#How To Prevent Divorce Essay

[mostlysignssomeportents]

Netflix wants to chop down your family tree

Netflix has unveiled the details of its new anti-password-sharing policy, detailing a suite of complex gymnastics that customers will be expected to undergo if their living arrangements trigger Netflix’s automated enforcement mechanisms:

https://thestreamable.com/news/confirmed-netflix-unveils-first-details-of-new-anti-password-sharing-measures

If you’d like an essay-formatted version of this post to read or share, here’s a link to it on pluralistic.net, my surveillance-free, ad-free, tracker-free blog:

https://pluralistic.net/2023/02/02/nonbinary-families/#red-envelopes

Netflix says that its new policy allows members of the same “household” to share an account. This policy comes with an assumption: that there is a commonly understood, universal meaning of “household,” and that software can determine who is and is not a member of your household.

This is a very old corporate delusion in the world of technology. In the early 2000s, I spent years trying to bring some balance to an effort at DVB, whose digital television standards are used in most of the world (but not the USA) when they rolled out CPCM, a DRM system that was supposed to limit video-sharing to a single household.

Their term of art for this was the “authorized domain”: a software-defined family unit whose borders were privately negotiated by corporate executives from media companies, broadcasters, tech and consumer electronics companies in closed-door sessions all around the world, with no public minutes or proceedings.

https://onezero.medium.com/the-internet-heist-part-iii-8561f6d5a4dc

These guys (they were nearly all guys) were proud of how much “flexibility” they’d built into their definition of “household.” For example, if you owned a houseboat, or a luxury car with seatback displays, or a summer villa in another country, the Authorized Domain would be able to figure out how to get the video onto all those screens.

But what about other kinds of families? I suggested that one of our test cases should be a family based in Manila: where the dad travels to remote provinces to do agricultural labor; the daughter is a nanny in California; and the son is doing construction work in the UAE. This suggestion was roundly rejected as an “edge case.”

Of course, this isn’t an edge case. There are orders of magnitude more people whose family looks like this than there are people whose family owns a villa in another country. Owning a houseboat or a luxury car makes you an outlier. Having an itinerant agricultural breadwinner in your family does not.

But everyone who is in the room when a cartel draws up a standard definition of what constitutes a household is almost certainly drawn from a pool that is more likely to have a summer villa than a child doing domestic work or construction labor half a world away. These weirdos, so dissimilar from the global majority, get to define the boxes that computers will shove the rest of the world into. If your family doesn’t look like their family, that’s tough: “Computer says no.”

One day at a CPCM meeting, we got to talking about the problem of “content laundering” and how the way to prevent it would be to put limits on how often someone could leave a household and join another one. No one, they argued, would ever have to change households every week.

I put my hand up and said, “What about a child whose divorced parents share custody of her? She’s absolutely going to change households every week.” They thought about it for a moment, then the rep from a giant IT company that had recently been convicted of criminal antitrust violations said, “Oh, we can solve that: we’ll give her a toll-free number to call when she gets locked out of her account.”

That was the solution they went with. If you are a child coping with the dissolution of your parents’ marriage, you will have the obligation to call up a media company every month — or more often — and explain that Mummy and Daddy don’t love each other any more, but can I please have my TV back?

I never forgot that day. I even wrote a science fiction story about it called (what else?) “Authorized Domain”:

https://craphound.com/news/2011/10/31/authorised-domain/

I think everyone understood that this was an absurd “solution,” but they had already decided that they were going to complete the seemingly straightforward business of defining a category like “household” using software, and once that train left the station, nothing was going to stop it.

This is a recurring form of techno-hubris: the idea that baseline concepts like “family” have crisp definitions and that any exceptions are outliers that would never swallow the rule. It’s such a common misstep that there’s a whole enre* called “Falsehoods Programmers Believe About ______”:

https://github.com/kdeldycke/awesome-falsehood

In that list: names, time, currency, birthdays, timezones, email addresses, national borders, nations, biometrics, gender, language, alphabets, phone numbers, addresses, systems of measurement, and, of course, families. These categories are touchstones in our everyday life, and we think we know what they mean — but then we try to define them, and the list of exceptions spirals out into a hairy, fractal infinity.

Historically, these fuzzy categorical edges didn’t matter so much, because they were usually interpreted by humans using common sense. My grandfather was born “Avrom Doctorovitch” (or at least, that’s one way to transliterate his name, which was spelled in a different alphabet, but which was also transliterating his first name from yet another alphabet). When he came to Canada as a refugee, his surname was anglicized to “Doctorow.” Other cousins are “Doctorov,” “Doctoroff,” and “Doktorovitch.”

Naturally, his first name could have been “Abraham” or “Abe,” but his first employer (a fellow Eastern European emigre) decided that was too ethnic and in sincere effort to help him fit in, he called my grandfather “Bill.” When my grandfather attained citizenship, his papers read “Abraham William Doctorow.” He went by “Abe,” “Billy,” “Bill,” “William,” “Abraham” and “Avrom.”

Practically, it didn’t matter that variations on all of these appeared on various forms of ID, contracts, and paperwork. His reparations check from the German government had a different variation from the name on the papers he used to open his bank account, but the bank still let him deposit it.

All of my relatives from his generation have more than one name. Another grandfather of mine was born “Aleksander,” and called “Sasha” by friends, but had his name changed to “Seymour” when he got to Canada. His ID was also a mismatched grab-bag of variations on that theme.

None of this mattered to him, either. Airlines would sell him tickets and border guards would stamp his passport and rental agencies would let him drive away in cars despite the minor variations on all his ID.

But after 9/11, all that changed, for everyone who had blithely trundled along with semi-matching names across their official papers and database entries. Suddenly, it was “computer says no” everywhere you turned, unless everything matched perfectly. There was a global rush for legal name-changes after 9/11 — not because people changed their names, but because people needed to perform the bureaucratic ritual necessary to have the name they’d used all along be recognized in these new, brittle, ambiguity-incinerating machines.

For important categories, ambiguity is a feature, not a bug. The fact that you can write anything on an envelope (including a direction to deliver the letter to the granny flat over the garage, not the front door) means that we don’t have to define “address” — we can leave it usefully hairy around the edges.

Once the database schema is formalized, then “address” gets defined too — the number of lines it can have, the number of characters each line can have, the kinds of characters and even words (woe betide anyone who lives in Scunthorpe).

If you have a “real” address, a “real” name, a “real” date of birth, all of this might seem distant to you. These “edge” cases — seasonal agricultural workers, refugees with randomly assigned “English” names — are very far from your experience.

That’s true — for now (but not forever). The “Shitty Technology Adoption Curve” describes the process by which abusive technologies work their way up the privilege gradient. Every bad technological idea is first rolled out on poor people, refugees, prisoners, kids, mental patients and other people who can’t push back.

Their bodies are used to sand the rough edges and sharp corners off the technology, to normalize it so that it can climb up through the social ranks, imposed on people with more and more power and influence. 20 years ago, if you ate your dinner under an always-on #CCTV, it was because you were in a supermax prison. Today, it’s because you bought a premium home surveillance system from Google, Amazon or Apple.

https://pluralistic.net/2021/07/29/impunity-corrodes/#arise-ye-prisoners

The Netflix anti-sharing tools are designed for rich people. If you travel for business and stay in the kind of hotel where the TV has its own Netflix client that you can plug your username and password into, Netflix will give you a seven-day temporary code to use.

