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wait guys its december no no no my brain is still comprehending the end of october 

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CAS IS ACTUALLY IN THE TRUNK AND NOT IN SUPER HELL, JUST OPEN THE TRUNK DEAN YOU ASS

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Actually no! Children didn’t consent to being made, and they don’t owe parents anything. Teaching kids to “respect” their parents is gaslighting and teaches kids to idolize the people who violated them by forcing them to exist. Whereas parents actually owe their kids EVERYTHING. And also shouldn’t have forced existence on them, because consent actually matters.

Revolutionary parenting hack:

If your child is in the middle of some activity and clearly enjoying it (and wasn't supposed to be doing something else instead), DO NOT interrupt them and have them do chores that will "only take 5 minutes or so!"

You haven't asked them to do anything before they got out the Legos, started reading a chapter of their book or painting the complicated picture, or began playing their video game.

As a result of being repeatedly interrupted, they will learn that their presence in public space of the household=availability to do chores, so they will make themselves scarce so you can't find them and order them around. They will also become suspicious of your efforts to engage with them as they play, as they've learned that these pleasantries are a prelude to "Take out the trash", or "move your boots and vacuum the entryway, there's dirt everywhere ".

"But I need my children to help me around the house!", I hear you cry. I understand. Children should not be treated like royalty and left to their own devices 24/7.

An alternative is to give the kids a clearly delineated chore chart and stick to it, resisting the urge to add anything to it. There are some chores that are easier and quicker with two people, though. A (in my opinion) even better option is to divide the child's day into "on-duty" and "off-duty " time. When they're on-duty, you can interrupt them as before, but you have *consulted with your child beforehand * and they understand that during this time they can relax, but they must be ready to jump in and lend a hand.

That way they won't start trying to level up in their video game or break out the clay and make stuff. When they are off-duty, you leave them alone and their only responsibilities are to clean up whatever mess they make at the end of this time.

Also, if they are tearing around the house or whining about being bored, don't make them do chores so they will "have something to do"; this could make the child conflate extra chores with punishment for whining and make them reluctant to help out when you randomly tell them to at other times because they might think they're being punished but they have NO IDEA WHAT THEY DID. And IMO children should see chores as things everyone has to do no matter what, not punishments.

I may seem unqualified to offer parenting advice as I have no kids, but I was talking with my dad today and he said: "I wish you didn't hide from us in your room so much, but every time your mom walked by she'd give you a chore to do, so I can't blame you for that." A kid who hides in their room to play has an entirely different relationship to the family than the child who sprawls on the livingroom floor and excitedly describes the city they are building out of Legos.

And today, in times of Covid I play a complicated game of hide-and-seek with my mother as I try to do my online coding homework and apply for jobs. I am now attempting to turn my bedroom into my own tiny office because if I work in our home office, she'll find me and go "I can't attach this file to my email," and so on.

Children *have* to obey their parents when they are young. But true respect and honoring collective responsibilities is stronger than forced obedience. If you demonstrate to your children that you respect them and their time, they will reciprocate.

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Here have some of the most popular reactions to “Destiel going canon” :

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#married

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Supernatural (2005 -2020) 327 Episodes Sam and Dean Winchester will forever be part of us ♥

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idk what you guys are on about I loved the finale especially the part where cas and eileen came back and there weren’t even any rusty nails that was great

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@ everyone who called him homophobic for not liking the ending

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Alright. They didn't even have to show Cas. Or hear his voice.

Yeah I even get all this stuff about "it just had to be the two brothers yada yada" or the problem with Covid and flying everyone in.

But!!

At the very LEAST!!

It easily could have been like that:

Bobby: Cas helped as well, you know.

Dean: where is that son of a bitch anyway??

Bobby: *over there* *he stops by every few days* anything like that!

Dean: good. He and I really need to talk. We haven't had he time when we were still alive..

There!! I did it!!! Not even talking about feelings in general, but a promise that they will at least DO it!!

Was it really that hard??????

I never wrote a FRICKIN thing in my life and English isn't even my first language but I dare say that this would have been a hell of a lot more satisfying than what... this crap is.

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THEY REALLY FUCKING MANIPULATED AND GASLIT HIM INTO THINKING THAT SHITTY ASS FINALE WAS GOOD. “YOU’RE TOO CLOSE TO THIS”???!!!!! CLASSIC GASLIGHTING

THERE’S A REASON IT DIDN’T SIT RIGHT WITH HIM HE’S BEEN PLAYING THIS CHARACTER FOR 15 FUCKING YEARS

NO ONE LISTENED TO HIM HUH

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Berens: hey did you get my notes on the Dean and Cas sex scene?

Dabb:

Dabb: what?

Berens: yeah I said I wanted Dean to get nailed

Dabb:

Dabb: to get nailed

Berens:

Berens: yeah. nailed

Dabb: nailed

Berens: ....nailed

Dabb: .............nailed

Berens, choked up: ......nailed

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Thinking about how excited Jensen was about the love confession, how Misha wrote an essay about it and what queer Cas meant to him, how Jensen downright told us that Dean not reciprocating in the script didn't mean he didn't feel he same way, and how when it came to the finale, Jensen tried and literally went against a whole room of writers to fix it, and was told he couldn't see it right because he was too close to it. Mad respect for these men right now.

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Jensen HATED this ending. He hated that Cas wasn't there because he knew Cas was important to us fans and to Dean and the story line. He hated that the whole family dont end with blood thing very much ended in blood. Jensen Ackles is smart and has taste. And yall thought he hated the finale because there would be destiel. Nah fam he hated it because there wasn't any. Apologize to him at once.

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Thinking about how dean could’ve pulled cas from turbo hell and it would’ve been the ultimate parallel but no they had dean die of tetanus in a barn because of vampire juggalos and Sam in a party city wig

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why is this THE FUNNIEST THING I COULDVE PULLED UP AFTER THE FINALE

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fully convinced the CW writers went back in time and killed Jenny

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idk what you guys are on about I loved the finale especially the part where cas and eileen came back and there weren’t even any rusty nails that was great