#Communicating Beautifully

[sagescented]

From skumrag on TikTok

Why does […] Gen Z call anybody who responds to them in an argument "mad" or "upset"? And it's always in an argument that they started. I don't get it. I see it happen all the time […] You'll see a […] Gen Z'er complaining about something in the video that doesn't matter. A person will give either a normal response, or will give them the same energy back, and all of a sudden the Gen Z'er's like "Oh you're so mad, you're so upset"; they think you responding to them means you're "bothered", and it's just like no. You started an argument, and I responded to your argument. It's like they just don't know how to argue? But they always want to be in arguments? So it's just like what is going on here. Like, you either need to figure one or the other out- you either need to stay out of arguments, or you need to figure out how to argue better. Starting an argument and then getting mad when someone responds to you and then claiming that they're mad and upset, it doesn't work out. Like it has the same energy as a younger sibling just responding with "nuh-uuuuhhh, nuh-uuuuhhh" (dramatic). Are we even arguing, or are you just crying? Like I'm confused.

I've noticed this, too, in terms of someone leaving an innocuous or tone neutral comment, and people acting like they're pressed as well and trying to turn it into an argument a lot. It's such a weird trend

[kensatou]

MONKEY MAN (2024)

[sagescented]

I mean ... Unless you want us to bite ... In which case you gotta tell us that too 🤣

Just want to quickly remind newcomers to the tumblr witch community - This Isn't Tiktok.

Notes aren't a definition of success here. We don't have an algorithm that bumps things to the top of the dash based on popularity. And yes, it's ALWAYS the memes and shitposts and fandom stuff that gets the attention, compared to that long post about the current moon phase you spent an hour writing. (Trust me, I know.)

You're curating your own experience here. Liking posts is fine, but it's commenting and reblogging that kickstart meaningful interactions and help the posts you enjoy reach other users. Tagging posts is fine, but it's not a guarantee that your post will do numbers and tagspamming will get you blocked.

Yes, tumblr is by and large a fandom space, but that doesn't mean that's all there is. And unfortunately, expecting it to work like other social media platforms is only going to lead to disappointment.

If you want to interact with the community and start discussions, REACH OUT TO OTHER WITCHES. You can post in the tags all day and night, but if you don't make a direct effort to engage with other users by commenting, reblogging with commentary, or asking/answering questions, it's not likely to get you anywhere meaningful.

Consider this an invitation to browse my posts, check out my tags, and get in my inbox - and do the same for other witchy creators whose content you vibe with.

I'm glad you're here. Let's talk about witchy stuff. 😊

[arthursfuckinghat]

"Bad news awaits you, sir. Sadly, sooner than you think. But beyond the news, paradise awaits."

[remyfire]

Reader, I love them

[transmaverique]

amab and afab, if they were used as shorthand for the actual full phrases that they signify, with emphasis on the "assigned" part, and an understanding that they are enforcements of normative (ie, dyadic and cisgender and binary) sex, would be like. really useful. but people took the terms and started using them as shorthand FOR normative sex instead of the ENFORCEMENT OF normative sex. so when other trans people (almost always dyadic trans people) ask for your agab they are almost always asking for your Original Genital Situation. your starting point, so to say. and the reason FOR asking is also almost always bc they are trying to also enforce a certain kind of normativity within queer spaces (which is stupid bc being queer is inherently non-normative but here we are). like, you cant be a lesbian if you're ftm, bc you ARE m, so if you ARE a lesbian, then that means you're lying about some aspect of your identity. does that make sense?

it is always always always incredibly.... i do not trust dyadic trans people that use cagab terms, even moreso than i do not trust dyadic trans people that just use agab terms. agab is also coopted intersex language, but the "coercive" part of cagab SPECIFICALLY refers to medical "intervention" of intersex characteristics, such as "corrective" surgeries and hrt. i am deeply fucking suspicious of any dyadic trans person that uses those terms exactly the same as described above, even moreso if they do so bc "all gender is coercive".

like. yeah. that's true. but you use these terms to erase and overtake intersex discussions on the medical abuse of intersex infants. and i cant help but wonder why you would feel the need to do that.

