#;; exposure matters dont it?

[maxthesillyy]

aro posting, but who (a lot of people) even cares if max and chloe r gonna be canonically dating in double exposure or not. your amatonormativity is showing.

[bunnihearted]

i like actually dont want this blog anymore i've always loved my precious safe space but recently i've started to resent it...... but maybe instead of deleting it i should just log out and dont log in again for a while at least...

[thehattertheory]

Can you imagine being Nate in The Nigerian Job? Very first episode, Elliot casually drops that Everybody Knows about his child dying, and that the insurance company wouldn't cover it.

He didn't tell Maggie until the end of the first season. He was so ashamed he hid from his wife and dove headfirst into a bottle.

[what-even-is-sleep]

Craziest advertising flaw I’ve seen in my life is: it’s impossible to look up “spider catcher” or even “spider catcher for arachnophobes” without EVERY. SINGLE. PRODUCT. having a blown up picture of a spider in it.

[melonpopped]

datv prev game spoilers ig

so are we gonna talk about how none of the choices matter for their poster child cameo character, apparently? like i dont know how the fuck youre gonna slap morrigan in the big trailer of your game and not have ANYTHING that's happened to her previously matter

how she conceived keiran doesnt matter?? if she was ROMANCED doesnt matter?? even if the warden is dead due to the calling??? IF THEY DIED TO THE ARCHDEMON DOESNT MATTER???? if she drank from the well of sorrows doesnt FUCKING MATTER???

like youre shitting me that the only choices that matter are if the inquisitions still standing/who you romanced in inquisition/if you sided with solas it just feels so narrow minded to only make THOSE choices matter when there are so many that directly impact how people would act towards the world that are just getting ignored and shafted. its just so fucking strange to me. its JUST SO WEIRD.

it just kinda sucks that something that bioware was really well liked for is being taken away, since i think a lot of people consider bioware's whole thing being that the choices you make matter and having that taken away to such a degree just feels kinda fucking bad

[hotsugarbyglassanimals]

media literacy is when you declare entire collections of film and tv shows as lacking any depth solely on the basis of its primary audience being kids. clearly

[toastsnaffler]

was gonna say smth else but this turned into a vent sorry everyone just ignore. typical weekend post on this blog u know how it is here we go👍

[chimeragirlpleopods]

sometimes i wonder if in a desperate self imposed race to one another people get into more fucked up stuff in a weird attempt to one up one another on whos the biggest freak of them all, and sometimes ethics get trampled on the way

i'm not sure whats with the desire to put in scale how much of a weirdo you are/are not if it seems you want to be the weirdest of them all, your special club of weird, if it starts seeping harm. it can never be just something you gotta flaunt how absolutely off it is compared to those instead. feeling of belonging, at its extreme, i suppose

[smokeys-house]

Yall have got to learn to ignore polls that are clearly fishing for you to say "what about the obvious answer 9/10 people would choose?" Because if I have to see another poll that equates to an episode of Dora the Explorer im gonna go swiper on your ass and take your internet connection

[psy-ay-ay]

i literally can't ship sasuke with anyone except sakura or naruto.

maaayybe suigestu if i want to think of a fun silly oneshot but that's it (the more i think about it, it becomes more of a fanart than a oneshot lol)

the sasuke in my head can only spare romantic feelings for naruto or sakura, there's no one else for him in the entire fucking world

[istherewifiinhell]

anyway think often of how life changing and load bearing it is to know and even just see things from many cool and swagful disabled ppl on the Internet and just. identifiable ways were im like. hey. irl person... i think ur lacking some. serious. knowing more disabled persons. and like. fuck do i have to be the cool swagful disabled person from the Internet? thats too much pressure.

[http-bee]

not sure what comes next

[marblebees]

Honestly being even Tumblr Famous seems like it fucking sucks…like all of the bullshit and attitudes ppl attach to like youtubers and you dont even get sponsorships 😭😭😭

[bl-inkstone]

actually maybe i should come out and say that my asks are open for brainrots n stuff. requests for full fics aren't open rn bc im not really that confident about my writing, but plot bunnies and brainrots are all welcome!!

[noctomania]

Representation

When people say representation matters, it isn't meant to matter to the audience it is not representing.

I'm prompted by a reminder of the whole Ellen is an asshole thing, and push back from people who want to laud her for being the "first out lesbian on tv" "first out lesbian to play a fictional out lesbian on a tv show". (what even is this accolade? I learned the first out lesbian on national television was Robin Tyler in 1978)

Here is how I see it:

Lesbian representation is not for anyone but lesbians.

Lesbians who grew up around the 90s or prior may not have even known themselves to be queer. But people can spot each other. Do you think lesbians were shocked when Rosie O'Donnell came out? No.

So who is "coming out" for? The individual and - in the case of celebrity - the people outside of the community who are clueless (and they don't care to begin with, otherwise they would not be clueless). But the representation is still there whether or not they come out. Fans knew even if they didn't know they knew. You're still drawn to people because animals have that sixth sense of belonging.

Personally I was far more impacted by Rosie than I was by Ellen.