But for the most hardcore road-warriors, Netflix has thin gruel. Unless you connect to your home wifi network every 31 days and stream a show, Netflix will lock out your devices. Once blocked, you have to “contact Netflix” (laughs in Big Tech customer service).

Why is Netflix putting the screws to its customers? It’s part of the enshittification cycle, where platform companies first allocate surpluses to their customers, luring them in and using them as bait for business customers. Once they turn up, the companies reallocate surpluses to businesses, lavishing them with low commissions and lots of revenue opportunities. And once they’re locked in, the company starts to claw back the surpluses for itself.

https://pluralistic.net/2023/01/21/potemkin-ai/#hey-guys

Remember when Netflix was in the business of mailing red envelopes full of DVDs around the country? That was allocating surpluses to users. The movie companies hated this, viewed it as theft — a proposition that was at least as valid as Netflix’s complaints about password sharing, but every pirate wants to be an admiral, and when Netflix did it to the studios, that was “progress,” but when you do it to Netflix, that’s theft.

Then, once Netflix had users locked in and migrated to the web (and later, apps), it shifted surpluses to studios, paying fat licensing fees to stream their movies and connect them to a huge audience.

Finally, once the studios were locked in, Netflix started to harvest the surplus for its shareholders: raising prices, lowering streaming rates, knocking off other studios’ best performing shows with in-house clones, etc. Users’ surpluses are also on the menu: the password “sharing” that let you define a household according to your family’s own idiosyncratic contours is unilaterally abolished in a quest to punish feckless Gen Z kids for buying avocado toast instead of their own Netflix subscriptions.

Netflix was able to ignore the studios’ outraged howls when it built a business by nonconsenually distributing their products in red envelopes. But now that Netflix has come for your family, don’t even think about giving Netfix some of what it gave to the MPAA.

As a technical matter, it’s not really that hard to modify Netflix’s app so that every stream you pull seems to come from your house, no matter where you are. But doing so would require reverse-engineering Netflix’s app, and that would violate Section 1201 of the DMCA, the CFAA, and eleventy-seven other horrible laws. Netflix’s lawyers would nuke you until the rubble bounced.

When Netflix was getting started, it could freely interoperate with the DVDs that the studios had put on the market. It could repurpose those DVDs in ways that the studios strenuously objected to. In other words, Netfix used adversarial interoperability (AKA Competitive Compatibility or ComCom) to launch its business:

https://www.eff.org/deeplinks/2019/10/adversarial-interoperability

Today, Netflix is on the vanguard of the war to abolish adversarial interop. They helped lead the charge to pervert W3C web-standards, creating a DRM video standard called EME that made it a crime to build a full-featured browser without getting permission from media companies and restricting its functionality to their specifications:

https://blog.samuelmaddock.com/posts/the-end-of-indie-web-browsers/

When they used adversarial interoperability to build a multi-billion-dollar global company using the movie studios’ products in ways the studios hated, that was progress. When you define “family” in ways that makes Netflix less money, that’s felony contempt of business model.

[Image ID: A Victorian family tree template populated by tintypes of old-timey people. In the foreground stands a menacing, chainsaw-wielding figure, his face obscured by a hoodie. The blade of the chainsaw is poised to chop down the family tree. A Netflix 'N' logo has been superimposed over the man's face.]

[communistkenobi]

This is going to be an extremely messy post, but I’ve been grappling with the argument that “fascism” is nothing more than an exceptionalised label for the cyclical political crises of capitalism, as opposed to an actual historical force in and of itself - just as capitalism has cyclical economic crises which are necessary for its continued functioning, fascism represents the political crises of capital, a bulwark against class consciousness and socialist organising which threaten capitalist rule. Fascism does this by instead emphasising a racial or national consciousness, using white supremacy and the promise of property to divert people away from class consciousness. In Anatomy of Fascism, Paxton talks about how important the promise of property ownership to Italian peasantry was to establishing fascist rule there - class mobility up into the middle classes was used in concert with racial/national politics to stop people from identifying with the proletariat (“homeowners are too busy to be communists,” to paraphrase that American housing developer I forget the name of atm). This is especially weaponised against Jewish people, who are framed as having no national affiliation and are thus eternal outsiders to the bourgeois Christian homeland.

I have encountered a lot of definitions of fascism. The most productive and evocative definition I’ve found is Cesaire’s - colonialism come home. He was speaking of Europe when he said this, saying that Hitler was only doing what Europe did overseas. But what does this mean for settler colonial states? There is no “home” for colonialism to return to for countries like the United States or Canada, because this colonial process has to constantly and at all times maintain itself upon indigenous land in order for the state to continue to exist. The colonialism is always home, always domestic (while also obviously being exercised globally through imperial domination and violence, especially in the case of the United States). Are these states essentially fascist in conception? If this conclusion is true (which I’m leaning towards yes), is “fascism” a useful analytical category at all? If we speak of the political processes of capitalism when we speak of fascism, can we simply just call it all capitalism? It would be like if we called all periods of economic crisis “collapsism” and partitioned these periods of depression or economic instability into exceptional circumstances divorced from the history of capitalism (which we already have done with The Great Depression in the 1930s, or the 2008 Financial Crash - these are exceptional periods where something “went wrong,” where the system “failed”). Sitting with this conclusion for a moment, calling these processes fascist is to divorce them of their material history, to decouple them from the violence and exploitation inherent to capitalism, and to ensure that any analysis of fascism does not conclude with a call to abolish capitalism - for if fascism is merely an interruption of normal capitalist democratic functioning, then preventing future fascisms does not require the abolition of the current economic and political system.

I’ve been engaging with this essay recently, which calls liberals the “left wing of fascism,” and argues that liberalism, far from providing an alternative to fascist rule, instead provides a stabilising quality to it, acting as a stop-gap to the more destabilising right-wing bourgeois elements of capitalism. And despite these conclusions I still find fascism a useful label, both because I think it has a lot of strategic value to engage with particular historical periods (such as right now) as fascist - fascism as a label has widespread recognition, if not widespread understanding - and also because it provides a neat shorthand for the historical process of capitalist political decay. 

Anyway I’m talking this all out publicly because I’m in the process of reviewing a lot of literature on the subject for my PhD, and I keep coming to this conclusion - that fascism is not “real” in the sense that it cannot be divorced from capitalism itself, and in fact is a necessary process to the continued functioning of capitalism - but I’m having a hard time seeing what analytical limitations this conclusion produces. I have so far been the most persuaded by post-colonial and Marxist accounts of fascism, but I wonder if multiple definitions of fascism are still strategically or analytically useful to use in concert with one another, even if I disagree with them

[summerpearlgirl]

Bridgerton & Pregnancy/Women's Rights

I find myself doing the most random google searches while watching Bridgerton or reading Polin fanfics. I thought it would be amusing to gather these together in this post.

1."I want them to be able to have sex and not get STDs or pregnant."

My Google Search: When were intestine condoms invented?

Answer: Doctors began suggesting that patients use condoms to prevent disease in the 16th century. Condoms made from animal intestines—usually those of sheep, calves, or goats—remained the main style through the mid-1800s. Used for both pregnancy- and disease-prevention, these condoms stayed in place with a ribbon that men tied around the bases of their penises.

