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Tim Drake: The Insecurity-Fueled Workaholic™ of the Batfamily

Alright, let’s talk about how Tim Drake is the most insecure member of the Batfamily, and DC just refuses to acknowledge it because they love making this kid suffer without addressing the deep-seated emotional damage they’ve given him.

First of all, Tim was never chosen. Every other Robin? They were picked. Dick was Bruce’s golden boy, Jason was the rebellious stray Bruce couldn’t help but take in, and Damian is his actual biological son. Meanwhile, Tim? He had to blackmail his way into the family. He figured out Bruce was Batman, hunted him down, and basically said, "You need me. If you don’t take me in, Gotham will fall apart." Like, imagine being so desperate for validation that your best option is a hostile corporate takeover of the Robin mantle.

And even after all that, he was still the easiest to replace. Jason died? Bruce spiraled into grief for years. Dick left? He still gets treated like the favorite son. But when Tim got pushed out for Damian? Bruce didn’t hesitate. Sure, Tim was still around, but he went from being Robin—the partner, the right hand—to the guy in the background. The second-stringer. And he felt that.

So, what does Tim do? He overcompensates. He works himself to the bone, stays up all night running mission reports, does everything he can to be useful—because what if the moment he stops, they stop needing him? What if they just… stop calling?

And let’s talk about Tim’s emotional unavailability because that’s another big red flag. He sucks at talking about his feelings, but it’s not because he doesn’t have them—it’s because he’s terrified of being seen as a burden. He sees how the Batfamily functions: Bruce is emotionally constipated, Jason is rage-fueled trauma in a leather jacket, Dick is the "happy" one who actually isn’t, and Damian is basically a feral cat learning how to human. There is no room for Tim to break down.

So, instead, he just works harder—because as long as he’s useful, as long as he’s needed, they won’t forget about him. They won’t leave.

And the worst part? It’s so obvious to everyone else. Dick tries to invite him out to do literally anything fun, and Tim’s like, "Can’t. Busy." Jason side-eyes him when he catches Tim drinking his fifth cup of coffee at 3 AM. Even Damian, Damian, will occasionally be like, "Drake, when was the last time you slept?" because this boy is running on fumes and sheer existential terror of irrelevance.

Tim is the kind of person who will graduate with perfect grades, run an entire company, save Gotham three times in one night—and still feel like he hasn’t done enough. And that? That’s crippling insecurity at its finest.

TL;DR: Tim Drake doesn’t sleep, doesn’t talk about his feelings, and definitely doesn’t think he’s truly part of the family—because at the end of the day, he wasn’t chosen. He forced his way in, and deep down, he’s scared that means they’ll never truly see him as theirs.

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What you should know before counseling at Surbiton?

Many people avoid visiting an expert when they are actually suffering from mental or emotional stress.They hesitate to consult an expert doctor because they fear being called mad. In such cases, it is reallyimportant to understand that not all physiological issues are mental issues. These mental health issues canbe treated with right assessments, diagnosis, and treatments.

When you detect them at the right time and seek for right help from Counseling at Surbiton, it ispossible to improve your sense of well being. All such issues can be resolved with different therapies andcounseling, therefore, you must not delay your visit to expert.

Different types of psychological therapy

When you have any reason for seeking help from a counselor, you must immediately make a visit to yournearest physiological clinic for help. There available advanced therapies at the clinic that can ease yourissues to provide you relief and real help.

These therapies may include Neuro-linguistic programming, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT),counseling sessions, clinical hypnotherapy etc. Each of these has its own benefits in different conditionsbut before an expert can suggest any of this therapy for a patient and initial assessment of the patients isnecessary.

Even when patients know they need an expert suggestion they hesitate to talk about this to their doctor.They are confused about what they must know to talk to their doctor when they plan for a counselingsession or a CBT at Surbiton. When you are at your first session, you must know all these essentials:

1. Why you sought counseling?

Sometimes, it is hard to identify the cause of your mental issues and tensions but when you actually knowthat you need expert help, you can simply go for counseling to discuss any of your problems with anexpert.

2. What is your history and present situation?

Once you visit a clinic for counseling at Surbiton you need to calm to answer all the questions asked byyour expert in the session. This will help him analyze your family history and your current situation.

3. What are your current symptoms?

A therapist will help you identify the symptoms that you are suffering from. The right detection of currentsymptoms is essential so that the right therapy can be suggested for immediate relief.

4. What do you need to ask your expert? You must understand that the counseling session has been organized for your comfort and thus you mustnot hesitate to ask about your queries and doubts. You can have any discussion with your expert in thesession.

