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I do feel like Anya needs a partner. Both loid and yor have their superiors and more who know their secret professions and can help them when needed but Anya only has Bond atm. Perhaps Damian won't catch on or believe immediately in the next few chapters but it will be sooner than later. Maybe during a hardship or something far sillier than that will he take his chance on what she told him and will try to work with her via her psychic abilities.

She has been doing fine by herself so far but she is still so young! She needs someone to work with, to trust in and who makes a better partner than someone as levelheaded and as justice seeking as him! We know poor Damian also needs someone he can be vulnerable around too. They can both be what the other needs during difficult times. And who knows, maybe we'll be able to see Anya hone/ better control her abilities with his help!

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Damian Desmond: An Attachment Perspective

**Spoilers for SxF Chapter 106 Below**

I loved this chapter for so many reasons, but the one I really want to highlight today is that Damian may be insecurely attached, but he still has hope. And that he is so brave, in his own way.

Exhibit A: When Damian knocks on Demetrius' door and asks for help, I am 100% positive that Damian wasn't truly expecting a response from Demetrius. He's used to being ignored, especially by his own family.

But he tried anyway.

This is important, because most children of Damian's age who fall under the category of avoidant attachment wouldn't approach a situation like this where there is a possibility that they would be rejected. It speaks volumes to me that Damian has a sense that he would be turned away, but still he tries.

"I was hoping..."

Exhibit B: There is also this moment where we see that Damian wanted to say something, and then he silences himself before he can say anything.

(Don't cry, Lass, omg dont cry 😭😭😭 )

Damian is initially afraid, so he silences himself, but then there is this moment, where he pulls himself together, and tries again.

Endo is so brilliant at drawing out moments of important decisions for characters. You can see Damian making the decision to say something, and gather his courage, but he only falls short once he actually succeeds at getting Donovan's attention.

Under the heavy gaze of the head of the Desmond dynasty, I'm not surprised that 6-year old Damian felt his resolve crumble.

But!

He reverts to another option: find support. Which leads me to...

Exhibit C: This one makes me sob, actually. In response to his wavering confidence, Damian looks to his mother for support. The woman who should be his primary caregiver, and therefore his primary attachment figure.

And she turns away.

(Tears, tears down my face, my boy doesn't deserve this 😭 )

This is the third moment in this chapter alone that Damian does something that no other Desmond would dare: he seeks connection.

Damian tried to connect with his brother, his father, and his mother, all in the same chapter. He is the sole character that links them all.

All through Chapter 106, these are the moments that stood out to me the most, because it truly shows to me that Damian still has hope. Demetrius and Melinda are very clearly ingrained in their roles, and their behaviour is crystallised into what we see as the reader. It's obvious that this isn't the first time that Demetrius has rebuffed Damian's requests; and this isn't the first time that Melinda has ignored Damian's emotional needs.

I hear you wondering: Does Damian still have hope because he's still just a child?

Maybe. It's certainly possible. But I also want to highlight that Damian is insecurely attached; specifically showing an insecure-avoidant attachment style.

Children with this style of attachment typically experience high levels of emotional neglect, where their primary caregiver consistently does not meet their emotional needs. This leads the child to value independence, autonomy, and self-reliance, and to generally see others as untrustworthy.

We see this in Damian. He believes he is better, usually weaponising the Desmond name to place himself above others, but there is also an element where he believes he is better, because he ranks highly in the social hierarchy, and he achieves brilliant grades on his own merit, demonstrating his own self-reliance.

(Side note: Issues stemming from an avoidant attachment style can still coexist with self-esteem issues, but I'm trying not to complicate this post lol).

My point: Damian has experienced enough rejection in his childhood that he shouldn't even be trying with his own family anymore. But he does. He keeps trying. Damian still hopes that he can connect with his family, and I think that this is because this is a part of his actual personality.

On the inside, Damian is complex; he struggles with the weight of his identity, he is trying to find his place in the world, he yearns for attention and validation (specifically from his father), he finds comfort in believing that he is better than other people (even his friends), he struggles to handle big emotions, he prefers to work things through independently, and struggles to be vulnerable and ask for help, and he lies to himself about his big feelings so that he can avoid feeling them.

And my favourite thing about him: he still keeps trying. He gathers his courage. He gets back up. Time and time again he feels afraid, and time and time again he feels the fear and he tries anyway.

Damian is so brave, in his own way.

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“My wish upon a star”

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Endo-sensei’s illustration for ch106 (source).

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Keep yo hands offa my woman!!

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Damianya Week Day 7: soulmates

no matter what setting, au or otherwise, Damian and Anya will always be soul mates ⭐⭐

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Damianya Week Day 5: imperial scholars

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Damianya Week Day 3: rival kingdoms AU (and monsters AU)

okay...it may be a little different than you'd expect but in my head rival kingdoms AU look like this Anya is a Chimera and Damian is a Gryphon. As much as they look like each other their families are feuding, but they fall in love and refuse to have a war between the kingdoms I really enjoy drawing monster AU, and I'd like to do it more often in the future, but it will all depend on your reaction of course :,D

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Damianya Week Day 2: office AU

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yaay damianyaweek 🎉 Day 1: prom

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summer day

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Some of the movie's best Anya faces 💀

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OK AND LAST ONE! ON TIME THIS TIME!!

Day 7: Soulmates

went for a soulmate mark au cause every other idea i had would've worked better written than drawn LSDFLKSFD i think it could be better but im happy nonetheless!!

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and now for the one that's actually today's prompt,

Day 6: War

this one's just my old roleswap au! they suffer 😔

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this one's just a classic

Day 5: Imperial Scholars

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this one was literally the first one i finished lmao and i had sm fun

Day 4: Jealousy

also i NEEEEEED to use these cute bgs more i MUST it is a NEED

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i had a way cuter idea for this (i was thinking of smth along the lines of "this is my idea" from swan princess cause that entire song is literally them i swear) but i couldn't get the composition right in a short enough time so i went with this instead!!

Day 3: Rival Kingdoms AU