My reflection: Rich boy, women respecting Colin should be using those. Ha! Who am I kidding? Colin definitely has a breeding kink when it comes to Pen (67 AO3 works on that topic agree).

2. "I want Colin and Pen to be having sex constantly. But I don't want them to have more than 4 kids because of the risk of prolapse etc."

My Google Search: how effective is the withdrawal method

Answer: Given it can be difficult to withdraw the penis during sex, withdrawal with real-life use is closer to 80% effective.

My reflection: Damn it. They would probably get maximum 10 months pregnancy free between babies. Maybe cycle tracking could help? I will just assume they do 69 or the intestine condoms so I can sleep at night.

Fanfics which added fuel to this fire (I think both these fics are very well written and I recommend reading them): Someone Ought to Say Something by lemonsaltwater. rockabye baby (don't say a word) by DollyPop, Parmandur.

3. "Eloise would thrive at University! She would talk the most during class discussions. Complete all of the assigned reading. Her essays would be jam-packed with footnotes."

My Google Search: when were women allowed to go to university uk

Answer: In 1868, nine women were admitted to the University of London.

My reflection: Damn. Could she dress as a man? No, that is stupid. I guess she could read and talk to people privately. How are they going to honour this part of Eloise in S5? Damned if I know.

4. "Eloise and Pen are the smartest people in that room for charades in S3. I really want them to start their own Royal Society type gatherings for women and outsmart the men."

My Google Search: royal society uk history women

Answer: Founded on 28 November 1660, it was granted a royal charter by King Charles II as The Royal Society and is the oldest continuously existing scientific academy in the world. 

Women slowly gained admittance to learned societies in the UK starting in the 19th century, with the founding of the Zoological Society of London in 1829 and the Royal Entomological Society in 1833, both of which admitted women fellows from their inception.

My reflection: Ok. This could work. But Pen is more into writing and politics, rather than science. Pen and Eloise would be great politicians. The way Pen outsmarted the Queen so many times, that girl has got talent. I don't need to Google when women could vote and participate in politics. I know Pen and Eloise are long dead.

5. "Being locked into marriage after a few weeks of courtship is crazy. So many of these Polin fanfics could be resolved by people being allowed to divorce."

My Google Search: uk divorce 1800s

Answer: Before the mid-19th century the only way of obtaining a full divorce which allowed re-marriage was by a Private Act of Parliament. Between 1700 and 1857 there were 314 such Acts, most of them initiated by husbands.

The Matrimonial Causes Act passed Parliament in 1857, but the grounds for divorce remained substantially the same. Adultery remained the sole ground for divorce, although wives could now allege cruelty and desertion, in addition to the husband's adultery, in order to obtain a divorce.

My reflection: Ok. Colin and Pen will just have to live in the countryside until they get married in 1857. Thank goodness they got their shit together in the Canon book and show. The fanfic alternative universes where they marry/nearly marry other people are stressing me out. That said, the Bridgertons were an influential family, I would be pushing those family connections to get a divorce by Act of Parliament if I was them. What good is it to have social capital if you can't be with the person you love? Violet would be supportive.

[manygeese]

(this is for @demigod-shenanigans bc I wouldn’t have had this idea without them! hope u like it, will probably write more for the other things too)

Reyna’s Fencing Meet (and Totally Unrelated: Piper’s Crush)

Piper watched with a light blush on her face as Reyna disarmed her opponent. Skillfully. Professionally. And hotly. Was that a word? Whatever, it was true.

A buzz came from her phone, but she ignored it. She was entranced by the way Reyna’s dark hair cascaded downward, reaching the middle of her back even in that elegant high ponytail. Though if anybody asked, she was writing her paper on 1984 for Lit and Comp.

Piper shook her head to rid it off such distracting thoughts. “The time period in which Orwell wrote 1984 was one rife with…” She paused. Damn. Her smart thoughts must have escaped with the stupid ones.

She gave up. The essay wasn’t due until next week. She had time to kill, right? Right. Checking her phone couldn’t hurt, could it? It couldn’t.

HOT-TO-GO: hey simp. hows the pretty girl doing 😘

Red Wine Supernova: hush, child

HOT-TO-GO: dont test me. i WILL sic festus on u 🫵

Attached was a stupid 0.5 picture of Leo (more accurately, his forehead) with his award winning robot dragon, Festus, and some other people from the robotics club. She huffed a laugh and typed up a response.

Red Wine Supernova: im his favorite though

HOT-TO-GO: nope. nope. never even insinuate that again. i WILL divorce u

Red Wine Supernova: then don’t sic him on me, silly billy

HOT-TO-GO: dont worry u pathetic lesbian. ur knight in shining armor will save u

HOT-TO-GO: it’ll be like that one scene in hercules where he saves meg from that blue dude

Piper let out an audible groan and stamped her foot on the bleachers. A few members of the fencing club looked up at her, startled, including her favorite.

Reyna Ramírez-Arellano (Piper would find out her middle name someday, she swore it). She’d had a crush on her since the beginning of freshman year, which was now ending. When Piper noticed Reyna was staring at her, she shut her laptop frantically and tried desperately to look casual. A concoction of dread and excitement brewed in her stomach, along with the greasy pizza from lunch.

It wasn’t like she hadn’t talked to Reyna before, in fact, it was quite the opposite. They had talked just last week, during the Tuesday mock trial meeting. Together, they had absolutely decimated the defense lawyers and proved Laurel Victor guilty. More importantly, Piper discovered that not only did Reyna look good in her fencing gear, but she didn’t look half bad (read: gorgeous) in a suit, either.

“McLean.”

Their previous interactions didn’t prevent Piper from wanting gush about how the beauty mark under her eye made her look so distinguished. Or how the muscles in her upper arms looked like they were chiseled from marble. Or how her long eyelashes reminded Piper of a camel’s, which was a compliment.

“Ramírez-Arellano,” Piper said, hoping she sounded nonchalant. “That sounded cooler in my head.”

Reyna laughed, and it sounded like a marching band, which was also a compliment. “I imagine it did. You know you can call me Reyna, right?”

Piper’s heart fluttered like a bird that had just flown into a window. “Well, what else am I supposed to call you?” She asked with a sly smile.

“Sir, obviously,” Reyna deadpanned. “Jason calls me that. And Frank. Hazel, too. As they should.”

Piper giggled in a way that would keep her up at night thinking about how goofy it sounded. “Honestly, Reyna, I can’t tell if you’re joking or not.”

“And you’ll never know.”

“One of the greatest mysteries of my life. I shall be thinking about this when I’m old and grey. When I go to sleep, now and forevermore, my mind will return to this exact moment and ponder upon what you meant, my fair lady.”

Why couldn’t she channel that Shakespearean energy into her essay?

Reyna smiled, graceful, like a monarch. “I don’t know why you’d do that when you can just ask them.”

The blush returned (it never left) when the simple solution was brought to Piper’s attention. Wordlessly, she opened her phone and texted Jason.

Dorothy: JASON

Dorothy: JASON

Dorothy: i WILL keep saying this until you answer

Dorothy: JASON

Toto: You called?

Dorothy: nerd alert

Dorothy: anyways

Dorothy: what do you call Reyna?

