren-au) // you were human (tim-centric story)

→ please do not message me about fandom/ship discourse, i do not care and i do not want to hear about it. block me instead

→ please reach out to me about any adaptations or translations of my works. do not cross-post my works to other websites or translate any of my works without specific, individual permission (fanart is highly appreciated; please tag me if you post it♡)

masterlist of my borderlands fics below the cut 👇👇

Series:

The Three Most Important M-Words (Rhack)

Murder, Moonshots, and Marriage: the three most important M-words!

A collection of stories that take place in the same vague canon-universe AU where I use the parts of canon that I like and ignore everything else. They can all more-or-less be read independently of each other but some make reference to events that happen in other stories.

→ Meet-Awkward 4.3k [G] (Rhys & Jack's first meeting)

→ Better to Beg Forgiveness [T] (wip)

→ Business Lunches [T] (wip)

→ Rhys deserves some murder, as a treat 1.9k [T] (Rhys gets to be the jealous one)

→ The Three Most Important M-Words 24k [T] (Jack forgets their anniversary)

→ What does "trans" mean in this context? 3k [T] (Jack doesn't know what trans means)

→ Two Birds With One Stone 13k [T] (Rhys meets Angel)

Stand-alone works:

→ Dead Dogs 1.9k [unrated] (one-sided Jackothy with an unhappy ending)

→ The Devil Doesn't Bargain 40k [M] (Rhysothy soulmates au)

→→ Extras 2.4k [T] (deleted scenes from TDDB)

→ Error: Connection Unavailable 2.4k [T] (Rhysothy Jackpot dlc au) (wip)

→ someone will probably love you for who you are [T] (rhackothy au) (wip)

→ Lose Condition [T] (Rhack timeloop TFTBL au) (wip)

→ you were human [unrated] (no ship)

if there isnt a link that means i haven't posted it yet ♡

you'll notice i almost exclusively write T rated fic & that is because i am a baby who cannot write smut ♡ pls do not expect explicit content from me ♡♡

also, i am open to fic/art trades! i do only write for certain characters/ships & only for borderlands (right now) but feel free to shoot me a message if you have something specific you wanna read (or even just to share headcanons/au ideas)

i currently dont have time for requests/trades :(

[caspalooza]

2022 Art Summary & Reflection!

A proper blog post, this one! ;D I'll be talking your ear off about my art under the "keep reading" break, if you feel so inclined. Otherwise, please appreciate my 2022 art overview (ooooh. aaaah.)

So! 2022. Oh, 2022. Yeah, this year SUCKED! BIG TIME! Or at least, it sucked in terms of my, ahem, artistic journey (sparkle emoji). Graduating high school and stuff was cool. Anyways, I feel I should be unhappy about my art progress (or lack thereof), and I suppose to a certain extent I am, but at the same time I have a hard time blaming myself for this one. I had so, SO little energy this year, and almost any time I did have energy, I was weighed down by mental blocks, art blocks, creative blocks, you name it. Getting anything finished was very mentally draining, even more so because I wasn't getting any practice, meaning my art abilities weren't quite up to snuff, which discouraged me even more! In the past, whenever I've become discontented with my art, I've liked to do what I call BRUTE FORCING improvement!!! but I just didn't have the energy to do that at ALL this year. My main and possibly only consistent motivator for drawing was my oc, Jesper (this really was the year of Jesper for me, holy jeez!).

But right now, I'm thinking AHEAD! To the FUTURE, BABY! Because I REALLY want to make some progress by the end of 2023. Even though my rendering got a lot better in 2022, I improved pretty much NOT-AT-ALL when it came to the fundamentals. That bothers the HELL out of me and I want that to change next year. I can't describe how it is to SUFFER when I want to render something because it's fun, only to spend hours rendering GARBAGE and looking back at it 5 minutes later and realizing, "Hey wait a minute! That's GARBAGE!"

Lucky me, I'm in a pretty good state of mind about my art right now, and I feel myself fixating on it again (which is pretty good timing since I'm on winter break now). So here are my main improvement goals for 2023:

DRAW MORE and FINISH MORE ART, even if it's SHIT! Which is finally a realistic goal for me since I hate so much of my art that I'm highkey just desensitized to it at this point.