[thepoisonroom]

'I flirted with the idea that instead of being trans that I was just a cross-dresser (a quirk, I thought, that could be quietly folded into an otherwise average life) and that my dysphoria was sexual in nature, and sexual only. And if my feelings were only sexual, then, I wondered, perhaps I wasn’t actually trans.

I had read about a book called The Man Who Would Be Queen, by a Northwestern University professor who believed that transwomen who were attracted to women were really confused fetishists, they wanted to be women to satisfy an autogynephilia. And though I first read about this book in the context of its debunkment and disparagement, I thought about the electricity of slipping on those tights, zipping up those boots, and a stream of guilt followed. Maybe this professor was right, and maybe I was only a fetishist. Not trans, just a misguided boy.

About a year later, on the Internet, I come across a transwoman who added a unique message to the crowd refuting this professor. Oh, I wish I remember who this woman was, and I wish even more that I could do better than paraphrase her, but I remember her saying something like this: “Well, of course I feel sexy putting on women’s clothing and having a woman’s body. If you feel comfortable in your body for the first time, won’t that probably mean it’ll be the first time you feel comfortable, too, with delighting in your body as a sexual thing?”'

-Casey Plett, Consciousness

[omaano]

"Cassian's face is a brittle thing, no person's eyes should shine as painfully tearful as his. Kino offers his hand and Cassian - bright as the sun, steady as a roc, fluid as water Cassian - accepts it with shaking fingers. He tells Kino everything."

Art for we're spitting off the edge of the world by Xenomorphic for the 2024 Star Wars Big Bang @swbigbang. It is an amazing Canon Divergence Fix-it fic from one of the most memorable moments of Andor onwards, with beautiful prose that fits the mood of the show so so well and will make you feel just as deeply for these characters. Please give it a read and heap some love on my team's amazing and hardworking author, they were such a delight to work with!❤️

[kadextra]

I’ve slept on it, it’s a new day, I feel like can say that Sweet Despair is the best lore stream I’ve ever watched

[shannonsketches]

he's so important to me

[ominous-feychild]

The simultaneous hilarity and tragedy of looking at a character whose arcs all center around "I feel so lonely and isolated and just wish I had someone to lean on" and deciding to ship them with the character I've been planning to kill from the beginning.

[bindibites]

Yawns okay bc of a (very tiring) interaction I had on a different hellsite I’m making this post:

If you are multigender and have a connection to manhood or masculinity,

If you are genderfluid and have a connection to manhood or masculinity,

If you have an otherwise complex gender identity connected to manhood or masculinity,

You are valid, you have a place as a lesbian, and you accepted and loved.

And in the vice versa, if your identity is complex and tied to womanhood and femininity, you are valid and have a place in being gay, you are also accepted and loved.

It is not fair to exclude you from monosexual love because you fit into one or multiple binary genders, either some or all of the time.

[This post does not have every nuance ever, but the point is your harmless, good faith identities, are valid and you are loved and valued by your community.]

[luminarrow]

had lots of fun at the ttcc pride parade shoutouts to all the lesbians ❤️ (im boo boo snifflepaws!)

[defeateddetectives]

actually i'm obsessed with undercover kuromisa seiji/natori fake dating AU [x][x] and now need there to be a hilariously grave misunderstanding where word gets around that natori shuuichi is dating the striking gothic mademoiselle and somehow rumours swirl that she resembles the matoba head's estranged sister

in the usual exorcists circle fashion of game-of-gossipy-telephone, someone starts whispering: is natori seeing the matoba daughter that infamously defected!? are they conspiring together in trying to bring the matoba clan to its knees??? how scandalous! how conniving!

word gets to ban who's sadly unobservant that his boss likes neither cats nor men all like @ shinobu: are you...perchance secretly dating natori shuuichi?

shinobu, spitting out her drink: ?????

seiji, meanwhile, very much secretly (and no longer fakely) dating one natori shuuichi and now with an excellent cover for it, sidling up to shuuichi: so you'll never guess what i heard at the last exorcist gathering /_^

[halanikki]

“this book changed my life” and the book is a haikyuu x reader series fic that hasn’t been updated in years

[chiropteracupola]

tonight my excellent pal @baronetcoins got the dubious honor of watching me sprain my ankle in the silliest possible manner