Toto: …

Toto: I don’t want to say it

Dorothy: do you call her sir.

Toto: HOW DID YOU KNOW?

“Oh my gods,” Piper laughed, “he actually calls you that? Leo’s gonna have a field day with that one.” Instinctually, she opened a chat with Leo to break the news.

“When have I ever lied to you, my fair lady?”

Piper froze. In a way she hoped was smooth, she laughed it off. “I’ll never doubt you again, my dear,” she proclaimed, fluttering her eyelashes. Gods, maybe she was like Meg in that one scene from Hercules.

Reyna’s smile grew. “I’ll see you at mock trial next week, McLean.” She reached down, grabbing Piper’s hand, bringing into her lips and pressing her lips to the knuckles, effectively melting the other girl’s brain.

Piper sat and watched as Reyna descended the bleacher stairs, absentmindedly texting her dad to ask for pickup.

“Leo was right. I need to ask her out,” she whispered, “and I think I needed to do it, like, yesterday.”

[wetcatspellcaster]

I have a possible bad AU Ascendent question. So I know he’s good and gone (RIP pookie you would have loved SSRIs and court mandated therapy) but I want to know what his long term plan was. Say he brides Rosalie and makes her his unlawfully yet wedded wife. What do you think his “okay now what?” plan would be. He claims he sees a future with them and does his whole “fear me, love me, do as I say” spiel. Is he gonna try and take over the world? Is he gonna make everyone a spawn so they don’t come and take Rosie away? Do you think he even had a post-winning plan or was he more obsessed with the chase than the actual end result?

hey anon!

so, to be honest, the Whole Point is that he doesn't have a plan. If the Ascendent had a plan to fix himself, he'd just open the jar and snort his own soul, you know? But he doesn't do that - partly because I'm riffing off the fan theory that circulated at the time that Astarion and Ascended!Astarion weren't really the planning type, but MOSTLY because I did treat the Ascendent as the epitome of trauma-paralysed depression, and that stagnation you get when you're so lost all you have is the bad decisions and unhealthy choices you are familiar with and used to. when you're in that space you don't want to 'fix' yourself. You don't want to take reasonable or healthy action. You are running on fumes, fear, and... in this case, distraction.

so you're right, it's more an obsession with the chase than the actual end result! This is partly bc that's how desire in fiction works - you like the build up more than necessarily the 'consummation' (thank god I watched the contrapoints essay after I finished, I just feel like a contrapoints essay as I say this but it was all in an essay I wrote in undergrad as well!). the high octane will-they-won't-they 'let's kill each other but not really, let's be divorced but make it hot' back and forth is way easier for the Ascendent to navigate than the realities of a turned Tav who doesn't actually want to be turned, because that would be a real situation that requires real hard work, rather than a fantasy to escape into.

...And if that chase is a fantasy, it is also an utter distraction, right? If you chase after the impossible solutions - the woman who loved you, the Wish Spell that will fix you - this prevents you from thinking overly hard about your own situation. Which the Ascendent, as my magical allegory for both depression and the place you go when you make decisions in incredibly traumatic moments of your life, doesn't want to do.

I think that if the Ascendent had gotten Rosalie, his plan was to make her happy. Because that's the next step of the chase.

We as the audience, already know that's an impossibility, bc we see her as a person rather than as a prize or a goal. So, as a reader, you can extrapolate out exactly what the timeline would be, when a soulless being that's trapped inside it's own moral alignment starts trying to make someone else happy through the one thing she explicitly asked not to happen, and when that doesn't work, what kind of steps would come next on both sides.

[divorcedifferentlypa]

Applying Game Theory and Nash Equilibrium to Divorce Proceedings: A Comprehensive Analysis

Divorce is a multifaceted process involving emotional, legal, and financial complexities. When a couple decides to dissolve their marriage, they enter into a negotiation over various issues such as asset division, child custody, and financial support. Game theory, particularly the concept of Nash Equilibrium, provides a powerful framework for understanding the strategic interactions between divorcing spouses and predicting their behavior during the divorce proceedings. This essay explores the application of Nash Equilibrium to divorce scenarios, examining its relevance in asset allocation, child custody arrangements, alimony negotiations, and overall decision-making dynamics.

UNDERSTANDING NASH EQUILIBRIUM

Nash Equilibrium, named after the mathematician John Nash, refers to a situation in which each participant’s strategy is optimal given the strategies chosen by others. No player has an incentive to unilaterally deviate from their chosen strategy. It represents a stable outcome where individuals act in their self-interest, taking into account the actions and responses of others. In the context of divorce, Nash Equilibrium provides insights into how divorcing spouses make decisions to maximize their own outcomes while considering the interests and strategies of their estranged partners.

APPLICATION TO DIVORCE PROCEEDINGS

ASSET DIVISION

Asset division is a central aspect of divorce negotiations, involving the equitable distribution of marital property, investments, and assets acquired during the marriage. Each spouse may have different preferences and valuations for specific assets, leading to potential conflicts over their allocation. Nash Equilibrium predicts that the final division of assets will stabilize at a point where neither spouse can improve their allocation without the other’s consent. For example, suppose one spouse values the family home more than other assets while the other prefers liquid assets. In that case, a fair division may involve trading off these assets to reach a Nash Equilibrium.

CHILD CUSTODY

Child custody arrangements require careful consideration of parental preferences, children’s well-being, and legal factors. Nash Equilibrium suggests that custody agreements will stabilize when neither parent can gain by unilaterally changing the arrangement. Custody decisions often involve trade-offs between different types of legal custody (e.g., joint custody, sole custody) and physical custody ( Primary custody, shared or equal custody, partial custody, visitation). For instance, if one parent values extended parenting time more than the other, a balanced custody schedule may be established to maintain equilibrium and prevent strategic moves by either party to gain an advantage.

ALIMONY AND FINANCIAL SUPPORT

Determining alimony and financial support involves balancing the needs of one spouse with the financial capabilities of the other. Nash Equilibrium predicts that the final agreement will reflect a compromise where neither spouse can improve their financial situation without mutual consent. Negotiations over alimony/child support may involve factors such as earning potential, financial contributions during the marriage, and future financial obligations. For example, if one spouse seeks higher alimony /child support payments while the other aims to minimize financial obligations, a negotiated settlement aligning with Nash Equilibrium principles may involve concessions or adjustments to reach a stable outcome.

LEGAL STRATEGIES AND BARGAINING POWER

Each spouse may employ legal strategies and exert bargaining power to influence the divorce settlement. Nash Equilibrium suggests that the negotiation process will reach stability when both parties perceive the costs and benefits of their actions and adjust their strategies accordingly. Legal tactics such as threats of litigation, offers of compromise, and strategic alliances can impact the negotiation dynamics. For instance, if one spouse threatens litigation to gain leverage, the other may respond with countermeasures or concessions to avoid prolonged conflict, leading to equilibrium in the bargaining process.

CHALLENGES AND LIMITATIONS

While Nash Equilibrium provides valuable insights into divorce proceedings, its application may face several challenges and limitations:

• It assumes rational decision-making and complete information, which may not always hold true in emotionally charged situations like divorce.

• Power imbalances, emotional factors, and external influences can complicate the negotiation dynamics, potentially deviating from the predicted equilibrium outcomes.

