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will i ever feel fulfilled? yes. i have felt fulfilled before. i will feel fulfilled again. will i ever be content? yes. i have been content before. i will be content again. will i ever be happy? ecstatic? overcome with joy? will i ever feel surrounded by love? supported? encouraged? will i ever feel proud? will i ever feel hopeful? will i ever feel confident in myself? will i ever feel optimistic about my future? yes. yes. yes. yes. yes. yes. yes. yes. yes. yes. yes. my present is not my eternity.

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It’s OK to believe in life after love. Cher if u agree

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I feel like almost all of the guys who’ve had an unreciprocated thing for me developed it because I listened to them and was emotionally supportive, etc., but they themselves never thought to do the same for me. Which ended up with this weird situation where I knew them super well but they literally had zero idea about who I was as a person other than “listens really well and is emotionally supportive.”

Like, they didn’t know the first thing about what was important to me, my beliefs, my family, my work, how I spent my time when I wasn’t with them. Because not a single one of them wanted  to know. They would just… never ask, or they’d ask politely and when I started to answer they’d show extreme disinterest and change the subject back to themselves.

But they still thought they loved me, because to them that’s all love is - being emotionally supported by someone. It did not even occur to them that the support could ever go both ways, and they were always bewildered about why I never loved them “back” - even though all they gave me to love was a person so self-obsessed that he couldn’t see me at all.

Emotional labour is so, so important to be aware of in relationships. It has to have some kind of balance, or the person performing it will just burn out. And a relationship consisting only of one person demanding and demanding and never giving back is not love. Love is not a demand. It can accept, and it can ask, but love listens, love cares about how its requests affect the beloved. Love wants to give back.

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‘A Very English Tea Shed’ via gardenista

☼ coziest blog on tumblr ☼

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Biutifull art

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I just woke up and the clouds have made their own sea outside of my window and the sky is so close to me it’s like she’s asking me for a kiss. I can hear the sounds of the birds singing rising up from right underneath the belly of the clouds and they sound so happy to be awake it’s like the whole world is sitting here with me right now. I’m gonna remember this morning for the rest of my life.

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All my relationships, family, friends and my lover have taught me so many things, brought out inner happiness. but nothing has taught me as much as loving someone romantically. How can I let go while staying together? How can I can accept that this person may go one day? It is so hard for me. I want to rid myself of this "attachment"

What you’re feeling is a natural human tendency of worries, and trust me I have my share of them lol. We love to bond, and love to love. But the best way to approach this is by embracing the present moment, and what you have (now) with that special person without expectations. The humanism in us makes it so easy to get caught up in possibilities, but you must soulfully embrace who they are now, cherish the love/support they give you now, observe how they are making you feel and treating you now, make sure you both are on the same page now, and the rest will flow. 

I’m typically a slow mover when it comes to romantic relationships. I love creating a solid friendship first, but sometimes life/love just happens. We can’t control it all, and letting go is our only option. (Easier said than done, I know.)

I highly recommend reading the article below. 

Let The Love Flow: Practicing Non-Attachment In Our Relationships

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Our brains are pretty good at filling in the blanks when it comes to our sense of perception - often to the point we have a mental movie of an entire event before it even finishes unfolding.

New research has shown this ‘mind’s eye’ prediction of future motion occurs at a higher speed than in reality - a trait we could have evolved to compensate for our relatively sluggish sense of vision.

Continue Reading.

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A relationship should not be measured in months or years. It’s the calibre of the memories that matter. Their impact, their permanence, and the degree to which they change you. I’ve had relationships lasting years I can now scarcely recollect, and hours with others that feel like infinities.

Beau Taplin • T h e  M e a s u r e m e n t (via afadthatlastsforever)

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shoutout to big thighs