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My top surgery is scheduled!!! It's about a month out.

I'd love it if any of you who have gone through this would be willing to share any tips or helpful tidbits about it.

What did you do to mentally prepare? How did you get ready for recovery? Pain and scar tissue management tips? How did it feel for you emotionally/mentally once the procedure was done? Did you document your progress at all?

I look forward to any answers I might get! Those of you who would like to share but not do so publicly, feel free to send me an anon ask or a direct message.

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one time a stranger on neopets years ago told me “school makes you think you have to be good at everything but sometimes it’s ok to just be good at one thing. even if it’s not something you get a grade for. they don’t grade you for being a good person” and tbh i still think about it little did i know all i needed this whole time was in glowing purple text and that icon of the goth fairy

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Are you trying to figure out if you're trans, but don't know how to explore your gender??

If so, then I empathize with you, my friends. This can be a very confusing, frustrating, and uncertain time. Sometimes I wished someone could just give me a test and tell me if I'm trans. But alas, no one can tell you who you are. And that's the scary but beautiful, wonderful thing about exploring your identity. If you need a place to start, I've compiled some resources that might help you find your center.

Here's a YouTube channel by Dr. Z, a licensed gender therapist that gives awesome advice on gender exploration, coping with dysphoria, and more!

Here's another website called TransHub that also helps people explore questions about gender as well as great resources for allies;

https://www.transhub.org.au/am-i-trans-enough

And here's a transgender and non-binary support blog here on Tumblr that I absolutely love: http://transgenderteensurvivalguide.tumblr.com

Best wishes, and I hope these help! My inbox is always open if anyone has questions, as well.

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Some day I’m gonna talk about how the lgbt community online has created a whole new binary that is “cis or trans” by defining cis as something so specific that isn’t just “identifies as their agab” and trans as “everyone else” and how much damage that does to intersex people who are not trans who have to deal with the repercussions of that all but. I have said A Lot already

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Here's some stretches that are very helpful for chest and shoulder tightness due to binding! Stretching can help reduce your chance of getting a binding-related injury (That is NOT to be used to negate the effects of binding too tight, too long, or while sleeping). These are also helpful to do daily for a couple months or so before top surgery so that you don't lose too much mobility during your recovery period.

Hold each stretch for 15-30 seconds and repeat 3-5 times. Don't try to force yourself into a deeper stretch than you can tolerate! It can result in injury. As always, try your best to maintain healthy binding habits! Don't bind with ace bandages or tape, don't bind too tight as to cause pain, avoid binding for more than 8 hours at a time, take breaks, don't bind while sleeping, and make sure you use a safe binder such as an appropriately sized commercial binder, sports bras, or layered camisoles.

Stay safe and take care of yourselves!

💙💗🤍💗💙

https://www.acefitness.org/education-and-resources/lifestyle/blog/5657/5-chest-stretch-variations/

https://www.wikihow.fitness/Perform-Chest-Stretches

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Moments/things that made me realize I'm nonbinary/transmasc:

I got a binder out of curiosity to explore my gender and the second I saw myself in the mirror with it on, I got stupid happy and felt a sense of confidence I had never felt about my appearance before, despite not yet having recognized that I had felt dysphoria for a long time

This confidence intensified the first time I wore all men's clothes, especially with a binder on

Wearing boxers also helped. I did, however, figure out I'm not a man when I tried packing and wanted to laugh because it felt weird to me

Realizing how VICIOUSLY uncomfortable shopping for bras and hearing people comment on the size of my breasts (even when it was non-sexual in nature) had always made me feel

The first time my girlfriend called me handsome

The first time I got called he/him after asking for a pronoun change to try it out (tbh it's still a pleasant surprise when I'm called by he/him pronouns)

Absolutely LOVING how it felt/looked to have my hair super short for the first time, and how anxious I get the second I realize it's starting to grow a bit longer

Playing as men/masculine characters in videogames all growing up

That weird disappointment I felt whenever someone reminded me I was a girl

That's just some of the things that confirmed my gender identity for me. What are some for all of you peoples?

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I wonder if people who get caught up in pushing for "more legal consequences" for people with "fake service dogs" know they're being tricked into chipping away at the ADA

The ADA is written like that on purpose. Our disabled activist elders were not stupid. They knew that the extremely lax rules might be easy to exploit and they made it that way anyway because they would rather have people exploit them than have ANY DISABLED PERSON be gatekept out of exercising their legal rights by being forced to jump thru hoops.

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lowering the social stigma of gender nonconformity also lowers the threshold of how bad people have to be suffering before they’re willing to discuss their feelings openly. I guarantee you that a TON of humans who felt vaguely alienated by/uncomfortable with their assigned gender have lived and died within a cisgender identity framework, because the enormous social cost of being honest just wasn’t worth it if they weren’t miserable. that was a bad thing!

letting people weigh their options for themselves without putting a thumb on the scale is freeing. so of course we’ve started hearing people discuss wildly unusual ways of experiencing gender. it does not matter whether the teenagers who made up the goofy-sounding new gender term you’re annoyed about end up being capital-T trans or not. it just matters that they feel safe talking about it, because everyone benefits from that. you cannot lower one threshold without lowering the other. this is a feature, not a bug. this is a good thing!

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PSA

theres a new product by verzion called “hum” that allows your parents to track your car and places you go, if your parents are controlling like mine please check under your steering wheel to make sure that they havent installed this

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I suppose I should introduce myself and this blog!

My name is Ray, and I'm bisexual and non-binary (he/him/they/them). I've been out as bisexual since I was 14, and I didn't accept myself come out as non-binary until this year at the age of 21.

This blog is for myself and people of all identities (pedophiles excluded) to share the moments that made them realize they are who they are! This is a safe space to talk about those moments and the issues and obstacles we've all faced internally and externally on our journeys. I love hearing about other people's experiences, so feel free to submit a post, an ask, or message me directly!

To be clear, TERFs, transmeds/truscum, and pedophiles/MAP's will not be tolerated here, and followers are encouraged to block them should they give you trouble. No one has to share any information they don't feel comfortable sharing, so please do not ask people for personal info and respect their boundaries if they say they aren't comfortable talking about it. By the same measure, asking/demanding others to change the way they present or identify is not okay either.

Please tag your posts properly if they contain common triggers. As a reminder, tagging only works effectively if it is the first thing mentioned. For example, if I wanted to tag for trigger warnings about flowers, I would tag as "flowers tw" not "tw flowers" and preferably the warning is put a line above the start of the actual post so people can scroll past without reading through.