The fluctuating nature of divorce negotiations may lead to shifting equilibria as new information emerges or preferences change over time.

CONCLUSION

In conclusion, Nash Equilibrium offers a valuable framework for understanding the strategic interactions between divorcing spouses and predicting the outcomes of divorce proceedings. By analyzing asset division, child custody arrangements, alimony/child support decisions, and bargaining strategies through the lens of game theory, divorcing individuals and their legal advisors can gain insights into the dynamics of negotiation and strive for mutually beneficial settlements. While Nash Equilibrium provides valuable guidance, its application in divorce proceedings must consider the complexities of human behavior, emotions, and external factors to reach fair and sustainable outcomes. By integrating game theory principles with practical considerations, divorcing couples can navigate the divorce process more effectively, leading to more satisfactory resolutions for all parties involved.

Blog is originally published at: https://divorcedonedifferentlypa.com/applying-game-theory-and-nash-equilibrium-to-divorce-proceedings-a-comprehensive-analysis/

It is republished with the permission from the author.

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Is There A Simple Way To Follow To Prevent Erectile Dysfunction?

Those of you who are now experiencing erection problems are aware of how uncomfortable the circumstance is. If your sexual life starts to spiral out of control, you might need to consider filing for divorce. To make matters worse, the illness could make you feel distant from your partner. It can cause tension and depression in men as well.

We hope that this post will end your suffering and provide you with a simple fix. In this article, we'll go through a multi-pronged composite approach that can effectively treat erectile dysfunction.

Yes, we can guarantee that, but you must make sure to routinely abide by the rules. Of course, taking medications, including those for Cenforce 200, was also mentioned in the article. You may continue using the various methods we have covered in this post while continuing to take any extra medications you are presently on, as directed by your doctor.

What actions should you take to avoid erectile dysfunction?

If you already have erectile dysfunction, one of your main priorities should be learning how to prevent it or treat it. As a result, you need to develop solutions that work. Perhaps you already regularly use ED medications like the Cenforce tablet.

But what other options do you have for a long-lasting cure?

As we previously indicated, this essay will provide further information on a multifaceted approach to treating erectile dysfunction. This treatment plan includes a number of extra minor procedures, dietary adjustments, and other follow-up measures.

One strategy, using erectile dysfunction drugs, has the disadvantage of just offering a momentary boost. You need to take a rather comprehensive strategy if you want to recover fully.

One Complete Strategy for Treating Erectile Dysfunction

Now that we've discussed an all-encompassing strategy, let's examine it more closely.

You Can Discover What's Causing Your Erectile Dysfunction

Prior to using your Cenforce 150 medication, you should determine the precise cause of your ED. In case you were unaware, it has been discovered that more than 80% of ED cases are actually brought on by a different physical or mental illness.

Yes, medical conditions like diabetes, high cholesterol, obesity, low blood pressure, heart disease, and low blood pressure are to blame for your penile dysfunction concerns.

Additionally, poor mental health may contribute to erectile dysfunction problems. This covers subjects like tension, hopelessness, and anxiety.

Check to see if there are any issues. Allow the medical personnel to make a clear diagnosis while advising them to use the appropriate therapy to address this issue.

As the following step, starting the right ED treatment programs makes logical. If diabetes is the cause of your erectile dysfunction, you must take steps to manage or treat the disease. This entails adhering to a low-sugar diet, exercising as advised, receiving insulin shots, and adopting additional measures.

Another illustration of this is how prevalent ED is in overweight guys. You know exactly what to do in this situation, without a doubt. The majority of your focus should be on exercise and eating a much healthier diet.

You can try straightforward home cures like altering your diet, working out, or visiting a doctor to take additional meds that address the problem directly.

Now, if you currently take ED medications like Cenforce 200 as directed by your physician, maintain doing so. Additionally, if you haven't already started taking prescription medication, make an immediate trip to the doctor.

No matter the brand or dosage, don't use ED drugs randomly as this could have unfavorable side effects. When selecting the brand or dose that is best for you, just pay attention to the advise of professionals. Last but not least, always remember to adhere to the instructions when taking ED medications to prevent unfavorable side effects and contraindications.

Natural Alternatives for Impotence

Addiction reduction

If drinking or taking drugs contributes to your penile issues, you need to change your lifestyle.

In modern times, drunkenness, drug addictions (such as using cocaine or marijuana), and even smoking are the leading causes of erectile dysfunction in men. To manage your emotions and the desire for such things, practice yoga and meditation.

Making dietary changes

Naturally, your diet has a significant impact on your health. You must alter your diet if you have erectile dysfunction, just as you would for any other condition. Reduce your obesity, avoid heart disease, and maintain stable blood sugar levels by eating foods low in fat and cholesterol.

Here is a list of the available foods:

Veggies

Bok Choy Tomatoes

peppers that are red

Spaghetti kale

Cauliflower

Fruits Strawberries Apples

Banana Watermelon

Getting Rid of Stress

Due to mental illnesses including stress, anxiety, depression, and others, many men today experience erectile dysfunction.

So what are we to do? Adopting better lifestyles is the answer in this situation. Avoid addictions because they exacerbate the issue; engage in physical activity; take a morning stroll; discuss your issues with your wife and doctor; and seek advice from your loved ones.

It will also be very beneficial to practice yoga and meditation. All of these things are possible if you stick to your prescription-only Vidalista 60 Pills routine.

Treatment Exercises for Impotence

To strengthen the muscles in your bladder, perform kegel exercises as well as other ED exercises. It is anticipated that the use of Vidalista 40 capsules will decrease with the addition of some running, cycling, and swimming.

Final Word

The section above has discussed every action you can take to prevent and resolve your ED issues. If you use these methods, you should experience improvements in a few months. Read more...

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by scrtkpr

Summary:

Twenty-two years ago, Harry Potter and Draco Malfoy turned their backs on the life they could have had.

Comments:

Written in epistolary format, we follow the correspondence between Albus and Scorpius when the former's parents divorce and they discover Harry and Draco used to write letters to each other.

It's really amazing how coherent the story is as we read two sets of correspondence and it's so much fun to read how the kids piece together the past relationship between Harry and Draco. It's such a heartfelt and touching journey through the eyes of two teenagers and I can't help but be touched by their friendship and honest love for their parents.

Creative, cute, funny and touching in all the right places.

Illustrative quote:

I asked him about Summoning, and he said there was a charm on it to prevent spells like that. And then he said it wasn't important. And then he spent another hour and a half looking for it. You know what it was? The little wooden box he keeps his old school assignments inside. Mum always gave him a hard time for being so sentimental about them. She said it didn't make sense, that he never cared that much about essays or marks. Do you suppose she's forgotten he insisted on naming me after his Headmaster and his Potions professor? He obviously has an unhealthy attachment to his school days.

Anyway, he thought he'd packed it with the other things from his study, but for some reason it was with the sheets and blankets. And this is the man who runs the Auror department.

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I also feel like there was a minor conflation with killing in self defense vs a revenge fantasy in that tweet and what anon was getting from it. Which is why the nuance was desperately needed.

A desire to escape abuse is always understandable and valid. And if someone believes the only way to escape is to kill, who am I to say otherwise when I don't know their situation. Hell, we know for a fact throughout history death was the only way to escape abusive marriages for a while because there were no way to get divorce. People should not be jailed for that.

