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This can be a solution to insulation and weatherproofing challenges

Source: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTF2JYRGH/

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"The problem with trying to be historically accurate, is that history doesn't care"

So much of the time we think of historical cultures as being very uniform, but people have always been weird, and our expectations of past behaviour don't always match the reality!

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My bisexual-ass: I go both ways

Narrator: she in fact went nowhere. She didn't like to leave the house

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In an egregious oversight, the Citizen button should read Citizen / Comrade.

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just the fact that we have the concept of “conventionally attractive with no sex appeal” should tell you that there are two very different definitions of “attraction” being conflated culturally

like beauty standards or things which are called “traditionally”/“conventionally” attractive are not actually predictive of what aspects of bodies real people find sexually arousing and pleasurable to touch and look at, they are status symbols. but because sexuality is a huge part of how we allocate social and economic value, everyone is expected to perform attraction to beauty standards and publicly disavow attraction to whatever is currently deemed “ugly.” the fact of this standard being cultivated and incentivized and policed, using countless resources to do so, indicates how artificial this performance of “attraction” really is.

It’s just such an open secret how much of a farce it is. I’m sure this widespread attraction-theater is probably extremely confusing to asexual people— it’s easy to assume that everyone is faking it when that’s kinda true on this level. It’s just that for most people there is also a real experience of attraction too that is being hidden or shoved into these narrow “acceptable” channels.

It’s not like some politically correct truism or empty validation to say that there is no such thing as “objectively attractive”— there just definitionally isn’t anything objective about attraction (as much as everyone pretends otherwise).

Attraction is an experience. It’s impossible for it to be objective and universal. it’s like saying a food is objectively delicious or a rainy day is objectively sad. Experiences are definitionally subjective, whether they are common or uncommon.

It’s so frustrating to me how we are all made to feel as if we are physically disgusting or unloveable if we don’t match up to an extremely specific (and largely economically determined) set of physical characteristics that we all kind of know privately don’t match up neatly to anyone’s personal experiences of actual attraction.

it’s made up and it benefits none of us— and yet when anyone says this so many people act like it’s just like politely humoring the abstract value of people outside of that narrow collection of traits. and it’s like no! This is not about lying to people that traits that are devalued are actually not devalued at all (they are, and the mechanisms by which they are need to be understood and dismantled). This is about decoupling the actual somatic experience of attraction from the system of valuing and devaluing bodies that hides itself via pretending to be “objectively” describing attraction.

I’m tired of pretending a conversation is on attraction when it’s about power, you know? people with stigmatized traits are attractive to many people and that doesn’t translate into reduced suffering.

The mechanism of power is not attraction—we need to stop going along with this misdirection.

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watching Seven Samurai

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if you befriend enough weirdos you can get lectures for free

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This was tagged as butch bait, so I presume this is a jest post and I decided not to reblog directly from the original poster because of this. However butches and gender nonconforming women almost NEVER get shown as old in media, and our beautiful middle aged (and older!) butches never get to the public eye!

There is a future for butch and gnc women. We can grow old and be ourselves, without changing a thing. So I present to you pictures of older butch and gnc women!

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i seriously cannot comprehend the sex drive that makes one exclusively horny for captain america looking movie hunks or the victorias secret angel archetype of tall underweight women with generically pretty faces in bikinis. that shit is like carbon monoxide or infrasonic noise to my libido like my sexual senses cant even clock it

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“tumblr” “grindr” do the gays not like the letter e for some reason

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my message 2 the world

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i got the surgery that makes me into a bunch of semitransparent disembodied hands. now i have a productive job feeling up men for photoshoots in furry commissions