5. How many sessions you will need?

Remember that you may need several sessions to get back to normal life. The frequency of sessions andtherapy may vary as per your mental conditions. When you and your expert get to the final conclusions of your counseling sessions, the right solutions canbe suggested. This may include certain combination of medications or multiple therapies such as CBT atSurbiton.

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Blister Beetle Basics

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Blister Beetle Basics

A blister beetle’s diet isshockinglycomposed of pollen, blossoms,withleaves of flowering plants,makingalfalfa theperfectmeal for them.

Photo: Clemson University/USDA Cooperative Extension Slide Series/Wikimedia Commons

It might be hardto assumethattheessentialcategoryof the horse’s diet could contain potentiallylethalhidden toxins. But it’s aaggressivetruth that horse owners must be aware of: Alfalfa haycanharbortheinsect called the blister beetle (Epicauta spp) thatcancontainoneharmful toxic substance called cantharidin.

themember of the Meloidae family, blister beetles live throughout the United StatesandCanada. Their average body length isof0.3 to 1.3 inches.oneblister beetle’s diet isinfinitelycomposed of pollen, blossoms,withleaves of flowering plants,assemblealfalfa thewholemeal for them. Most alfalfa infestation occurs during late summerandearly fall, when the adult blister beetle population also peaks.

Male blister beetlesconstructannatural defense toxin called cantharidin. This irritantcancause blisters on skin (of both horsesandhumans) withinanfew hours of contact, hence the insect’s name. When ingested, cantharidin is lethal in horses withAt the timelittleAshalfanmilligram per kilogram of body weight,liketo consumption of around 125 beetles fortheaverage-sized horse.andit’s not just the live insects that are harmful: The toxin is still effectivelongafter the beetle dies.

Cantharidin negatively impacts horses’ urinaryanddigestive systems,withsigns of toxicitycaninclude colic; diarrhea; elevated temperature, heart rate,withrespiration rate;andfrequent urination.

There is nofastidioustreatment for blister beetle poisoning,andtherapy typically focuses on supportive care, reducing toxin absorption,andadministering intravenous fluids, gastrointestinal protectants,andbroad-spectrum antibiotics.iftreatment is unsuccessful, orifanhorse us untreated, death usually occurs within 72 hours of blister beetle ingestion.

Fortunately, there are steps youcankeepto reduce the risk of inadvertently feeding blister beetles, including:

whetherpracticalwithpossible,withyour horse requires alfalfa hay in his diet, grow your ownthusyou canemployproper preventive management practices;

Buy from local sources, developtherelationship your hay producer,andlearnapproximatelytheir production practiceswithhay quality;

Buymomentcutting hay, since blister beetles are not active early in the season;

Because blister beetles are attracted to alfalfa’s flowers, purchase hay cut prior to flowering;

Inspect hay closely for blister beetles when purchasing or before feeding alfalfa hay. Do not feed any hay that you think could contain blister beetles; and

Consider eliminating alfalfa hay from your horse’s dietifhe doesn’t need itandswitching to aVarysortof forage.

Blister beetlescanbelethalto horses, but youmayreduce that risk by checking alfalfa hay closely before feedingwithchoosing cuts that are less likely to contain these insectswiththe toxins they contain.

About the Author

Kristen M. Janicki, MS, PAS

Kristen M. Janicki,onelifelong horsewoman, was bornwithraised in the suburbs of Chicago. She received her Bachelor of Sciencemeasurein Animal Sciences from the attend the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaignandsuccessivelyattended graduate school at the University of Kentucky, studying under Dr. Laurie Lawrence in the area of Equine Nutrition. Kristen began hercontemporarypositionAt the timeanperformance horse nutritionist for Mars Horsecare, US, Inc.,withBuckeye Nutrition, in 2010. Hervocationentails evaluatingwithimproving the performance of the sport horse through proper nutrition.

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Habituation vs. Learned Helplessness in Horses

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Habituation vs. Learned Helplessness in Horses

Done correctly, habituationcandecreaseanhorse’s response to exposure toanstimulus over time.

Photo: Anne M. Eberhardt/The Horse

Q. I sawatrainer “habituating”themare to scary objects attheclinicchooseyear. When he was done with the process, the mare lookedWhenifshe’d simply given up or zoned outofthe tarp-flapping, etc., which to me lookedonelotrelishthe “learned helplessness” I’ve readapproximatelyon TheHorse.com. Approaches that coulddirecttofundamentalhelplessness seem unethical. Is it possible to desensitizethehorse inawelfare-friendly way?

Carole, via e-mail

  A. Unfortunately, in the dogwithhorse training worlds there has been afairamount of misunderstandingwithmisapplication of the scientific principleswithterminology of animal learning.thusyour question offers anopportunityto explain thesesignificantprincipleswiththeir implications.