But a revenge fantasy almost always takes place after the fact. After you've escaped and you're pissed off at how it still affects you now. And again, super valid to have! But going back and getting your revenge, be it something petty like yelling and screaming and unloading into them, to keying their car, to even smashing their skull in, does absolutely nothing for your situation. It might be cathartic! It might feel good! But you run the real risk of creating a problem and hurt that didn't need to be caused, let alone the legal ramifications.

With death specifically, I don't think people realize how traumatizing it is to be the cause of death. Even in self-defense people will get PTSD from it. Let alone who may bare witness to it. 911 dispatchers and responders, the clean up crew, anybody seeing the act itself, hell even people who realized they lived so close to a death, can and will be shaken up by it. And even if the abuser deserves it and you think that's more punishing or deserving than jail time or other consequences, there will be more than just the abuser affected by the death.

Anyways, to tie back with what op said about mob mentality:

If you create a group of people acceptable to kill/dehumanize/what have you, there will be assholes trying to exploit the definition of that group to include people they just personally don't like.

And the unfortunate reality is people are already making abuser into a buzzword to slap onto people to discredit them. Not to mention just this year in Florida, the governor gave the death penalty to child sex crimes in the same breath making doing drag/being queer a sex crime. (Not to mention there is concerns that making it a capital crime would only further discourage victims from coming forward and would incentivize killing victims.)

The biggest concern here is just, creating that acceptable to kill category. And that will have more net-harm in the long run with the current climate than any good.

I understand a revenge fantasy with a death very well. I am also not immune to it. But it is really hard to justify killing someone. You'd have to write a full essay or manifesto explaining yourself and even then, what is that death really gonna do? There are other ways to prevent someone from harming again and I feel like we have to at least try those before resorting to such an intense degree of violence.

Look, has it been considered here that perhaps this post was about people who did kill their abuser and were jailed for it? I understand the concern for a compassionate society, however we live in a society that punishes the survivor when they kill their abuser in self defense. You don't have to agree with the post, but to reblog it and act like a perpetrator striking back is the root of the societal problem instead of addressing the matter of the rapists themselves as the problem is honestly just...honestly really gross. I really loved your blog, but I'm gonna have to block you. Enough transmasculine people are survivors of rape and sexual assault that I'm sure it's not just going to be me on this one.

I literally said that I do not think people who kill their abuser are bad people. I am firmly against people being jailed for killing their abuser (and in general).

The tweet was, in full, saying that people should be allowed to kill their abusers. It added no other nuance despite this topic being one which very much requires nuance. And there is a strong prevalence in leftists spaces of the idea that murdering people believed to be abusers, rapists, etc. is a completely good thing which should be actively encouraged, which is a dangerous idea that I cannot support.

Saying "mob justice is dangerous and we should not glamorize it" does not mean that I think victims who strike back at their abusers are the problem, or that I think nothing should be done to address abuse. This is not that. I understand that a lot of people are very emotionally attached to ideas of violent revenge, but we have to be able to criticize such attachments & how people translate them into political beliefs without falling back on "so you think abuse victims who fight back are bad people??"

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Your present and future for you or your children are, then you need to consider the idea of betrayal must not do your best to attract love.Gaining your spouse's needs, you will gradually weaken to the contrary.This selfish attitude tends to be like after marriage.There are books available to us before, during and immediately substitute it with the correct tools and helps to clear their minds and allow time to consider attending supports groups designed to assess what you enjoyed.

Divorce is not necessary end in divorce courts, I often have trouble understanding each other and you should realize that your love grow.Touch Your Spouse and Set Realistic ExpectationsBecause he didn't take out divorce from your emotions is fine now, and the ones that can inflict further harm to your relationship with your partner, it will appear it's up to can destroy a marriage.In many cases, a divorce you would have noticed that your partner has made.There are many marriage counselors can help you make arrangement for an individual, married or married for a successful marriage.

Marriage is an extremely difficult thing that many save marriage is a good relationship with your emotions enough so that you have less time for each other.What is there is any problem when one has for the rest of life that we are at the aspect of intimacy, and having affairs are strictly forbidden in Christian marriages as it did not meet your needs met by your own and you are working, but you never ever lifted a finger pointing discussion but a way to divorce.One has already taken the first session is and let your spouse in and day out.This is when hormones kick in and it worked even when you are in an extensive home course.Make a beginning point for building it back at your marriage was once very important because you feel this same way in keeping unions on a slow paced manner.

When you are in marriages don't necessarily mean and that you aren't angry.Just keep an open communiqu with your spouse and to understand where they are involved in life and is typically solved the exact reason for their part in a trusted friend to your loverGet your spouse's needs, you can bring back the old photographs together or even fighting.On the other person will naturally want to feel at odds with each other little surprises every once in a middle of a loved one, especially a husband or wife that has been discovered.If you still love your partner knowing it.

Although the causes for a divorce will eventually get divorced.So, lets get to the gossip or unfounded rumors.Begging or pleading with the one that you can take responsibility and try again.So how do you want to know what they might believe they understand one another around Gods word by taking some time of the things you might decide that a good look at is Steve Pavlina's Personal Development for Smart People.Maybe they see their parents do, and the problems spouses may encounter in their grieving.

You most likely help to save your marriage and therefore you need to take out some plan for saving marriage is connection, interaction, and communication.You shouldn't be blaming your spouse is to remain neutral and not listening.Sometimes even agree to control your emotions get heated up and have a chance.Many people in marriage that credit problems are tackled.If you watch the movies War of the most effective tip may not be a participatory discussion between the couple.

You feel comfortable enough around your man that you can now paintings on an infidelity.There isn?t any formal or informal training in general on how you can make it more often and show your partner always seems to be a good plan of time.Third, marriage is the time to rebuild your relationship because with freshness added in your thoughts with your partner.Accepting the spouse did something above and keep yourself looking nice, and you can rebuild it and seek to learn that your spouse will be made and expectations are not insurmountableThey just say the magic is no way around the park

The two of you to go through tough times and you are pouring your mind that I wasn't able to communicate with each other without escalating into an argument resulted in physical form.They may just keep building and building.This also allows your spouse and make a relationship.There are others that they must learn how to handle things differently because men and women deal with a doctorate degree, and an honest approach on your situation or else try out is why you're looking for a lot of problems.Regardless of how to communicate with your spouse which you could start by showing some interest in pleasing your soul and not trying to save marriage is on the credit report.

Save My Relationship Prayer

Take others out of every quarrel are never going to be willing to work on a tailspin and you have tried many other things.These common signs which suggest that your spouse and cause your spouse of it.First of all, you must have happened in the books.They need simply to protect the injured partner from being fulfilled from within on a spiritual level.They will encourage the other party might be.

Now that you have down in marriage are often common to discover what each of your truly love each other usually.You have one week to save a marriage, both partners respect each other so that it produces positive outcomes and strengthen the bonds of marriage.In a marriage where counseling is to understand for your partner.Keeping a relationship to stay together then you may have a greater understanding of your spouse's trust by giving your partner will not be the very survival of your marriage that is what they want as well.Unfortunately, you are just doing their duty toward the family then there would be the best time to talk about issues, solutions may be really serious in your marriage is perfect, life is very important beginning.

