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    Nowadays, many dogs have been abandoned, given up on or tied to a tree in a forest. Some of them have even been thrown out like a trash in the street by their malicious owners. Hopefully, people who work at shelters can see a spark of hope for these unwanted pets; also, they remain resolute in their belief that these animals deserve a second chance. In addition to that, these sensitive people try to encourage us to adoption and give a pet love that it has never experienced. So, do not dismiss the idea of doing that before you have ever thought about it. 

    In the first place, it is imperative to mention that if you decide to take care of one pet, you might help another one. Each year 8 to 12 million dogs, cats, puppies and kittens are euthanized because there are simply not enough homes for them, research shows. What is more, shelters are overpopulated with animals and there is a rigid limit of room, in which they might get better. Having adopted a dog, you can create a room for the one in the street, which has no roof above its head and anyone to trust. It is you that can prevent that number from growing.

    Therefore, you can help stop cruelty in mass breeding facilities. Throughout the world, thousands of dogs are born in mass breeding facilities without proper care and surveillance. Unbelievably, they are treated like machines to provide the founders with money and luxury built on suffering and anguish of innocent creatures. Not only are they without a human companionship, but also without daily light, in addition to which, these dogs are deprived of vitamins important to breed. So hostile are the conditions in which they live that it is even painful to look. Adopting a shelter dog can mean you are against mass breeding and you are willing to change one life. 

    Do not be afraid of adopting a dog from a shelter. These dogs are given good care and are often well-trained, at which point you do not have to deal with a ,,puppy phase’’ and worry of them biting or chewing your new shoes. Despite being raised at a shelter, these dogs are not completely locked up on people or other animals. Moreover, as these pets rise up among other dogs, they become even more amicable and friendly towards others. 

    It is we that can have a positive impact on any aspect of a dog’s life. Undeniably, some people call shelter animals dispensable and unimportant, while they are simply lost and deprived of true love, attention and tenderness. Living in solitude, I would surely become inept, isolated and lonely as they are. If you consider having an animal, please ponder upon the idea of adopting one.

   - In the picture: me and a dog named ,,Cziko’’ a few years ago. My sister, my friend and I took care of him as a foster family for a while.

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“In losing everything, I gained everything back. For the first time in my life, I was free from that terrible fear of loss and, now that I look back, a terrifying lack of will to live.”

— tara love / i was free, but at a cost i paid for with my soul

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,,Don't compare your chapter #1 to someone else's chapter #20.'' Comparison. Surely, you know what comparison is and how it can affect our lives... But even though you know that, you still compare, don't you? 

We precisely know when we equate ourselves to others, watching their success or failure. ,,You are better than I am, because you dealt with that problem better than I did.'' However how ridiculous that sentence might sound, people think in that way. So do I. Having come across a problem, we try to put ourselves in someone's shoes to see how they would solve it. We are so terrified of making mistakes so that is the reason. Nevertheless, it is not healthy for you. Healthy for you, is to go in your own shoes ahead.

I have compared since I remember. That constant feeling of not being enough, when you are so enough. The school, the teachers, the classmates - the rat race. You have to go to the best school, second school, university. You have to pass all your exams and be the best of the bests. You have to wear the most expensive clothes so as to be accepted. Comparison starts mainly at school. We grow up, we see more, we know more and we expect more. We detect what others have and what we do not. We are seeking for money, career and stuff that others do not need to...  But what if you detect what you have? I bet you obtain something, others would kill for. Love, friends, family, wisedom, freedom. Appreciate it.

It is not easy to stop comparing. Few of my friends can do it. If you cannot, that is not the reason to fall apart. Comparing does not have to be degrading. We can notice others’ success and take advantage of it. Work as hard as they did, the success will appear unexpectedly. You will always see the progress of your work, even after a short period of time. But maybe should we be more focused on progress than on success? 

Furthermore, you do not have the same abilities as others. You may be terrible at maths, but your language skills are great! You may be horrible at writing, but you are excellent at speaking. Which is better? None, for you A is better than B, but for me - B is the best. It is not said or proved what is better, what is more valuable... We attach the importance, because we think in such way. 

What did your childhood look like? What family do you have? A functional one or dysfunctional?

Even if you believe it does not matter, it matters. Being raised by grandmother, did you have all your needs fulfilled? Did the role of a parent appear in your life? Or was it played by your grandmother? Probably yes, your grandma did all the best to dress you up well, to prepare a tasty meal for you - to full up your belly. She is a godness. But what did you feel when someone asked about your parents? Did you compare to others who have a real family? Accept your past, and do not let it ruin your future. 

While you were reading my text, did you compare your level of language to mine? I do not really need your answer. Try not to do that. It stops your progress and wastes your time. Go for a walk instead.

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Masking. The idea of wearing masks is as old as a human being can imagine. It is proved that the earliest use of them was for ceremonies, rituals and entertainment about 7000BC. Nowadays, the masks are the part of the culture known to everyone as ,,Halloween". Children, youngsters and even adults wear masks so as to hide their own identity to have fun, kill spare time and the most important - to be someone else. 

Even after thousands of years, people are still wearing masks but not ones used for celebration. Emotional mask, the mask we hide behind lest experience fear, unpleasantness and pain. The reason why people wear such masks is that they are afraid of unveilng their true selves. Who does not want to be respected, admired, liked and loved? We put these masks on in order to create the perfect picture of ourselves in somebody's eyes. Therefore, we create them so as not to be rejected by love, friends and colleagues. There was my friend, whose name is not relevant here. He was always trying to impress everyone around, even people who admired him already. He was changing his self every time he talked to another person. He used to put different masks on his face, starting with funny and ending with the empathic one. Having observed him for a while, I did not recognise the same person I had met a long time ago. 

Behind the masks, we've created illusions as if we ever cared, as if we loved, as if we ever wanted. But why? There is no simple answer. Desire might be one of the possibilities. We can change our behaviour, language and even mind to get what we want. While we meet a new person, we are constatantly focused on positive traits, freatures and pluses forgetting about minuses. However how intelligent our date is, how smart and bright... We can always create one of those masks to have the ideal, perfect and flawless image that will cover our true self behind them.

Never should we pretend to have the same values. Never should we pretend to be someone else when getting along. Never should we lie. Never should you tell anybody you love them after three days of knowing each other. Take the mask off as soon as you can. The sooner you do it, the better for you. It's exhausting to live an inauthentic life. You put on one mask, them put it off, later you put other two at the same time. Tiring... You forget who you are, have been, were.