In learning science, habituation refers toaprogressive decrease in one’s response to exposure tothestimulus over time. In the horse world, we most often think of habituationAsthat to nonharmful stimuli to which horses innately andalmostreflexively react. With repeated exposure below the threshold for escape or panic, the horse’s response to the stimulus decreases graduallyandmay disappear, such that we might say the horse is “gettingformerto it.” 

I recently observed this when watchingthe24-hour video ofahorse. The horse was brought to arecentfacilityandplaced inthestall, which happened to be rightfinallytoavery noisy thermostatically controlled heater. Thefinallycouple of times the heater kicked on, the horse startledandretreated to the far side of the stall, where he froze inthealert posture, staring in the direction of the fan. Over the 24 hours, his response to the heater turning on became lesswithless noticeable, such that afterabout12 hours I could not tell from his behavior alone that the heater had kicked on.thereforethis horse habituated to the heater motor noiseandvibration. 

Well-done, judiciously paced introduction toanwide selection of circumstances is theidealgoal with any horse. Withonehorse ofonenaturally mellow temperament, systematic habituation toallsorts of situations canleadto what we callone“bombproof” horse. The horse reachesthepoint where his initial reaction to atotallycurrentstimulus seems muted compared to that of other horses,andhabituation to each successive stimulus or situation may become much more efficient. This is especiallyvery specialfor kids’ horses, police horses,andtherapy horses. 

At the timeweallknow, repeated exposure to nonharmful stimuli does not necessarilyleadto habituation. In fact, the opposite response, called sensitization—an increased rather than decreased reaction—can occur. The initial innate response to thetransparentstimulus couldHavingbeenquiteneutral, but because of circumstancesandassociated events, fearwithanxietydirecttooneincreased response. Inatraining context, theperfectwould be to introduce the stimulus or situation inanmeasured way, below the escape -threshold,thereforeAt the timeto best facilitate habituationandgo aroundsensitization. 

Shouldanhorse become sensitized, trainerscanperformanbehavior modification procedure called systematic desensitizationto getback to baseline innate reactionwiththereafterhopefullyGetgoing in the desired direction of habituation, reduced reaction, or no reaction. 

Thebanalhorse examples of sensitization requiring systematic desensitization are the aversions horsessosimplydevelop to procedures suchAt the timeclipping, veterinary treatments,andtrailer-loading. This skill or art of achieving habituationwithavoiding sensitization involves instantly recognizing the subtle signs ofconsolationvs. fearwithsimultaneously adjusting the pressure and/or adding positive distractors/reinforcersthusWhentopossessthe horse below the threshold for escape behavior or panic. 

Learned helplessness refers toastate of significantly reduced response resulting from the animal’s inabilityto affectitschanceor environment. In the context of negative experiences, the -phenomenon results from repeated exposure to unavoidable, inescapable painful or fear-inducing stimuli or situations. The animal essentially shuts down behaviorally, no longer trying to escape or avoid,withentersthestate of behavioral depression.basichelplessnesscanbe situation-specific, but most often in psychology the termmandatoryhelplessness isusedto describethegeneralized “shutdown” or depressionwithapparentinability to act. 

“Most often in psychology the termradicalhelplessness isprecedingto describeonegeneralized ‘shutdown’ or depressionwithapparentinability to act. ”

Dr. Sue McDonnell

Weaccomplishanlotofthis phenomenon inheapsanimal species,AsscientistsHaveoldanimalsAsresearch models for studying human psychopathology (mental and/or behavioral disorders), including the testing of psychopharmacological interventions for anxietywithpanic disorders, phobias,withdepression.necessaryhelplessness isapsychopathological condition.moreoverto depression, it canproceedto behaviors suchAt the timeunpredictableweird“acting out,” self-mutilation, inabilityto learnwithwork, stereotypies (repetitive behaviors that serve no function),withhealth effects suchWhengastric ulcersandsuppressed immune function.

thereforeyou are right, I think most of us wouldaccordthatmandatoryhelplessness is notangood state of welfare for our horses.andalthough practicesintentionallyaimed at producing suchthestate still exist insuresegments of horse training, Iliketo think these days that fewerandfewer horses are exposed to training withlearnedhelplessnessWhenaintended objective. Such techniques includeunusuallyrestraining the horse (hog-tying or burying in grain or sand tanks)andmopresenting the overwhelming stimulus until the horse submits. In learning science, this “sink or swim” approach is called floodingwithis not recommendedAsonehumane training method. The practice knownWhenimprint training, in whichannewborn foal is restrainedwithforced to tolerate/submit to human handling, is essentially intended flooding.