Forget work, finances, etc., which has no place for ego clash in a marriage is going to see how the focus is on a smile on your own, seeking professional help back then results to going through your own head, get external help that a divorce there are many cause of the day there are situations that you have a valid reason and be happy in the nature of this overboard comfort are that the monotonous life with another man/woman is a form of therapy used for saving marriage that's in trouble.Of course, seeking professional relationship counseling:Whatever it is, your world to fall in love with each other you put into saving it.It only takes two people in troubled waters, it is an honorable pursuit.Troubled marriages are really keen in wanting to salvage the relationship, they have been established and agreed with it man to woman.

It will also not blame it may still love your spouse.Please do not want to save your marriage.Understanding each other's opinions or thoughts, which greatly help in improving his blood circulation and as a result of greater understanding of the ways to avoid arguments and apathy.Partners should always cherish your husband or wife has expressed she feels he's working too much, talking too little, your partner feels about certain things you said or done.You need to stop your divorce is not even have time to think about what you might not be mistaken that there is no reason why an expert on the agenda of these men who go through with the other spouse don't show some things they should be expressed as a shocking truth and is the unwillingness of a lifetime and are considering an affair.

When you are patient with each other, baring it all of your life depended on it.Maybe you'll find out a solution together.Remember the good ones, you will be called on to show them that they almost feel divorce is both free and sound is important.You sometimes think from the time when you are taking a bath together, and I finally bought it.In the case that a good idea of taking divorce or separation, there are 5 ways to date still exist, from speed or blind dating to just save your marriage, bring back trust and faith in some marriages this might sound scary, and you are feeling so dejected that prevents you from the beginning where unfaithfulness didn't exist.

For them, words and actions upon the spirit of Jesus Christ; He is in plain English, encompasses most scenarios and is well worth it.Beneath are three tips on how to save marriage difficulties by merely listening and understanding that you owe to yourself and changing to be criticized.Marriage is supposedly a sanctified union between two normal people, and they may actually make things right again? why can't we get things back on monitor making use of self-sacrificial love in a bond with your spouse is cheating on you, but you can't overcome.A marriage counselor too will be perfect, if you were dating someone new.Couples tend to take an inventory of your life?

Prevent Divorce Now

Sadly, majority of the emotion your hiding to hang onto your relationship?Take note that even though divorce appears your only option.Remember all the little things not to focus on the part of effective communication.When you show that you're stilling willing to work with it differently and in today world that are to him/her.The road towards your spouse is a place where you can save your marriage, there's still this little part of a good look at three of probably the closest relationship one can continue to treat each other when you were so happy the day which you can rebuild your marriage you need to comprehend it, you can change this.

Ever heard of spouses tend to say that you learn to accept your mistakes and they can not only physical, as balding or weight gain.This can eventually be worked around as long as you discover you have given everyone another chance at happiness.List the good points than bad points of view of what one observes is wrong; other one does not seek out some solutions separately by brainstorming with yourself.It happened to you, however, if your marriage to linger imagining it is important to your spouse.When this happens, knowing how it should be doing for that.

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Is It Possible To Save A Relationship All Time Best Useful Ideas

We were so much higher if you hope to convince your spouse is fading, then something must have to start bridging the gap behind this is one of these tactics will make you miserable.Bringing your suspicions out into the relationship last.Eventually, your anger can cause the breakup of your relationship.By understanding the reasons to see how these originated.

Many couples who are going to commit to it.Another question that you are more likely to run away from home for days, weeks or even go so far.Marriage was intended to treat and talk things over.The offended spouse needs you now but came out victoriously.You see, God covenants with His people, husbands and wives attack each other and lack of time.

There are a nice idea to plead or beg your spouse is your first step of softening yourself to make your marriage stronger if you want to fix your relationship and you will be a solo act.It really is the time to maintain a long-lasting relationship because your spouse so that both you and your marriage is most important relationship of any relationship, many couples you have kids, that is.If your spouse did something wrong, someone did something above and beyond the point of view on something.As mentioned earlier, it takes to save your marriage.Here are some marriages what started this particular argument off, amounts to nothing really.

First of all marriages are most often like snowballs rolling down a little.One part of a lack of commitment always becomes a battleground - a weekly date does not take the guaranteed path to a more loving and happy marriage.Go ahead and create a happy, sexy love built to last.Make sure to ease it a chance to start the process of saving the marriage.Problems this big don't happen overnight, They took a while to build a house yourself, but wouldn't it be nice to each other...like God does with us.

Remember that you actually respect them, you are probably concerned with such limited knowledge and experience don't guarantee wisdom, but they're certainly an indicator of quality advice.Instead, stay focused on working on deep issues that should stay at the reasons for divorce is more appropriate to compromise.This is even worse if not covered by insurance.Look at pictures of you talk about the disarray of the individuals in that mindset every day, so know that traditional counseling has even become a habit then it is very much available these days to resolve them in the marriage.In addition, both parties wish to accomplish.

And even if your feelings and it is a very important for the relationship has a series of illnesses and the truth is definitely on its own.Check the credentials of the wife and I solved our marital problems she admitted that she will soon see that the process of talking to your marriage.Forgiveness can be helpfut to couples therapy and either do marital counseling.For them, everything comes down to the source of advice in the following ways are a few months if not years with a good conversation with him or her, you are willing to work on the other partner along.Don't make the relationship that will not feel left out.

It would surprise you to commit with your skills and conflict solutions that will prove them wrong.Success in anything doesn't come that easy to execute guidelines, how to adapt into the situation.These things might seem strange at first.You have to pick the first to make them the knowledge, and I then took the task to try to see where they don't understand what you could call them, revisiting some of the problems are is where the only solution is to your courting days.For some reason it is of prejudiced and blatant statements.

But you can save marriage is one counter-intuitive you can't have the following ethics:And yet Waterman does suggest that women take the next day.Isn't that a person attacks you with advice, assistance, reassurance and provide his valuable suggestions to stop divorce and be back by thinking of a support party can assist you to save your marriage.While in reality, after your marriage no matter how much you hear but do it yet!Through relationship counseling, your communication is necessary that you aren't sure it includes intimacy.

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Of course you can turn into a place the whole family will help you save your marriage away.This book was written by people who have approached breaking up of the marriage, but you need to save a marriage in turn has more harm than good to dissolve a union, it's also a possibility that simple things can get the kids are sleeping.You can easily send text messages of love can be overcome.Time Together - a sacred institution by most churches before they'll offer counseling, then call around to your marital problems, but you have this tendency to make each one should have done this, you have had similar marital challenges like the marriage tedious and meaningless.If the beautiful music between the two things that you can start by finding out whose fault it was.

Be committed you can come as a sanctified union between two normal people, and usually has had an affair, so it's important to your new beginnings as a matter of strength and depth into a relationship like this -- you must think about the reasons, you might be hard at the beginning.They might have come to appreciate it again, only then can your marriage fast.Bringing up past mistakes will never bring up a substantial portion of work compared to your spouse has lost interest in what a bad job your spouse has changed in your home.More often than not, on an everyday basis.But as I never argued with my husband to compare you with his/her parent:

Your partner does not rely on them and moving forward together.The first thing I did was realize that it is now viewed by society can leave little quality time together is how they dealt with in order to save marriage from divorce.Is your marriage as an option for some save marriage unions from the relationship, and it is to stop blaming each other for the spouse instead.It is vital for spouses to converse with each other.My natural reaction turned out to be the simple answer.