Pay WAY more attention to composition and use of negative space! And not just in color, which for some reason was what I thought negative space exclusively referred to until an embarrassingly short amount of time ago!

Similarly, pay much more attention to pose readability! These poses should be CRYSTAL!

Keep pushing expressions, not just in sketches but FINISHED ART!

And finally, I want to stop worrying so much about making finished art. I want to draw whatever the fuck I want even if that amounts to drawing a guy standing in the void 20 times in a row. If that's what I have energy for, that's what I have energy for! At least it's SOMETHING!

And of course I'd like to improve somewhat with proportions and anatomy and shading and such, but I'm not feeling the urge to focus too strongly on that stuff right now.

My relationship with my art is and has always been that I just want to get it to a point where I don't hate looking at it, because really the only reason I draw is because I either want to vent my love for something and/or because I like looking at my ocs. That's sorta why after improving so much in my first few years of learning to draw humans, I slowed down a ton. It wasn't out of laziness, I was just content, and why would I want to spend all my time and energy practicing when It was already good enough and I could just draw my ocs NOW! I have no professional aspirations for my art. My art's for me first, and I hope it stays that way.

That said, I'm hoping for a lot of changes in general in 2023, some of which aren't strictly related to the visual arts, necessarily! All my ocs and their lore are to be revamped (and some are in the process of it already) to recapture their original vibe which I have missed oh-so-much. I don't want to rush myself with that process, but once the ocs are all set and the basic lore is all set I would love to try making some short comics about them. I don't know if that'll happen this coming year, but it's something i'd like to work towards. I had actually already started working on a comic and had the first few pages thumbnailed before I realized I really, really didn't like the way some of my ocs were characterized. Like, I'm not suggesting they were PROBLEMATIC or something, they just didn't feel right. Like they weren't quite themselves anymore, and I had lost their essence. Also, it was probably a bit too ambitious for a first comic project, anyways. All's that to say, I've an interesting path in front of me! I hope to make some cool stuff this coming year, a healthy mix of epithet erased fan art and original content! And who KNOWS what other fandoms will destroy my life along the way!

[toriowlfluff]

Hey, if you dont wanna be in the public eye, maybe dont make g/t related content of REAL people?? Fictional characters are fine but dude cmon its common sense dont do that with real people, they WILL stumble across that

Omg I'm excited! This is the first time someone tells me not to do things I enjoy!

No but on a more serious note, I did stop creating content of the actual people a little while ago. (For ex. Beeduo irl)

And your opinion is valid I guess, but the fact that you think that the little Minecraft block characters are "REAL" then I don't know what to say man-

The only way I can describe it best for people who have an ounce of respect to listen is that I see it like a movie or TV show. The actors themselves play fictional characters. There's fiction of those characters outside of the conventional popular media (fanart, fanfiction, AUs ect.)

Would I be interested in fiction involving the actors of those characters?? No. Because it's the roles they play that intrigue me. Of course there's real people behind those fictional roles or, in this case, little Minecraft men, but those two things aren't connected at all in my brain.

The character Grian (the irl guy) plays is story driven, has lore (even tho he doesn't want to engage in it as much haha), has his own exaggerated quirks, has his funky gimmicks, has fucking wings in literally everyone's head cannon haha ect.

He's playing a character. A little Minecraft based character.

(The moon in season 8 of Hermitcraft didn't actually collide with our real earth-)

I'm not creating fiction of irl people. Nor am I trying to offend anyone by sharing the stuff I enjoy creating with the few others who have the same interests as me.

The previous post was about people who might NOT be interested in my content and who might be weirded out by the idea of G/t in general. I wanted to tell my lovely followers that I don't really like being shared outside the G/t community. And I think that's a reasonable boundary to have, don't you think?

It had nothing to do with "REAL" people in fiction. Because I simply don't do that anymore.