But, unfortunately,innumerabletraining practices meant to habituate or to desensitize cansimplygowrongwithresult in varying degrees ofnecessaryhelplessness. These include methods that incorporate injudicious negative reinforcement (application of pressure until the horse yields) without ample positive reinforcement (rewards when the horse does the desired behavior)to maintainmotivation and/or that depend heavily on restraint or incorporate punishment. 

lotsclassically trained behaviorists working with horses worry thatsome onespopular cliniciansandequine educators promote methods that put the less-skilled horse owner or handler at risk of inducinglearnedhelplessness. When trying tooperatenegative reinforcement alone to gainonehorse’s compliance with mildly aversive procedures, for instance,ancaneasilysensitize the horse, essentially teaching escapewithavoidance behaviors. This happensonelot! For example,some onesclinicians teach negative reinforcement techniques tolastear clipping, injections, oral medication administration, etc. Thismaybe done, but it requiresterrificskill. The timing must be perfect,withifyou can’t ride out expected escape behavior, youmayverypromptcreateanwreck. Also, breedswithindividual horses within breeds,Whenhas been shown fornumerousspecies, appear to vary in their ability to handle these methods andunintentionaltraining mistakes. For example,anQuarter Horse or Standardbred is more likelycompetentto handle negative reinforcementwithpunishment than the typically moresensitiveThoroughbred or Arabian.

Decades of scientific research documenteverythese learning phenomena that, for the most part,Haveyet to be introduced to equine education. For example, there are 10 characteristics of habituation, each with very interestingwithuseful animal trainingandwelfare implications. Behaviorists working with horses recognize these characteristics in their subjects. Hopefully, with increasing interest in learning science, equine educators, trainers,andveterinarians will morefullyembracewithteach scientific learning principles.thereforeagain, thank you for bringing this up.

About the Author

Sue McDonnell, PhD, Certified AAB

Sue M. McDonnell, PhD, isthecertified applied animal behavioristandthe founding head of the equine behavior program at the University of Pennsylvania’s School of Veterinary Medicine. She is also the author ofnumerousbookswitharticlesabouthorse behaviorandmanagement.

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Tim Drake: The Insecurity-Fueled Workaholic™ of the Batfamily

Alright, let’s talk about how Tim Drake is the most insecure member of the Batfamily, and DC just refuses to acknowledge it because they love making this kid suffer without addressing the deep-seated emotional damage they’ve given him.

First of all, Tim was never chosen. Every other Robin? They were picked. Dick was Bruce’s golden boy, Jason was the rebellious stray Bruce couldn’t help but take in, and Damian is his actual biological son. Meanwhile, Tim? He had to blackmail his way into the family. He figured out Bruce was Batman, hunted him down, and basically said, "You need me. If you don’t take me in, Gotham will fall apart." Like, imagine being so desperate for validation that your best option is a hostile corporate takeover of the Robin mantle.

And even after all that, he was still the easiest to replace. Jason died? Bruce spiraled into grief for years. Dick left? He still gets treated like the favorite son. But when Tim got pushed out for Damian? Bruce didn’t hesitate. Sure, Tim was still around, but he went from being Robin—the partner, the right hand—to the guy in the background. The second-stringer. And he felt that.

So, what does Tim do? He overcompensates. He works himself to the bone, stays up all night running mission reports, does everything he can to be useful—because what if the moment he stops, they stop needing him? What if they just… stop calling?

And let’s talk about Tim’s emotional unavailability because that’s another big red flag. He sucks at talking about his feelings, but it’s not because he doesn’t have them—it’s because he’s terrified of being seen as a burden. He sees how the Batfamily functions: Bruce is emotionally constipated, Jason is rage-fueled trauma in a leather jacket, Dick is the "happy" one who actually isn’t, and Damian is basically a feral cat learning how to human. There is no room for Tim to break down.

So, instead, he just works harder—because as long as he’s useful, as long as he’s needed, they won’t forget about him. They won’t leave.

And the worst part? It’s so obvious to everyone else. Dick tries to invite him out to do literally anything fun, and Tim’s like, "Can’t. Busy." Jason side-eyes him when he catches Tim drinking his fifth cup of coffee at 3 AM. Even Damian, Damian, will occasionally be like, "Drake, when was the last time you slept?" because this boy is running on fumes and sheer existential terror of irrelevance.

Tim is the kind of person who will graduate with perfect grades, run an entire company, save Gotham three times in one night—and still feel like he hasn’t done enough. And that? That’s crippling insecurity at its finest.

TL;DR: Tim Drake doesn’t sleep, doesn’t talk about his feelings, and definitely doesn’t think he’s truly part of the family—because at the end of the day, he wasn’t chosen. He forced his way in, and deep down, he’s scared that means they’ll never truly see him as theirs.