#'geez dani maybe you should stop drinking iced capps'

[safyresky]

LITERALLY MADE THIS RE-REBLOGABBLE JUST SO I COULD YELL SOME MORE

thought this whole thing was finished but NOOOOoooOOOoooOOOOOooOOO

I GO ON MY LUNCH EXPECTING TO FIND FUN BLORBO MESSAGES FROM FRIENDS ONLY TO FIND THE MOST ANNOYING MOTHER MESSAGE EVER

She asked first if we (me and husbando) were going to my aunt's bday celebration in three weeks and my cousin's in two weeks

I replied if we do we'll take the GO down for the day bc who the fuck LIKES parking in Toronto, or driving through it, the answer is NO ONE

Do you think she replies like a normal, reasonable, human being?

NO. SHE REPLIES WITH THIS:

"I have to ask and don't take this the wrong way but do you just not like coming home for weekends I feel like you are kinda drifting away it makes me sad is all"

TEN YEARS. GUYS. TEN Y E A R S I HAVE LIVED AWAY FROM CHILDHOOD HOME AND YES, SHE IS RIGHT, I DON'T LIKE GOING DOWN TO VISIT IT'S EXHAUSTING. THE DRIVE IS TIRING BUT THE PEOPLE ARE WORSE! And after a long work week? With THE HORRORS????? NO! I WANNA STAY HOME AND RECOUP AND SPEND TIME WITH THE LOVE OF MY LIFE AND DO FUN THINGS LIKE WRITE AND PLAY DISNEY AND RUN ERRANDS AND HANG OUT WITH FRIENDS HERE AND PUT UP CHRISTMAS DECOR AND DO SOME GARDENING IN BETTER WEATHER AND. YOU KNOW. REASONABLE, HOMEOWNER, ADULTY STUFF

AND THIS IS ALL NOT MENTIONING THE TUMULTUOUS TIME THE PAST 2-3 YEARS HAVE BEEN BETWEEN PLANNING A WEDDING THAT EVERYONE THINKS THEY GET A SAY IN, FUNDING THAT WEDDING ON OUR OWN SINCE EVERYONE WHO WANTS A SAY SUDDENLY HAS NO MONEY DESPITE PREVIOUS OFFERS OF HELP, AND TRYING TO DO THIS ALL WHILE HUSBANDO IS FINISHING UP TRADE SCHOOL AND THE MOST STRESSED HE'S EVER BEEN BC ON TOP OF ALL! THAT! MY DING DANG LITTLE BROTHER GOT HIS ASS IN TROUBLE AND WAS STAYING WITH US FOR THE YEAR BECAUSE HE COULDN'T GO HOME YET!

AND DO YOU THINK MY OWN MOTHER ASKED ME HOW I FELT ABOUT IT ALL? NO! ANY TIME I TRIED TO TALK IT WAS ALWAYS "Well how do you think WE feel" or "We didn't want this to happen" AS IF THEIR OWN ACTIONS, OF STUPID NEEDLESS ARGUMENTS AND YELLING, WOULDN'T BACKFIRE ON THEM ONE DAY. LIKE. COME THE FUCK ONNNNNN

SO YEAH. OF FUCKING COURSE I DON'T LIKE GOING HOME TO VISIT NOW! I AM TIRED AND WORN OUT AND DEFFS NOT HEALED, I AM REALIZING THE LAST TWO WEEKS, AND IF I AM NOT FEELING UP TO A VISIT I SIMPLY! WILL NOT GO! ESPECIALLY WHEN VISITS ONLY MAKE ME FEEL WORSE! GOD!

So I, admittedly, replied like right away--because if I DIDN'T then she'd take the silence as a yes and spin the most UNHINGED DEROGATORY tale to my siblings and Dad I'm sure (dwdw I took screenshots!) and my replies were:

That's two weekends in a ROW and it's a VERY LONG DRIVE I like to pace myself and not go up and down a bunch because it's exhausting! You guys have done the drive too, lol I also don't like going up if I'm not feeling great because everyone gets annoyed that I'm feeling low which is very exhausting 😭😭😭

Some context that I think is important:

It's a 3 hour drive THROUGH Toronto to go see them

(for non Canadians/non-Ontarians/people who DON'T traverse the 400 series [I envy you]: the last 45 minutes sometimes ends up being an hour or 2 more because it's right through Toronto on the 401 which is one of the worst highways in the world ever at all)

I just saw them three weekends ago, AND it was a LONG WEEKEND! I took Monday off to spend some extra time up BECAUSE

I spent all of October SICK and didn't go up ONCE.

I took the GO the day of Thanksgiving bc it was Monday and the husbando was working and I didn't want to go up without him as I'd have to stay at my parent's place and that's a HARD NO.

Her FIRST (1st) REPLY:

"I like the drive it would never stop me from seeing your face"

As if she doesn't complain about the company EVERY DAMN TIME. Anyway, I do the smart thing and don't reply and in the time I don't reply she sends a second reply.

"Not feeling great is an excuse you cannot possibly feel yuk every single day month weekend that's cause for concern my dear daughter and we love you and like to see you"

oh. my. god. oh my GODDDDDD

YEAH IT'S CAUSE FOR CONCERN MA'AM. THAT'S WHY I'M STAYING PUT! TRYING TO DO SELF CARE! YOU CERTAINLY AREN'T HELPING! I HAVE BEEN FEELING PRETTY YUCKY! MENTAL HEALTH ISN'T A FUCKING JOKE! GOD! GOD DAMN! I AM SO INFURIATED BY THIS MESSAGE!

LIKE YEAH, YOU LIKE TO SEE ME BUT I DON'T LIKE TO SEE YOU! AFTER EVERYTHING YOU AND DAD KEEP DOING TO ME AND THEN NOT TALKING ABOUT IT YEAH! YEAH I'M FEELING YUCKY! FUCK! FUCKING EH!!! I AM CONSTANTLY THE AFTERTHOUGHT OR JUST THERE TO BE LIKE, AN ACCESSORY OR THEIR LITTLE THERAPIST AND LIKE NO! NO! FUCK OFF! HOW MANY TIMES MUST I TELL THEM TO FUCK OFF WITHOUT SAYING FUCK OFF????? FUCKKKKKK

ANYWAY I was too angry to eat my lunch and now I'm on the desk trying to process because like, I do want to reply to that but need to be careful about it. Like, the idea is to turn it around on her and be like "damn bitch, you okay?" which is a BIT of a legit question bc this seems really out of left field, my GOD. It's just such a tight line to walk bc if I DON'T reply, she'll use it to fuel her little sob story, and if I DO reply, she'll take it out of context if I don't chose words carefully or keep the chipper/lol u good kind of overtone. It really sucks to have to interact with someone like that and I HATE IT but god DAMN I hate leaving things unresolved even MORE!

Maybe I should be petty and ask for a wellness check? Lololol that'd DEFFS backfire but like fr. what is going on with her. she's acting like I haven't visited in years when like, I was there THREE WEEKS AGO FOR LONGER THAN USUAL!!!! THIS immediately following the shenanigans from last week AND the gag order I'm about 90% sure she put on the siblings and my dad? Yeah. I'm not impressed at all.

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Jfc these people are ANNOYING

MAYBE I'LL COME DOWN does NOT mean I'M COMING DOWN TO VISIT and they will not LEAVE ME ALONE ABOUT IT! AHHH!