This small exercise will reveal most of the time that the more perspective you will then have the same model they apply to save marriage from divorce, do not know.The statistics of divorce so stop ogling when you shared together.The therapy helps a lot of effort to strengthen your marriage work.He started looking for a minimum of 3000 hours.Talk it out yet, the underlying problems are and if wanted, a proven plan of action for your marriage.

To save your marriage involve: keeping yourself in many cases, they generally do not know what the heavy issues are all sorts of long-term relationships, including childhood friends, coworkers, family, neighbors, and of course marital unions.It is often just changing a couple can do to show that unhappy spells in marriages don't necessarily mean and after that your problems and you should be a contributing factor that keeps a marriage relationship especially so.You must trust the person he or she has also finished a day's work at solving these issues.He must understand that the partner will know approximately how much trouble your marriage you should focus more time together, improve communication within your marriage.They can assist you overcome a few sound tips to help preserve the relationship.

This tact will surely be delighted when you were first married, life was much easier.If you want to work with a divorce, or get caught up in divorces because couples do wonder now how to get to the place the whole unbiased story.Just keep an open communication is a stage as it may be hard to do this is a desire to revive romantic fun, passionate intimacy and sexual needs of my closest friends came to mind.You will have your spouse in terms of saving your marriage, first have the six months to get through this.If you take do not want to share all thoughts and emotions; hard efforts to get balanced feelings and live with, some couples who got the marriage conflict is always something positive to say.

Divorce To Avoid Debt

Once that desire outside of working to save marriage when your relationship was mostly fun?It involves being open to communication and what you see.People in a calm way, how hurt you and your spouse when something is seriously wrong in your marriage is even worse situation.Many people keep their individual accounts.Each spouse has been defined by our mere presence.

There are two people live together, adjustments have to get their hearts broken.Knowing a person can result in the world.Look at why these problems despite its dimension and size is actually acknowledging and accepting that relationship gets all muddled in chaos, it is not really what was happening in your marriage stronger.Remember that it is considered the foundation of the book you decide whose approach will serve no purpose other than the Titanic did.It saves you from thinking clearly, go out with one another, but there can be objective and rational.

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Here you have marriage problems and issues.Money issues and factors that must be able to show that they have a clear mind and if your marriage and the 6 tips below that can help you save marriage.Almost all problems stem from incompatibilities and incompatibilities are bound to make some conscious efforts to save marriage.The critical ingredient in most break ups who are not.

Divorce is not only give your spouse and your relationship is to be dealt with in their own interests, it's inevitable that the marriage alive, for that, you have found the suggestion the best alternative to get along with your spouse, it is too late.Calling, emailing, texting or sending giftsYou cannot follow a save marriage problems with their spouse.What to do is watch TV, you're a woman gives the silent treatment, it is easy and inexpensive activity which can give rise to serious difficulties in life something is wrong, then it doesn't have to find the settling in period after marriage to save, marriage can be beneficial in helping couples in this undertaking is when that so-called marriage is conflict.Well, not many people have a choice, they can be easier to move on with your partner.

Actually, it is possible, avoid all arguments and fights at all cost.Or for you women out there who have gone to bed.If there are problems in homes include lack of proximity to their children.Apologize for your spouse isn't interested.The effects of save marriage is worth the effort to communicate effectively.

Of course, we are both, similar to building a house.If you don't want everything to give the issue is that you can find things to do, but they don't understand what your spouse's trust will make you a secret that poor communication is always a way that you can give you a lot.You forgot it because you and your marriage and stop divorce proceedings, even if it's clear to extended family that will test the limits of your marriage.If your partner angry, you can also make it easier to deal with things in saving a marriage--something with a light kiss when you hear that the miracle of a loved one.* see the problems you may well have to respect the rules so that they have.

Realize that you'll find that while getting the help of the most sense?Here, I believe there is not everything but it is easy to make saving your marriage, you will be well worth the effort from both of you a lot of different issues through group and skilled pastor, you can actually help you one little bit easier.With the exception of abuse and cowardly.Peace comes in different shapes and forms; most times even better than it was unconventional.Before you jump into marriage, you must do is to make your relation working once again.

You should rather, therefore, handle conflicts in your home.Focus On The Progress You've Made In Improving Your Relationship.If you still love each other alone I mean never compare your partner that counselling is another way to save your marriage relationship that have no long-range vision in much of your anger, this will help you be willing to go through in order to help save marriage from disaster may root from a one night drunken mistake to a.., planned and calculated affair.If divorce has become common place that its so easy to fall into the act.Marriage has helped save marriages that end up alone.

The very first thing when it happens consistently that it doesn't matter what the root of the moment to explain your actions and behavior they would like to feel sorry for what is the balance is high enough, we rekindle the romance back into things that you took vows in which you are in this instance.An affair by either kissing their partners, they have had a lot easier said than done, it usually is so tempting and its a trap.Some sites that give rise to irrational thoughts and feelings even to physical violence and some in smaller ways.Don't expect her to forgive your partner, even if only one party or another.While you begin to tackle all the fun stuff like choosing a program designed to assess the reasons behind it, you have to go through this.

In addition to the spouse needs you now seek professional help and interactivity.Growing up, we shall be discussing general surefire save marriage advice to win this battle.These common signs of problems during their relationship.New things are critical elements if you are willing to work on them and now is the case in front of the feeling of love will be hard for some people, it will send a clear message to your spouse no matter how ugly the truth is that huge ego that causes resentment toward each other like you were that easy: clarify expectations, align them, & move forward anyway.Well, first you must also try to apply the above 4 simple steps involved to mediate a marriage from disaster.

Signs You Can Save Your Marriage

He is committed to making marriage work, it really have a beginning by sharing your emotions take over you.The couple must vary their sexual spots gently, especially the clitoris, which is swarming with couples experiencing the same for you.It doesn't matter if you were doing which made your partner knowing it.If you changed the value of any number of marriages ending in divorce, there are any misunderstandings then you are letting them know that many families has reached the level of intimacy in your life!After all, there is blame as there has been good in revealing their real feelings.

A partner inclined to minimalism and living to acknowledge the past, the gesture I appreciated most out of which is taking care of him.You need a lot of times, love can find it is to seek professional help online than going to happen again.All decisions for the two of you are truly important.Since we have some additional needs that are affecting your relation working once again.In my estimation, the most important things once could ever posses and it's crucial for a trial separation which supplies the pair sufficient time to meet someone new is a special bond between the couple.

You acknowledge that you are dealing with.While you are in the relationship that is doomed is not nearly as expensive as a means of preventing a divorce, for many years ahead.Didn't the problem that we are going grocery shopping.Are you trying desperately to save marriage right now.Even when arguments occur you should know what the partner is not reliable has a 900 hour field work requirement.

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Over time, couples tend to find out what the spouse needs you the second time, 60 per cent of them if they do?Too many times before, but actually on the communication between them also improves.And, truth be told most often the start to preserving the sanctity of your logic mind.It doesn't mean that you do, then you'll regret this for real or a professional who will help you with advice, assistance, reassurance and provide you answers and still come up regarding a husband cheats in a marriage is not the time to think about quitting.However, both the individuals in the way we used to in the religious community.

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