I'm not trying to pit them against each other. I'm just drawing comparison between them because they were around the same time and two I am familiar with. I wasn't aware of Wanda Sykes until much later but she was around during that time I'm sure someone else could use that comparison if they were a Sykes fan at the time.

Just for me, Rosie made me feel seen and imbued me with confidence as a kid. I saw the "butch" edge that I identified with. And while I am not a lesbian today, I do believe she played a part in the confidence that allowed me to come out as lesbian when I did and even to come out as trans when I did. Confidence in yourself means confidence in All of your self. It means comfort to grow.

It also means you own it and owe nobody else and explanation of why you are the way you are. If you know, you know.

And I just want to leave these snippets here from the respective wikis of O'Donnell and DeGeneres:

"(O'Donnell's) decision to go to San Francisco to marry Carpenter was seen as a show of defiance against then-President George W. Bush over his support for the Federal Marriage Amendment. She said in 2004, "We were both inspired to come here after the sitting President made the vile and hateful comments he made ... [O]ne thought ran through my mind on the plane out here – with Liberty and Social justice for all."[145][146] The couple was married by San Francisco Treasurer Susan Leal, one of the city's highest ranking lesbian officials, and serenaded by the San Francisco Gay Men's Chorus.[145]"

"In response to the criticism, DeGeneres explained her friendship with Bush in a monologue on her show.[119] During the segment, she maintained that she believes personal relationships should transcend political differences and compared her friendship with Bush to her friendships with people who wear fur, a practice she does not condone."

(On an entirely unrelated but still very gey note I had to include this after i read it and cackled out loud: "In the summer of 2000, O'Donnell suffered a staph infection after she accidentally cut the middle finger of her left hand with a knife while cutting a price tag off a fishing pole.[58] The infection incapacitated her for weeks and nearly resulted in doctors amputating her hand.[159] She later quipped that George W. Bush was to blame for the infection, saying that she was preparing to go on a fishing trip at the time to avoid seeing Bush on television during the then-ongoing 2000 Republican National Convention")

[honeytonedhottie]

maintaining/creating a social life⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🧁

ok so i used to have HORRIBLE social anxiety and i think that the contrast between me with social anxiety and me now is INSANE. in a good way ofc. so im not going to talk about how i overcame social anxiety, instead im going to talk about how i created a social life ✨

MAKING FRIENDS ;

the science of making friends is simple and im about to explain it. so go to where there are ppl that u can relate to/want to relate to. example being school, clubs, etc.

next, observe who u want to befriend and make sure to start with a compliment. starting off by introducing urself just makes for an awkward conversation but starting with a compliment puts u and the other party at ease.

something thats rly important is ur CHARISMA and ur magnetic energy so be CHARMING ✨ if u find that the other party is not reciprocating its either they're uncomfy, uninterested, or just a weirdo. and in all cases, you should stop.

MAKING FRIENDS THRU FRIENDS ;

make friends with your friends friends -> make friends with their friends -> and so on and so forth. this is how you network and create a friendly status with lots of people.

if ur in a school setting like i am, make friends with people in ur own grade or in a higher up grade, i dont usually make friends with ppl in lower grades but ofc there are always exceptions.

making friends through friends is how u get invited to parties, have more opportunities be available to you, and ofc network for more connections. guys connections are literally EVERYTHING.

MAKE TIME FOR UR FRIENDS ;

make sure to learn who u call friends. when is their birthday? do they have specific preferences? what kind of music do they listen to? knowing ur friends makes them feel special and thats how u learn to be a good friend. i can make a whole POST about being a good friend cuz i've learned and grown so much with that.

THE POWER OF A COMPLIMENT ;

make it ur mission to give a compliment everyday cuz first off, being nice is HOT so pls be nice and second of all, if ur trying to talk to someone and u start with a compliment i promise that it'll go so much better.

if ur thinking "thats so awkward how will i do that" then the category dont be shy is one that u gotta read cuz girl 💀. if u need an example i'll provide one from my own experience so u can see the power of a compliment.

there was this girl in my spanish class and i always thought that she was so pretty and she seemed so nice. one day we bump into each other in the bathroom and i compliment her hair and makeup, she responds well. we continue to have friendly interactions throughout the rest of the school year and now we are good friends on and off campus.

DONT BE SHY ;

when u make friends please please PLEASE work on ur confidence first. you need to be SURE of yourself. if not, when ur being friendly it could come off as desperation and ppl will humiliate, make fun of and take advantage of u. and thats NOT hot.

be CONFIDENT, you literally have nothing to lose. when u shed ur shyness (thru things like exposure therapy etc) a whole new world is opened up for u bcuz sometimes the only thing holding u back is urself and ur limiting beliefs about urself.

MAKE UR PERSONALITY SHINE ;

make sure that know ur own personality and from knowing that u can find ways in which u can make it shine. no matter what ur personality is though, something that i cannot stress enough is BE NICE.

be friendly and amicable with everyone and stay out of drama and if drama comes to you then stay unbothered 😭. dont try and uproot ur own personality to copy someone else's.