And if the irl peeps stumble upon my stupid little art blog with my stupid little small and big versions of their Minecraft characters then so be it ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

If they don't like it, they can move on. And that goes to you as well, Anon, if you're unhappy with the content you see on your feed (or my blog I guess) you have every right to curate it FOR YOURSELF. No hard feelings at all because it's just not everyone's cup of tea sometimes and that's ok.

[fiiimbulvetr]

RPC behaviors that need to end with the new year

And this goes for ALL fandom RPCs. These are all things that I have observed at many different points throughout this year. From many different people from many different fandoms.  I’ve done my part to be better about some of these myself already. It’s never too late to correct old, bad behaviors and build a community that’s happier and safer. 

Confronting people about unfollowing you. Regardless if you were long time mutuals or not, if someone unfollowed you, they probably had their reasons. And they don’t need to justify their choice to you nor do you get to decide if their reason is “good enough” for you. Let people unfollow/soft block/hard block however they want so that they feel safe in the community.

The habits of begging for things from others while not reciprocating. People will exhaust themselves of things to constantly shower upon you if you’re not doing the same every now and then. If you are constantly reblogging memes, constantly asking people to send your muses questions, to write your muses starters and never being the one to do those things yourself... It’s unfair and everyone knows it, yet it keeps happening year after year. If you’re going to ask others for things, be willing to reach out on your own every now and then. 

 Acting like other people’s rules don’t apply to you. If someone says they don’t RP with a specific fandom/genre that is their choice and you neeed to respect it. If they say they only write a specific way, you need to respect that. If they say they are mutuals only, YOU NEED TO RESPECT THAT. No one needs to justify their rules to anyone. Most people have those rules because someone in their past did things to them they didn’t like and they are trying to prevent it from happening again. It doesn’t matter if you’re a new follower or a long time mutual. Follow each other’s blog rules. If you view yourself as the exception to the rule, you’re part of the reason that rule exists. 

Vague blogging about your mutuals. Just. Stop it. Confront people in private or take your hands off of your keyboard. Be a good person and talk to someone if they do something you’re not okay with or just unfollow/block them. Vague-ing on the dash just fills everyone who sees it with unnecessary anxiety and a fear that “Oh god are they talking about ME? Did I do something wrong??” and they have no way to know because you chose to make it everyone’s problem instead of confronting the issue directly.

Emotionally manipulative posts to get people to respond to your stuff. No more making a scene to get people to send you a bunch of stuff. Even worse is when people do this and then delete the posts where they did it as if it never happened. There are better ways to get people to interact with you than cussing at your mutuals. These are your rp partners. They deserve your respect. and tying into #2 up there... Especially don’t do this if you’re not sending things to others as well. This breeds an unhappy and unhealthy RP environment

The lack of respect for RPers of all ages. No one is too old or too young. Stop treating new, young RPers like they aren’t as good by default. Or older RPers like they’re out of touch and don’t belong in the community. And by that same notion, respect if people aren’t comfortable RPing with people outside their own age groups. If a blog is 18+ only, that should be respected- Especially if there is graphic content on their blog. If a minor isn’t comfortable RPing with the 30+ community, we should not be pressuring KIDS to interact with strange adults online. 

Pressuring people to leave their safe spaces and RP with fandoms they don’t like or just aren’t in.  If someone isn’t comfortable rping with a specific fandom, a specific genre or a specific type of character, they are allowed to have those preferences. Do you have to like it? No. But you do have to respect it. We need to stop this “Just treat them like an OC if you don’t know/like the fandom” stuff because there are always more factors you don’t know. And the ties to the source material that is probably making them uncomfortable will always be there in your muse’s portrayal. Because they are not your OC that you made up. They will ALWAYS be a character from a fandom. No one can just shut off the part of their brain that recognizes something that potentially triggers them and view it as something  brand new. Stop expecting people to set aside their boundaries for the sake of your muse(s). 

Feel free to add more if you feel the need. 

2020 was terrible for a lot of people. There’s no reason that the thing we do for fun to escape life has to be terrible too. Respect and be good to each other in 2021. It’s the least we can do.